some guy wants me to meet him and I do not want to meet him yet, until next year because I am a BIG BIG girl and I want to lose weight, do you have a GOOD excuse I can give to him so I can't meet him until next year?? I told him my Mom said I can't meet him until next year and he said If It gets that bad that she won't let me meet him until next year he will come over my house. so do you people have a good excuse I can tell my friend Owen??? thank you........
2007-08-06 03:00:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi...
you could have been up front with this guy about your weight in the first place, hon.
when we tell white lies and try to hide things, it doesn't work out for us.
i'm sorry you're having weight issues... i hope you can find a way to work around it... i understand. last year i had surgery and gained 50 lbs.. it's hard to change our eating habits and lose weight.
i used to be in good shape -- becausei walked almost every day for 30 minutes to an hour... you could try it.. it's free and very good for you! hugs
2007-08-06 03:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to gain some self confidence. If you like this guy...meet him now. What if he's not around in a year. AND what if you don't lose any weight because you keep putting it off for a year. Maybe meeting this guy now will give you the motivation to start losing weight right now!! If you tell him any excuse...especially putting it off for a year...he's going to think you have something against him. I say meet him now and lose weight. Good luck.
2007-08-06 10:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, you need to learn to embrace the fact that you're big big big. it may not be a sexual turn on for that guy, but i know a lot of people love big girls because they're so friendly and caring and usually put others before themselves. so why not meet him now and be friends, then after you lose the weight he could start seeing you as a girlfriend!
but just remember, don't lose too much weight. try not to look to the celebrities for inspiration. only 10% of guys want a girl who looks like that. i think about 75% want a curvy girl. it's true. i hate my body but i spent the weekend with my boyfriend and like 7 of his friends and they ALL loved my curves. and i still somehow want to lose weight? haha, damn magazines!
p.s. how do you know this guy? the internet(and what website)? or is a friend trying to set you up?
2007-08-06 10:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are worring about you size , start doing somthing about it.
you will find a lot of men like big girls.
Of course it also depends on your age if you are under 16 years then If I was your Mother I would be worried if you went over to a strangers place whithout knowing his age or what he was like.
If you think you need another year , tell him that you have been excepted as an exchange studant and you will be in the stats for a year, tell him that you will be leaving next week.
good luck.
2007-08-06 10:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exam study, operation on foot, knee, arm (not major but stops you from going out)You could tell him you gotta go away for some time, stayin with your aunt or something. Or maybe, you may have to be semi honest and just say your not at the right point in your life right now, but you do like him and want to date him, you just need some time.
You should be totally honest and if he is a good enough bloke, then he will understand. If not, he is not worth it. Love your self honey, and people will love you too.
2007-08-06 10:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by Bbobs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him u r too busy until the day u want to se each other. talk him less in the day and u will be busy with the deiting so work out 2-4 hours in the day eat right and tell him ur srry. Im a fat girl so i would know how to try to lose weight. Good Luck!!!!!!!
2007-08-06 10:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by familyrules06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, fatchicken. If you said next year and this was November then maybe but what the Hel1 do you think we can figure out that would put you out for 6 months before meeting him. One heck of a big lie maybe. Other than that you are toast!
2007-08-06 10:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop thinking you'll be worth meeting only after you've lost weight. Instead love yourself as you are, let him know you're losing weight and maybe get him involved as a support in your endeavor.
2007-08-06 10:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend that you are your sister if he comes over. Tell him that you have a sick Aunt in Mongolia that you have to go and take care of. When you get back from Mongolia, hopefully you will look different than your slightly chubby sister!
2007-08-06 10:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by nukehoop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. But I can tell you this. If he likes you and has never seen you, I don't think he would care. He is attracted to you as a person. Isn't that more important?
2007-08-06 10:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by Califiyah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋