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Question

im 20 been with partner for two years and just not fussed bout sx!! thing is he doesnt even try any more because he knows im not interested. he is well endowed but i jus dont enjoy it and dont care if we dont for months!is this weird, any other girls feel like this?

Answer 1

I have a couple female friends who are like this.

Answer 2

Ok wow, ignore all these people because they apparently have no idea what they're talking about. Im a human sexuality major and currently interning with a sex therapist (my intended career) and I can honestly tell you that it may be perfectly normal to not want sex, it's called having a Low sex drive. Perhaps you just havn't found exactly what it is about sex you DO like. Although you say your partner is well endowed, that doesn't guarentee good sex. Perhaps if he were to continue trying to find what YOU like you would enjoy it more.

Or, It could be something medical. Some people who have a lack of interest in sex are significanly deprived of hormones. Try a estrogen pill and see if that helps. You don't want to go over kill with it, but it should help.

Or, (haha i know, a lot of or's, but i'm going off of little information) if you're currently on birth control that could be affecting it too. There are several kinds of birth control that one of the side effects is "Lower sex drive". Ironic for the pill...

Or, as a last resort, maybe you just arn't attracted to your partner. Sex is chemistry, and if there's no chemistry...there's no sex.

Hope this helps a bit more than the other people!

Answer 3

Sex is a very important part of all relationships. If your boyfriend has stopped trying you may want to re-asses your relationship as he may be finding what he needs else where which, well sucks. Not to mention think about your true feelings for him. People who really dig each other generally want to make love, to have that closeness, the oneness. On the upside you are still young. From personal experience; I'm 34 and I wasn't that interested in sex when I was 20. I am far more interested now and this is not uncommon. It's a bit of an urban legend that women peak in their 30s. This legend is based on a study by Alfred Kinsey study that found women have more orgasms in their 30s that any other time in their life, so look forward to what's ahead of you!
In the meantime there are some things you can do. You could go to a couples massage, read a spicy book out loud, or watch an adult film that is couple specific Erotica for Two is good start http://www.adameve.com/DVD-and-Video/Couples-DVD-and-Video/sp-erotica-for-two-DVD-and-Video-5511.aspx.

Answer 4

People are cruel, don't pay them any attention. If your partner is well endowed and he does not make sure you are ready for him, then sx can be sore and a very unpleasant experience. Maybe you should sit down with him and explain that his size is a bit of an issue and that he needs to be careful with you. There are positions that allow less penetration that may work for you both. If you are on top you have more control.

Its easy to go off sex. Its all about the way you feel and how confident you are. Talk to him, Hes maybe wondering why you don't want him which will affect his confidence too.

Answer 5

You two aren't really compatible in that way. It sounds as though your relationship is strong on other levels, because most guys would have left by now, but there are some issues concerning s* that you two aren't totally aware of, and aren't ready to discuss at this point.

Could even be that you two are just good friends and really do not belong in a relationship together. One other thing, on some level he has some things about him that you like, such as his size, but aren't fully comfortable with. It's like you like that about him but do not want it as though that was a reason why it was exciting at one time but the novelty has worn off or you feel as though you should like it for that reason because that is what society says that a woman should want. You need to figure out what your issues about that truly are and reevaluate the relationship. There is something about that you aren't letting on to us.

If you do not like that, chances are he already has or will find some other girl who does if he hasn't already, because he isn't approaching you anymore.

Answer 6

if you're only 20 and don't want to be "with" your boyfriend, there's a good chance you are not "in-love" with him anymore. Why waste your time and his? You are young, get out and enjoy life....make the best of it before you have too many responsibilities! I'm not saying that you should start sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry, but start playing the field / dating other people....it can be so much fun when you're young. At 20 years old, you're pretty young to be tied down to one person, especially if you don't even love them!
And "NO" you're not weird! If you do still love him, maybe you should considered some counseling. If he's not even trying anymore....is he getting it somewhere else? If he's as young as you, I would say there's a very good chance he is! Good luck sweetie.....and remember.....life is to short to waste your time!!!

Answer 7

A lot of girls have a very low sex drive. And you are lucky that you have found a partner that loves and respects you and will not try and persuade you constantly..That is a relationship worth hanging on to...and yes all the other girls are offering themselves to him, maybe they will get a quick Sh*g off of him..but his respect and his love will be with you.
Make sure you treat him as well as he treats you

Answer 8

Oral is once you the two carry out it or get carry of it. that's in comparison to intercourse consistent with say although that's sorta kinda like it. once you provide men oral you have their penis on your mouth and do all varieties of issues with it, you're able to in no way provide it to a guy nevertheless until you particularly choose to. women get oral while men have their tongues on your vagina and do all varieties of issues like that. that's kinda the "0.33 base", and a much extra effectual determination in case you do not choose to get pregnant by means of having intercourse. Plus, it feels particularly sturdy if your waiting!

Answer 9

I hate to break it to you and I mean no disrespect but it seems to me that your the one who made him like this. There is no man in the world who doesn't enjoy sex with his woman. I know that we have our days where we just don't want to be bothered but you need to understand that if he is not getting any at home, he WILL find someone who does like it and that will lead him to think that he can have you at home not wanting sex and go out to have sex with someone else. Honey make sure you know what your doing cause it seems like you are not sure about your relationship at all!!! GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 10

if u r happy with the way things r then dont changed it wrks for sum ppl. not me tho. make sure ur partner is fine bout it 2 tho cos otherwise e mightr stay.

Answer 11

Has it ever occurred to you......that you're wasting his AND your time by being in a farse of a relationship?

You feel absolutely NO desire for him....AND it doesn't bother you....

Break it off......be single......until you can find someone who turns you from Ice Queen to molten lava.....

Sexual chemistry is NOT just about fcuking......there are SO MANY aspects to it......and you don't even have the thought....let alone the inclination.....

Talk about Ostrich Mentality....