I have so many good things in my life and i have an amazing man who is in love with me and i love him so much but i feel he deserves another better person than me i feel that i cant make him happy sometimes and he says he loves me and he'll help me in anything i want .
He like me with or without makeup and many other things but he says when we get married he doesnt want me to work or to work with him but i dont want this and i never ask him for money but to quit smoking, i don't know even why i'm posting this but any answer will help .i feel that i love him so much but iam afraid if we got married this love will disappear!!
2007-08-05 23:04:09 · 12 answers · asked by Sarah B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are right - you don't appreciate yourself..... You sounded like me many years ago...
..but ....Wake up girl - you have a great guy, loves you to bits and by the sounds of it do anything for you!!!!
go out and have some fun - rediscover yourself, book you and your man away for a romantic weekend, or better still a week overseas somewhere.
Keep thinking positive - not the 'what if's'.
2007-08-05 23:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by • Koala • uʍop ɹǝpun 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Postpone your wedding sweety, you don't love yourself so how in the world can you love someone else? not possible get to know you and love what you know... There are many self help books out there and not to sound like a racist but I have read many of books and the best ones where the ones I could relate too and the authors are black ones not all black authors but go to Borders or Barnes and Nobles book store and spend a day just reading. Iyanla Vanzant is good real good the black lady from the show starting over... If you have a bible read it search for the titles relating to your situation if you have an older one go buy a new one with plan old english so that you can understand it and ask the lord for guidance and understanding.. Paula white is an evangelist and she's white if you did not know this and she is good .Get to know you first before getting married because you will take all of that crap into it with you and it will be ruff if it last, best of luck and GOD BLESS
2007-08-06 06:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him tell him that you want to your lives make some contributions to things like work for the both of you when you get married, stop feeling like your sorry for yourself cause it will only make things worse and if he thought he deserved someone better you'd be out of his life so fast which you aren't by the way. So cheer up, be happy and always think positive.
2007-08-06 06:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning to marry this guy, you had better get yourself together first. You need to appreciate who you are and like who you are. If there are things that bother you about him, you had best resolve them, or come to an understanding with him, before you say, "I do". Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Having said all that Marriage is a wonderful thing, when it works. I will pray for you, best wishes.
2007-08-06 06:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u yourself admit taht u ve so many good things in life................and in the next sentence say the guy deserves a better person........................
your question has all the answers dear!!
First just believe in yourself.
As far I know you are the nicest person on earth.
and u deserve nothing but the best..........
and remember you are unique/...............different from everyone else.....................and u needent try be sum1 else any way........u r good the way u are and fine.................lovable, sweet and anybodys pride.........
understand that in nature a rose never tries to be a lilly...............if it does it will neither be a good llly or even a good rose.........................each is happy being what they are and as they are!
First believe in yourself and believe that people will love and care for u the way u are................they aint looking fr sum1 different or better....................
and dont worry love never disappears..........the best thing is to enjoy and live life the way it is and NOW.............not tomorrow.....
In nature u will never find trees competing as to who is taller, and so on.....so why shud u be different.............
u are fine the way u are
smile
2007-08-06 06:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, so long that you know to yourself that you love him then there's nothing to be scared that he deserves another better person. If you see that he's happy with you then that's much better.
now, with the marriage.....make sure that as early as now you have to tell him that when you get married you want to work and that you have your own dreams. You have to talk about it seriously. Bottom line is....you need to talk to him about all this.
2007-08-06 06:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by chester david 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you get married your love should nothing but exponentially grow.
why does it really matter if you think your good enough for him.
i bet if you asked him, he would feel that he isnt good enough for you either.
you just need to get it through to yourself that he loves you no matter what, just like you love him.
and just because you dont see yourself as worth him doesnt mean you arent worth him.
good luck =)
2007-08-06 06:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by poets_loss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to someone like a counselor or a preacher? You should be happy that you're with someone who cares about you.
2007-08-06 06:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by The Curmudgeon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there why dont u appreciate ur self im sure u r a nice person and im willing to chat to u anytime im online to discuss ur problems fkenhng@yahoo.com.au im dave and keep ur chin up
2007-08-06 06:08:44 · answer #9 · answered by fkenhng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit playing the martyr. Let him decide what is good enough for him.
2007-08-06 06:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋