How can you tell her nicely in a way that she would understand........ because I can not see myself married to her. How can I explain it to her that I would support the baby but not marry her....
2007-08-05 21:53:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What the hell are you guys saying that I force myself marrying her?? I can't do that! I need to be true to myself! and even if I did! I know for sure that I will just have marital problems... So I need some real advice here.. not just force myself into marriage! Help!
2007-08-05 22:06:43 · update #1
I think you're doing a good thing. It's better to tell her now then live a loveless marriage. You said: "How can I explain it to her that I would support the baby but not marry her...."
That's exactly what you should tell her. Tell her you don't love her, but you will support the baby. Pure and simple honesty.
2007-08-05 22:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by revernance 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her nicely? Ah, not possible. You can be a man and do the right thing and marry her and learn to love her and the child you're creating. You stepped up to the plate and had sex, and that's the consequence you have to face, that's life, and you have to face life. This is why sex was created as something reserved for marriage. What are you going to teach your child by running away from your responsibility? Child support is the easy way out. Owe up to your responsiblity...don't take the chicken exit.
Why in the hell didn't you use your f-in brain and use a condom? Don't give that "true to myself" sh*t. Obviously you have some lessons to learn about life, and at this rate, you're going to learn them the hard way.
2007-08-06 05:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know there is not easy way to tell her this.......i was in this same position 35 years ago......back when it was not good to be pregnant out of wedlock....though i think it is good of you to admit it is your child and that you will help support her.......but i know it is going to hurt her you telling her you do not love her anymore.......but i do not think you should get into a marriage without love either.......the thing is you have both made a big mistake and now there is a innocent child brought into the picture......the best thing to do now is to think of that child........i kept my son........i could not do anything else he was a part of me.....and i left that state and his dad never saw him....i really feel for the girl......guys seem to do this without much feeling or thinking about the consequences and i know girls do to.........but now a innocent child is being brought into this.......i do not know how to tell her easy........it is going to hurt either way you look at it........but i hope you are serious about your meaning to help support the child.........she has to carry the baby and have it and her whole life is going to change now......and a responsibility i hope she can handle......i admit if it had not been for my mother i could not of handled it well at all.......hope there is some support for her and this child cause she will need it.......
2007-08-06 05:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would have sure been better if your had used some protection. Now you and she have destroyed your lives and the life of a poor innocent child that does not deserve it.
2007-08-06 04:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your timing stinks.
You dont have to marry her, just do the right thing and provide for her and the kid. Be a man.
2007-08-06 04:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tsk...tsk...tsk....
there is no nice way to tell a pregnant gf that you don't love her anymore and won't marry her and be there for her and the baby....no matter how "nicely" you put it, she will end up getting hurt....and your baby will end up fatherless...poor innocent baby....
why have your feelings changed for her??? you shouldn't have done it...if you aren't ready for the consequences....if not you should've used protection....
2007-08-06 05:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by geisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd try to stay with her at least until the baby arrives..........then tell her gently that you're just not in love with her........and you want her and yourself to be happy and that you will take care of your child............good luck
2007-08-06 05:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least fake it till she gets through the pregnancy.
2007-08-06 04:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by ineednostinkingid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's harsh && low dude .... Well atleast you still have a heart to take care of her and her baby. Well now that shes pregant i think thats alittle too much for her to take..Not good..
2007-08-06 04:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you intend to leave her not married to you, you will never be happy with your marriage with any other girl. Please marry her and enjoy parenthood with her.
2007-08-06 04:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by sv 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋