ok im a 15 yr old guy. i have a problem with my mom. shes the best mom and all but i feel as if she wont let me grow up. like i hang with freinds and stuff all the time, and especially when it comes to girls, my mom doesnt wanna hear it. ive had gf's before and my mom didnt like the idea. she doesnt like it when i hang out with girls either. my dad is cool with it and he tried talking to her but she still wont realize that im growing up. my parents are divorced and i live with my mom. how can i change this, im really sick of it?
2007-08-05 21:29:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It looks like you're off to a pretty good start. You seem to have an understanding of what is wrong, and you seem to be handling it well, by asking your dad to speak with her too.
I think you should start with small doses and try to get her interested in things you are doing. Let her know you want to be honest with her all the time, but she makes you feel like you have to stay a kid and that makes you want to hide your life from her.
Hopefully your honesty and straightforwardness will help her come around. Good luck hon.
2007-08-05 21:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by devyl gyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing that can truly heal this but time. Some moms will always want to be the center of your life. She's prob a jealous woman, and that might be why your parents divorced in the first place. Either way, it's sometimes a mom's nature to want to forever nurture her children in a babying way. My advice would be to talk to her. Seeing how communication is one of the biggest signs of growing up anway. If you can't do that in a responsible way, maybe even a letter. I wrote my mom tons of letters, its a way for them to listen and not interrupt. Tell her that she'll always be your number one girl, that you'll always love her, but that you also want to enjoy life. Part of enjoying life is socializing, making friends. It's a healthy part of growing up. My only other advice is not to hang out with the wrong type of people.
2007-08-06 04:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes i bet you are...time to move in with pops if you can. Your mom does not want her 'wittle boy' to grow up and become a 'mean old man' like your daddy was. Don't know how you are going to change her mind about things, but that you MUST do or wear diapers forever....
2007-08-06 04:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple and easy, dont tell your mom. I have same situation but over here i am older than you and both of my parents dont like me dating but hey i have a gf and i have been dating since i was 15. so keep yourself mummed till she thinks you are old enough. Best of Luck
2007-08-06 04:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by luvis4losers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents who really love their children tend to be overprotective...especially since you aren't exactly that old...i guess she just doesn't want to see you get hurt...or she doesn't want to see you in a situation that would entail responsibility....i guess what i'm saying is that kids experiment with sex all the time...she just doesn't want you to ruin your future by becoming a premature daddy to an unplanned baby...everything boils down to her loving you and wanting the best for you...but if you think you can handle yourself, talk to her and reassure her that you will be responsible in your relationships and you have no intention of messing up your life...after your heart to heart talk, i'm sure she'll back off a little and give you more space
2007-08-06 04:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by geisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go live with your dad. You are old enough that if you dad is a fit father, the courts would let you decide where you want to live.
2007-08-06 04:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you have something serious to show her and tell her that it is important to you... Then let her read exactly what you wrote and some of the answers.
2007-08-06 04:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by ♥100%BayLady♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom, that your not gay, and ask her if she'd rather see you with a guy or a girl............
2007-08-06 04:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋