Guys please help me. My relationship with my current bf is to me going down the tubes. He has done things throughout our relationship which really hurt me etc. however whenever i get enough bottle to leave, i always crumble at the last minute and end up staying.
i know that for my own health i have to get out of this relationship as its making me ill with the things he is doing. he doesnt spare a thought for me, and on many occassions he says he doesnt care so why do i find it so hard to make that final jump and leave for good? he doesnt work, doesnt look for work, and would rather try and con money out of people. its making me ill and so confused i dont know what to do. right now im thinking that when i leave work, im going straight home, grab a few things and then go to my mums, but im scared that by the time work finishes, i will have relented and changed my mind. then i start to feel bad that i've left him with no money. i then feel guilty. help!!!
2007-08-06 03:20:05 · 16 answers · asked by nc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only reason that you find it so hard to leave him is because you put your all into that relationship and you care about him but i know that it's going to be hard but you have to muster all the strength you have and tell him you're leaving. It's the right thing to do,if you stay you will become more hurt than ever. You have to do this for you..........Don't feel sorry for him,he hurt you and ill treated you and trust me you deserve better!
2007-08-06 03:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Crazilicous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he makes the choice not to work then being broke is one of the consequences of that choice. Leaving is emotional but if this relationship is negatively affecting your health then you should have left a long time ago. You might try listening to some music that makes you feel strong before going to him and telling his it is over or try having a friend who knows your situation go with you for support. I wish you all the best; take care of yourself.
2007-08-06 03:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by Done Cryin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doing the same thing over and over again the same way expecting a different result is the definition of insanity. You are not insane or are you, you deserve to be treated with care and respect, this guy does not know those words exist.You know what to do, just DO IT and move on.Its your emotions that are affected by this relationship and you should protect them.He is responsible for his own income or lack off. Smile, you can do this................
2007-08-06 03:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is always easier if you convince them it is best for them, kind of diss on yourself a bit so they think you are doing it for them which you truly are as you don't want to be there, but say, You are such a good person and have many talents etc and then say, but we aren't right for each other or I'm not really comfortable in this relationship I think we could both find people we are better suited for, especially you :)
2007-08-06 03:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by I Love Jesus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of i will understand what your dealing with. My dad moved out whilst i replaced into 3 and an outstanding style of time i'd attempt to be certain him and he by no ability incredibly got here visiting he made excuses that made me sense egocentric for asking to be certain him. I replaced in the same way yet partially i think of that variety of exchange is specific to take place to the main human beings. My older sister additionally many times manipulates my emotions. I desire I had some solid advice yet i'm afraid I nonetheless conflict with those issues, it could help to close him out and permit him ask you (if he will its no longer garenteed)
2016-10-14 03:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by ammon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not the only guy who finds you beautiful. A lot of guys out there and lm sure they are not like your current bf. Juz leave him and make a life away from him and another man will surely come to you. The faster you say goodbye, the lesser pain it may cause
2007-08-06 03:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not his babysitter - you are his girlfriend - not that it sounds like he treats you like he should.
Guys like this are leeches - and unless you want him to suck you dry you need to find the courage to leave. You will feel so relieved when you do - u just have to find that extra bit of courage. Am sure your family and friends will be support you all the way. Guilt is not a reason to stay in a destructive relationship!
Good luck
2007-08-06 03:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep reminding yourself of the negative things that your boyfriend always does. perhaps you should think about how happy you will be afterwards, and that you will not have such a heavy burden after he is gone. it sounds as if you care enough to maintain a good job, as well as stick by somebody who doesn't have such good morals. in the long run, i'm sure you will find someone else, more deserving of you.
good luck!
2007-08-06 03:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by sunkissed. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are letting your emotion rule over your head too much. Your boyfriend is exploiting your feelings but you are not helping yourself. You can stop the exploitation by going away. You will see that he can survive even when you are not around.
2007-08-06 03:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on hun, you gotta be worth more than this, if your relationship is in question then why is you still hanging around, dump the tosser and move on, you can do it!!
Have you asked your mother what she thinks? mother usually knows best. well mine does most of the time xx
2007-08-06 03:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by juliewylie29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋