how do you know if the girl you're w/ is still a virgin or just claiming to be one?
My friend is worried that her fiance would find out about her being not a virgin 'coz she really loves him very much...she tried to save herself for him but someone else had her first...
2007-08-05 23:29:03 · 32 answers · asked by RINGO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't you find it a bit strange that your friend wouldn't sleep with her fiance and "had to try" to stay a virgin for him but then easily lost her virginity to some other guy?
To me that says that she really isn't in love with her fiance as she cheated on him and therefore has no respect for him or their relationship. And now she is going to fake being a virgin? ha!
Geez I feel so very very bad for this poor guy. What did he do to deserve a ***** like her? Obviously she cannot be trusted and will cheat again in their marriage and tell more lies.
She won't be able to fake being a virgin, sorry but she is fooling herself if she thinks she can pull it off, she will be found out..I'm not going to tip you off as to how she will be caught out as she doesn't deserve any help.
2007-08-05 23:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by xanadu88 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
its simple really, there is something inside the vagina called a hymen, it is a pice of skin that covers part of the entrance of the vagina about an inch or so inside. if you are a true virgin (never used a finger, tampon or dildo in there) then when you first have sex the hymen will rip and make a bloody mess. this is how men know you are/were a virgin. you can get the hymen sergicaly restored so that it bleeds on your wedding night. don't listen to people that tell you you can break the hymen by riding a bike or hourse, coz its not true. the only way you can do it is by puting something in the vagina.
2007-08-05 23:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by Maya's_Mama 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He will knew as soon as they go to have sex. She must tell him. He will see/feel that the Hyman is no longer there. In the heat of the passion he will still have sex w/her but if it mothers that much to him he will leave her or be very upset later. Today this should not be an issue just have her tell him. We all make mistakes and regret them later. If he truly loves her it will not make a difference. Now is he a virgin that is much harder and no proof unless he is honest and tels her (not fare I know). Wish her luck if he leaves she deserves better.
2007-08-05 23:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Going into marriage already being deceitful, I foresee a divorce in the future.
She should be honest with him before walking down the aisle.
He has no way of knowing if she is or isn't, but her attitude in the bedroom will indicate if she's had experience already or not. You can't really truly fake a "first time".
"Tried to save herself for him" ????????????????????
Whatever, if she loved him, she never would have cheated.
2007-08-06 07:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend's fiancé has the right to the honest truth. If she's lying to him already about serious personal matters, what hope is there for any kind of marriage between them?! I seriously hope for this guy's sake you'll show some integrity and encourage your friend to come clean with her fiancé. If they really love each other then they will work through it and be better off for the honesty.
2007-08-06 01:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Veno 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Supposedly there will be bleeding at the first intercourse, so when they have sex there will be no blood and he will know. However, bleeding can be minimal the first time of sex (I didn't bleed at all), so she can claim that this was the case for her. However, basing a marriage on a lie is wrong, because it is the wrong attitude. She should tell the truth, and if her non-virginity is a reason for him not to marry her, he is not worth amrrying.
2007-08-05 23:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are operations to replace the hymen. So if she has the cash it is possible. I saw it on TV in States. I think it's a bad idea that you friend is starting a relationship off with a lie. The truth will one day come out.
2007-08-06 00:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be virgin is an old concept. Olden times girls and ladies were considered as property of a man. He had the sole authority to protect buy and sell ladies. We are living in a liberal world where both the sex are equal before law and society. Now there is no need for a lady to keep away from his brother, son or any male relatives. They can show love & affection by kissing them. Today's world both boy and girl go for sex when they want to have so. There are girls and boys who go for sex with their friends and relatives. I feel that those who keep their virginity should be there from both the sexes. Otherwise it should be ignored with all the nonsense theories around it.
Chastity comes from self discipline and promoting chastity is not testing or suspecting but by propogating it with one's own life. chastity can be termed as charecter integrity.
2007-08-06 01:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mr.Dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
He will find out when he has sex with her. Loosing one's virginity hurts like hell! Unless he does not know any better. People here in Egypt value viginity very much. Everyone here knows that it really hurts BAD the first time.
Maybe she better fess up and confess to him. She better think about it.
~peace
2007-08-05 23:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by Onomatopoeia 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think your friend's fiance will know unless he is a doctor who is an expert in those field. As long as no one tells her fiance and have her check up at gynecologist (even though gynecologist know, he/she won't tell the fiance about her private information unless your friend allows the gynecologist to) then he fiance won't know. Hope this help!
2007-08-05 23:35:26 · answer #10 · answered by kumax 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋