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He sia dsomething like don't you think 7 years is long enough?

Now I let it go and never really brought it up again, so just to see if he was serious, I asked him last night:
If we were to plan a wedding and get married in 6 monthes are you sure? and he said yes.

But I don't have a engagment ring or anything, and I have tried hinting that to him.

Um soo umm, I dont want to get married in 6 months but I do want to marry him.

But I would like to be happy engaged for a while soo umm, should I worry about about a ring?

2007-08-06 03:25:50 · 14 answers · asked by baby_rost 3 in Family & Relationships Weddings

14 answers

Sounds like you need a good talk, you and he. Perhaps the ring will have to wait until such a time as finances are a bit better. Or maybe you two need to discuss what and when this ceremony will take place and start making preparations for it. A ring isn't everything and will come along eventually. I realize the importance of these items as females love to show them off to their peers and family. But if you are indeed certain that this is the man who you want to spend eternity with then TALK. Communication is number one in any relationship pre and post marriage. Best of luck.

2007-08-06 03:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1 0

You two need to sit down and have a good heart-to-heart discussion about what you want. First, verbally agree that you do in fact want to get married. If you both want to get married, then start talking about when and where. Your 6 months suggestion was just that - a suggestion. It's not binding; it's a conversation-starter. Go from there. But make time to talk about it. If you need to, plan a date or an outing just for discussing these things. Also, set goals for yourselves regarding when you want to make certain decisions.

As far as the ring: it's just a ring. Sure it's a symbol of a committment, but it's not the committment. I became engaged in a similar way: no formal proposal, just a discussion about what we want for our relationship. I don't have a ring yet, and it's just not a big deal to me. We're planning our wedding, so we're clearly engaged!

2007-08-06 06:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by SE 5 · 0 0

You should explain this to your boyfriend. If you have already been together for 7 years then why the need for a long engagement. As long as you have an engagement ring for your finger it does not matter how long it has been on there before you get married. You should do it before you hit the 10 year mark and become common law married.

2007-08-06 03:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You should talk to him about. Especially if he is good with the idea. No need to hint anymore. Say something like......hey I was thinking, 6 months isnt really long enough to get the wedding planned right and save enough money for it and the honeymoon....how bout we worry about picking out the ring first and then lets start planning and figure out a time table based on how much time everything looks like it will take.

2007-08-06 03:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by stardawned 3 · 1 0

Well, I don’t think you should be too focused on material things, but then again, is he able to support you when you are pregnant and raising babies at home? If he can’t afford a ring, that is a legitimate consideration (sorry guys but that’s the facts). If he can afford it and is too lazy or cheap to do it, then you could have a problem. I don’t put such a high value on a ring, but it is a symbol of his love for you. If he doesn’t have a lot of money he should look for a ring he can afford and you should be proud to wear it. After all, you’re marrying him, not the ring.

Note to guys: A woman just needs you to show her you love her. The price is up to you. You can do it with a $2 card or a $20 ring. But don’t be cheaper than you have to be or she’ll sense she’s not worth much to you. She needs to know you want her and are willing to work for her to the best of your ability. If you can’t afford much she will appreciate what you can do, if she’s the right woman for you.

2007-08-06 03:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by motorcyclegrandmama 3 · 1 0

You don't have to have a ring to be engaged. I actually know several people who don't have rings period and are engaged. If you are not wanting to get married so soon, just tell him. I'm sure if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you he won't mind waiting a few more months so that you are comfortable. And, if you want a ring, tell him. Trust me... guys don't understand hints. They pretty much understand what you tell them, so if you're engaged and no ring, he probably thinks your fine with it. Also, maybe you could get a nicer wedding band if you don't have a wedding band AND engagement ring. Just some things to think about.

2007-08-06 03:35:41 · answer #6 · answered by Amy C 3 · 0 0

Well, he didnt actually propose with or without a ring, he just asked if you would be interested in marriage with him. Give it some time, he may have a plan that he set in motion after you said that you would like to be married and it may take a while to execute.

Its probably coming soon, but be patient and wait for it.

2007-08-06 03:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0 0

COMMUNICATION is key. Talk to him and yes 6 months is too short of a time to get married. Talk to him and explain that a ring is needed for this deed and 7 years is more than enough to know if you are the one. Good luck...

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2016-10-14 03:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by ammon 4 · 0 0

The dude just seems clueless! Tell him the facts and get it straight between you two. Say that you can't wait to get married but you would like to have time to plan an amazing wedding!

2007-08-06 03:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by SmileLaughGiggle 3 · 2 0

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