I had a high school sweetheart that i dated for a year and we parted on bad terms and she got a protective order on me for 2 yrs. its two and half years later and she contacted me on myspace sayin that she missed me and everything and she visited me. we have been talkin for 5 months now, and shes talkin about us getting married and bein together again
2007-08-05 21:35:17 · 14 answers · asked by mj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no i never hit her, it was in a small town and i broke up with her and she told the shierffs that i did hit her, more so less her mom did, there family ran the town pretty much, the protective order is over along time ago, and she says that she thought about calling me many of times during it
2007-08-05 21:47:07 · update #1
It would depend on why she got the restraining order really..
People these days are too quick to forgive or claim the moral outrage that a restraining order actually is. We are talking about something so serious that law makers feel they needed to prohibit on persons free speech and free will to protect anther's life and liberty.
This is not a flippant, oh sorry about that, thing. It is a very serious accusation. By filing a restraining order against you she has literally affected the rest of your life; you could loose custody of your future children and you now have a permanent record as a domestic abuser...
If she was justified in getting that restraining order then I'd say she is a fool to come back to you unless you have had some counseling for your issues... If she was just being mean or lied to get it then you need to ditch her. People that tell lies to get a restraining order against their ex are only out to hurt.
Unfortunately that kind of poor moral fiber doesn't just go away, even with counseling it doesn't always go away. Trust me, you do not want this kind of person in your life, you do not want them raising your kids, and you do not want them playing with your bank accounts.
2007-08-05 21:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by Tempus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can really answer if your crazy or not. What is your definition of crazy? Mine is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.....so to answer your question, yes, in my opinion, you are crazy. Now the flip side is this: if you know you are crazy, theoretically you are not; because, normal people think they are crazy and crazy people think they are normal. So yes, you are crazy, but your normal crazy and that is okay.
Now - why did she get a protective order? Was it accurate or made up? If she contacted you, there are a several possibilities:
1. She really does miss you.
2. She (and perhaps you too) want to fix/see what went wrong.
3. Maybe there are things left unsaid that need to be said.
4. Guilt, resentment, bitterness, etc.
Do you want to marry her? Are you willing to step aside another two years, if things go sour again? What if the restraining order is not enough? You've been friends for five months again, so what was the problem? I hope the two of you have discussed this.
Good luck.
2007-08-05 21:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by MONA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is the crazy one. She got a protective order against you. For what. Did you hit her? There is never an excuse for a man hitting a woman. A man is usually a lot stronger and can do more damage than a woman can, unless she has a gun.
2007-08-05 21:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are crazy but love makes you do crazy things. It would probably be good to get some legal advice on that protective order she has on you because if things don't work out she could make your life difficult by claiming you did not follow that protective order.
2007-08-05 21:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm....kinda weird huh????
i guess when she got the protective order against you, she was really bitter and wanted to get back at you...
but now, she has admitted that she still has feelings for you and so she has contacted you....
but if i were you, i'd be careful...give yourself time before marrying her....make sure that there are no strings attached to your relationship....disappearing for 2 1/2 years then all of a sudden coming back sounds a little fishy for me...hope i'm wrong
2007-08-05 21:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by geisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this a question or a small story. what lead up to her getting a protective order the courts just don't hand them out.
2007-08-05 21:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump into that one. Wait and see what happens. You don't want to end up divorced with children. Give it some time, so that you don't ruin your life and her life, or make some children very miserable.
2007-08-05 21:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u arent she is u get a protective order lol tht will be ironic
2007-08-05 21:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steer clear brother, do not get married, just RUN.
2007-08-05 21:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by BigMomma81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe, but this gives you the chance to find out what went wrong and perhaps fix it this time around.........good luck
2007-08-05 21:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋