i am raped and that rapist says he wants to marry me otherwise......?

Question

my dad has the habit of drinking to much wine every day his friends collect in our house drink i was sitting in my room when my fathers friends son and his 3 friends(all are2yrs elder to me)came into my room shut the door two of them caught my hands and then gave me some pill due to which i lost my senses and one of them raped me they have made a video of it now they threat me that if i wont marry one of them they will show the video infront of all my friends & my colleagues and tjhen no one will like to come near me what should i do

Answer 1

first off tell your parents what happend and then let them show the video, it is only going to get them into trouble. you are the victim

Answer 2

First of all, I'm sorry you have a family who doesn't protect you and that you are living in such a bad environment. You don't say how old you are--so that makes it a little more difficult to answer your question really well. If you are, say, 12 or 13 years old I would give you slightly different advice than if you are over 18 years old. But I have no idea of your age and whether or not you are legally an adult.

First of all, you are in an unsafe place. Go somewhere safe--a friend's house, perhaps the home of a family member (such as a grandparent or aunt). Tell them what is happening to you. Ask them to go with you when you notify the authorities--because yes, you are going to have to report this to the police. You shouldn't be expected, no matter what your age, to do this alone. You need a friend or some family--someone with your best interests at heart--with you when you do this.

If you don't have anyone--and even if you do--please call a rape crisis hotline. They will have someone who can accompany you to the police, hospital and anywhere else you need to go. They have tons of information to help you and are trained to handle things like this.

Once you have made a report to the police, they will take care of that tape and you need not worry about the rapists threats to show it to your friends. In fact, if the police are able to find the tape, it should help to put your tormentors behind bars.

Once you have made the police report, if you are not an adult, the police may make a report to Child Protective Services. If they do not, YOU need to do it. You don't say if you are the only vulnerable person in the home. Do you have any younger sibs who might be victimized by these cretins also? Child Protective Services will take steps to ensure you have a safe place to live if you are underage and will take steps to protect any children living in your home.

If you are an adult, then you won't need to go to Child Protective Services UNLESS there are still children living in the home with your father.

You don't say how long ago the rape happened. If it was recent enough, the police may send you to the hospital for a forensic rape examination. Even if the police don't send you, you NEED to be seen by a doctor, no matter how long ago the rape happened. You need to be checked for injuries and tested for STDs, etc. Also, you need to discuss the ramifications of this rape with a medical person so they can go over all the possible information you need with you. Your supportive friend or family member should go with you to the doctor--and the rape crisis counselor certainly will want to go with you also, to support you and help your deal with this situation.

After reporting to the police, if you are an adult, you will have to concenetrate on finding a safe place to live. If you are underage, CPS will find you a safe place.

There are people out there who are trained to deal with situations like these. Please allow them to help you. You should not have to deal with this alone.

Answer 3

I would immediately tell your father and the authorities. Don't be intimidated by the video, as they may be lying about that. Don't under any circumstances consider marrying the creep that raped you. Marrying your rapist? Absolutely horrifying. If your father doesn't believe you for any reason, I would go to social services in your area and tell your story. They will refer you to the proper authorities. I believe the police should be notified. You tell them that you were drugged, and raped and are being threatened with false exposure to your friends and colleagues. This is a felony and a crime and must be addressed. Maybe you should hire a lawyer if you are over 18 years of age. I think you should because you will get the proper advice. But first, talk with your father and take it from there, but don't be intimidated by the creeps and low lifes that violated you. Good Luck to you.

Answer 4

Go to the police. Don't even think twice about it.
They did two things here: raped you and now blackmailing you. Both are crimes and punishable by law.
Don't just go away. Deal with it, and then move away if you have to.
But, until they have that video, you will be dependent on them.
You can talk to your parents, but I would even go to the police straight ahead. It doesn't matter if it happened some time ago and you have taken showers and all.
Until is dealt with, you won't have a proper life, or anything that will look like it.
Be strong. Lots of hugs and kisses.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 5

I disagree with some of the answers. You should NOT try to fight for the tape - they could get suspicious and really hurt you more seriously then they already have. Does your father know this goes on when he and his friends are drunk in the house with you? I'm not sure telling him would be the best answer either. I think you need to go straight to the police, no question.

Answer 6

Go to the police press charges on all involved. Tell the police the whole story. They should be behind bars. Don't worry about embarrassment. They are the ones at fault. Put them in jail. Go press charges. Just do it and don't tell them your going to. It was a crime what they did. Once they come and get arrested let them find out. Don't let yourself be threatened by anyone.

Answer 7

Go directly to the police.
I wouldn't even trust your father at this point, and it's obvious your mother isn't around if this happened.
If you are under age, you need to be in social care/ foster care.
If you are of age, move out today.
Then still tell the police. If you are genuinely frightened of the police at least you can understand that the last thing they will do is show the video as it is evidence of enough crimes to put them ALL in jail for many, many years.

Answer 8

Ok, my initial response is to go directly to the police.

However, are you from the US or another country? I am wondering if maybe you are from India? If so, you should really ask this question in Yahoo India, or Yahoo (wherever your country is) so that people that better understand your culture can help you. I know that incidents like this are, unfortunately, viewed very differently in other countries and those of us answering from the US may not be well equipped to help you.

Good luck to you.

Answer 9

So which is it? Your Dad's friends or your Brother's. In your other questions you said your parents were dead and it was your bro and it was champagne, not a pill. You need to make up your mind which story that you are going to stick with, then lie about it, that way you can keep your stories straight. Hope this helps.

Answer 10

Go to the police and have these ******* arrested for the hideous crime they committed against you. If they show this video they are openly admitting that they raped you.

You don't need to marry anybody against your will, these are a sick bunch of individuals and they need to be punished.

Answer 11

*big hug* my god...you poor thing *hugs again* firstly...go to the police. its hard, i know, but it's worth it. and its the safest option. they can tell you what to do then. secondly, tell your mother. (id say "parents" usually, but seeing as theyre your dads friends he might get all...hardcore. and your mother can tell your dad if you dont wanna, or whatever) and then seea doctor and make sure your ok n everything. its definately best to see a councillor or talk about it with someone close to you you can trust, cause keeping something like that to yourself isnt fun *snugs*

but definately do not give in to them! they dont deserve you. not just cause they raped you, but to try and blackmail you into making a lifetime committment...they should go to jail for it. and if you can be strong, you can get help and see them come to justice for the awful things they did to you

and dont worry! even if they DID show it to your friends and such, which is highgly unlikely cause your friends etc would catch onto something sus, and probably report it themselves, your friends and such wouldnt blame you, or not like you! if theyre decent good people, theyd suport you, not turn on you. besides, if worst comes to worst, you can get a new job...which is far better then having to marry a horrid lying pathetic man you know caused you pain

all the best *hugs* email me if i can help at all...i hope things turn out ok :S