Do you think this was a set up?

Question

I have a next door neighbor who is a single mom. I hardly ever see her at the apartments because we are on different schedules. In general I probably see her once or twice a week, usually just in passing. I see her daughter outside playing a little more often. I would hardly describe them as more than acquaintances, but we usually exchange friendly greetings when we see each other.

I manage a drive-in movie theatre and a few weeks ago my neighbor and her daughter came to the drive-in and I saw them at the snack bar. A while later the daughter came back to the snack bar to get some candy. A few minutes later she came back asking to use a phone because she couldn't find her mom. I let her use my cell to call her mom and when she come in she gives a friendly thank you and they go back to the movie.

One of my employees thinks my neighbor was manipulating the situation to see/talk to me, but I don't think so.

Part of the reason I don't think so is because she never goes out of her way to see me. If we pass on the way to the laundry room or something she's always friendly, but it's not like she looks out her window when I pull in or pokes her head out the door to say hi.

I think she's attractive, but I don't really know anything about her except her name and her daughter's name.

Answer 1

Well honey.

Does it matter whether it was a set up or not?

You're clearly attracted to her or the situation wouldn't have even registered with you as being unusual.

If it was a set up, she may be the sort of woman who isn't very forward so would give you the opportunity to make the first move.

If it wasn't a set up and you like her you should still make the first move, because she may not have considered you at this point, but may be more than happy to consider you if you indicate your interested.

Either way if you continue asking us you're never going to find out for sure.

Next time you see her smile, make eye contact, and strike up a conversation with her, about anything casual. You'll soon pick up on the signals if she really is interested in you. If you're not getting the right reaction then you'll get the message but if you keep it casual you'll retain your dignity.

Good luck

Answer 2

If it was a set up she would have done a little more talking with you. If in the near future she starts to talk to you more then maybe but I would seriously doubt it. If you like her than maybe you can use it to get to know her better.