I have a boyfriend but there is this other bloke I flirt with and send flirty sms to every night.Is this cheating or is it not cheating until I actually do something?
2007-08-05 23:23:48 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't say you're necessarily cheating but it would be very hurtful to your boyfriend to know you think about someone else in this way. Flirting can be a bit of harmless fun but you have to think about how your boyfriend would feel, or how you would feel were he to flirt with other girls
2007-08-05 23:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Lauren 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
To me and my boyfriend we would class that as cheating because the reason being you doing it at night, so when boyfriend in bed or when you don't see one another and the big word was 'flirting'.
Although you are not cheating physically with this boy, you still cheating emotionally because if things so fantastic with your guy, you wouldn't even be thinking of flirting with a guy no matter what.
And the more you flirt with this other guy the more you going to get yourself deeper and deeper and develop feelings and you may take it further and do things with him.
Emotional cheating is just as bad and hurts people just as much as physical cheating.
I think you need to do some reflecting because obviously your boyfriend is not right for you as you flirting around so maybe you need to focus on that and sort it out or be single.
Lx
2007-08-05 23:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by SunshineApple 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It isn't cheating, per se. But what you have here is an "emotional affair." At least, from first glance. If you've been doing this since before you and your boyfriend got together, it's less an issue. But if this is a new deal, I would argue that you are in the wrong. Emotional affairs are more damaging than even casual sex with strangers. See the source for more info.
The best way to judge whether or not something is appropriate or not is this: would you be comfortable if your partner knew the content and actions you are taking with another person? If yes, you are okay (just make sure the partner agrees!). The rules apply to him as well.
2007-08-05 23:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating.
2007-08-05 23:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by allthatsolid 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well it depends what you re actually saying in the tests to each other. My guess is though...if you were that committed to your boyfriend then you would not even think of texting and flirting with this other guy.
It should be your boyfriend that you are sending flirty texts to surely?
And yes I see it as a form of deception as i take it your boyfriend doesn;t know about your late night texting of this fella? It's cheating!
2007-08-05 23:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you send text to someone other than your boyfriend and it is of a flirty nature yes you are flirting ( I think you know this but you are hoping to get a few people to say its ok)
if your boyfriend said he is doing the same with a seriously good looking woman would it bother you?
if you say no then you should not have a boyfriend........you should tell him that you want to keep him as a texting buddy
and lastly does the other guy know you have a boyfriend?
if he does then he is nothing more than a poacher and probably a dog
fess up to your boyfriend or get rid of the other guy text the same messages to your boyfriend instead
2007-08-05 23:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating with a Capital "C"!!!! maybe not physically cheating but emotionally you are....even if you have no feelings for this sms guy but you do get emotional satisfaction from him......plus you would be lying if you say you dont think about him and "what if" or maybe even fantasized....im a guy and thats exactly what i would tell my GF if i found out....i think you need to come clean or you can continue living a lie with the guy your with if you dont want it to ever get serious.
2007-08-05 23:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course its cheating. Would YOU like it if your boyfriend was sending flirty texts to another girl every night?
2007-08-05 23:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by honest girl! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just think of it vice versa, what if your boyfriend was flirt texting some girl every night? Would you consider it cheating?
Why would you want to flirt with someone when you can just flirt to your boyfriend?
2007-08-05 23:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by didi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Completely inappropriate and disrespectful towards your boyfriend but not technically cheating. Although your boyfriend will not see it like that. Any temptation means that you are not committed or are kidding yourself that you are. Seems that you might be on the road to cheating love.
2007-08-05 23:29:18 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋