i had a one night thing with an ex girlfriend after my current girlfriend broke up with me. she told me i was free to do whatever i wanted and that we were done. now she is devistated and is saying i cheated even though we were broke up. i do want to get back with her and i know i screwed up by having meaningless sex. now what do i do
2007-08-06 03:14:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
destructor you hit the nail right on the head it my situation is very similar to yours. i just feel horrible that i made her feel this bad.
2007-08-06 03:48:45 · update #1
we only broke up about a week ago but it has been quite rocky for over a month we were living toghter and no longer are.
2007-08-06 07:54:34 · update #2
Hey, you were already broken up and you were free to do whatever you please. You shouldn't feel bad about what you did. If she's upset then that's her problem.
2007-08-06 03:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Gunner For Life! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you guys were officially broke up. When your just out of a relationship, sometimes we just have meaningless sex... it's a silly thing to do if we intend on getting back with our girlfriends or boyfriends but it happens! Simple mistake. She has no right to say you cheated... as you were single. Assure her that you dont want your ex girlfriend back, tell her how it is, if you want her - tell her. Explain to her. Dont be branded as a cheater though - if she's going to hold this against you move on and look elsewhere. You did not cheat.
2007-08-06 03:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been through that dude, all you did was hurt her feelings real bad, you didn't tech. do anytign wrong, but emotionally it tripped her up, well in my experience it happened within the first week and half of the break up, but I hadn't done anything wrong in the relationship as far as cheating goes, and I never had a girl in my sights to get it on with, it just happened, and she felt really hurt, you gotta roll with the punches my friend, don't be so hard on yourself though, it might have hurt her, but if you love her and vice versa it will work out, this is not one of those things she can hold over your head forever either, at some point she will have to get over the fact you did this while the two of you were broken up.
2007-08-06 03:24:16 · answer #3 · answered by Destructor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously she is upset that you two broke up and probably feels that since you could just go out and sleep with another woman that you didn't care about her and could get over her easily. But you did nothing wrong (well except for the meaningless sex). You had every right to go out and sleep with another woman, especialy since your girl told you that you were free to do whatever you wanted. But since you want to get back together with her, let her know that the only reason you went and slept with another woman was to try to get rid of the pain from the breakup but that it didn't mean anything and that you still miss her and love her. Deffinitely bring her flowers when you tell her this and get down on your knees and tell her that she means the world to you and that you would love to get back together with her. If you do that, she will melt in your hands and I think you two will end up back together. She obviously misses you and wants you back.
2007-08-06 03:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe sex meant a lot to your ex... I do not think you did anything wrong but obviously your ex hasn't gotten over you. As long as you don't still have feelings for your ex, move on with your life. She told you to move on with your life before you even did anything. Seeing as you do still have feelings with her and she does too... try to work things out and if she really loves you she will give you another chance... she is lucky that you still like her after she broke up with you. Tell your ex the sex was totally meaningless and that you didn't know that she still had feelings for you... The "meaningless sex" was just a way to get over her but it didn't seem to work... tell her.
2007-08-06 03:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by bdominio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless ya, I do sympathise, but re assure her that you really thought it was over and was devastated, why did you come clean??? well any way the damage is done, so tell her it meant nothing and you was trying to fill the void she made in your life. If you have any chance you need to make her feel real special. although if it comes to it play reverse physciatry and tell her you dont think things will work between you considering the history that happened while you was apart. Good luck xx
2007-08-06 03:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by juliewylie29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my standpoint, you didn't cheat. Your emotions probably got the best of you when you slept with your ex. Your girlfriend is mad because she didn't think you would sleep with someone after the breakup. This gives her the impression that you never cared which is not the case is it? Just apologize and give that time. When she is not so emotionally, she'll see that you didn't cheat on her.
2007-08-06 03:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you do is going to work. You just gave your girl the power. This will be hanging over your head until you find out she has been cheating on you.
2007-08-06 03:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by Califiyah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not cheating.
And rebounding isn't bad either.
You two broke up, that means all obligation are null and void.
You don't want to get back together with a girl with that much baggage.
2007-08-06 03:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by CrazyJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh what a scenario. this happened on my favorite TV show.
the girl never really got over it, but she took the guy back because she loved him and he apologized and said that it meant nothing to him.
If it meant nothing to you, then take my advice and apologize to her over and over, making sure she knows that you really are sorry.
best of luck!
2007-08-06 03:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋