I know a couple who has let their master-degreed son move back into their house after graduation. He has lived with them for over 5 years now and has an excellent job making a lot of money. The parents and him seem to be fine with this arrangement, and I know that I shouldn't care, but I was just wondering if this is normal or would you consider this not good from a growth stand-point?
2007-08-06 02:55:00 · 7 answers · asked by whenwillthelambsstopscreaming 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I moved back in with my mother after college because financially, it worked best for both of us. She needed help fixing the house and I needed a roof over my head. She was glad for the company and would have let me stay there forever. I have since moved out, but I am very grateful she helped me the way she did.
Each situation is unique and every person has a different view of whether it is a good or bad idea. If that situation is working for them, then there seems to be nothing out of the ordinary there. They seem fine with it. And when the day comes they want him to move out, I'm sure they will tell him. I grew up a lot simply fixing my mothers house for her. And I think I turned out ok in the long run :)
2007-08-06 06:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think this is a good idea. the son has a good job making a lot of money so he needs to find an apt or house of his own. if he wants to help his parents good for him but he shouldnt move back in with them.
2007-08-06 10:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by toyloy27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would think it's a bad idea. Adult children need to be on their own to handle what the world has to offer. Parents need some space and time on their own.
For most families, this type of arrangement would be bad for their own relationships. Every once in a while, a family finds out it works for them. When it does - good for them!
2007-08-06 10:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for them, so it seems to work. I'm not sure why you feel the need to determine what's normal or what's not normal, but a good rule of thumb is that if everyone is happy, then its normal.
I have two daughters, and if they wanted to live with me, I frankly couldn't give a rats behind what's normal or not. I don't live my life based on what other people do, and neither should you.
2007-08-06 10:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No- the need to fgly away fromt he nest for good. Theyll keep coming back if they know mommy and daddy will always be there. Its called tough love and as a mother, i can only imagine how hard that has to be to say you need to start YOUR life, and let us continue this chapter in ours. College was an incentive to leave home. Now he has what.....?
He needs to start his own life- and think how his dating will be effected. "Hey wanna come to my house?" "Sure!" "Ok, this is my mom, and thats my dad.?"
hell lose her REAL fast!
2007-08-06 10:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!!! they will never develop their own separate identity and life. I wonder how much financial support this well-paid fellow gives his parents?
2007-08-06 10:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. let them move back.
2007-08-06 10:18:51 · answer #7 · answered by larrymcdonald7 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋