No liquor allowed, that is.. in place, there's sparkling cider. I basically grew up with alcoholic people surrounding me, and I hate alcohol.. for my wedding, I wouldn't want to serve any. It is MY wedding, after all, my party.. Sure, the guests would probably be a bit shocked, but tough luck. Hehe. You don't have to drink to have good time.. I know at least my uncle and dad would be wasted by the end of the night, and PISS me OFF!! GRRR.. so, anyway, my question is what do you think of a dry wedding? Ever been to one?
2007-08-05 21:25:12 · 22 answers · asked by Emo B 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
As the host of the party, you're free to serve whatever you choose. You are by no means required to serve alcohol at your wedding if you don't want to. Your guests are there to celebrate your marriage, after all!
To answer your question, yes, I've been to at least two dry weddings, and they were both lovely.
You are by NO means obligated to "let your guests know in advance" that your reception is dry. Again, you're the host of the party, and what you choose to serve is, of course, your choice.
And PLEASE!! even if you're trying to compromise, please, please, PLEASE don't even CONSIDER having a cash bar. It's incredibly tacky to invite someone to a party as a guest and then ask them to pay their way - you wouldn't charge them for a drink in your home, would you?
2007-08-06 02:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by sylvia 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've been to plenty "Dry" weddings before. Almost more than ones with alcohol. It's your day, do what makes you feel comfortable. At all of the "Dry" weddings I've been too people still had a good time without the alcohol. It's not your obligation to serve alcohol, especially if you have personal or religious reasons for not doing so. The weddings I've attended served punch, sodas and the sparkling cider for the toast.
2007-08-06 01:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by holmeskaykay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had a "dry" reception-not because of alcoholic family members, but because of monetary constraints, and looking back, we chose the right thing to do.
The night before our wedding, we had a party in our room, because there was no rehearsal (we married in Vegas) and we couldn´t afford a full meal that night to honor people in our wedding party and guests. We wanted the party to be fun and relaxing, and so we had snacks, wine, and champaigne. All of our guests-14 of them-attended, and it was so great to get together, introduce strangers that became friends, and celebrate. It was an awesome party.
We married the next day, and if people chose to drink, they ordered drinks at the bar that was quite a ways from where we ate-no one complained because we had fed them the night before,and also gave them drinks the night before. They were respectful of our budget, and all said they had a great time.
Yes, absolutely, have a "dry" reception-especially if you know alcoholism runs in your family. If I attended someone else´s wedding and the reception was "dry" I would not be mad at all-even though I enjoy drinking myself. I would just respect your decision, and yes, everyone can have fun without alcohol. If not, they will probably leave early-good riddance to those that do. You don´t need a drunk person at your reception to spoil your,and your guests good time.
I say, GO FOR IT!
2007-08-05 22:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not like the idea of a dry wedding at all. It is your day though so do what you want.
I don't like the idea because as a guest attending a wedding, you are usually seated with people that you don't know. When I have a glass of wine, it helps me loosen up as it does everyone else at the table, and then I am more comfortable speaking with people that I don't know. By the end of the reception we are all talking and laughing. I really think having alcohol encourages that and makes the reception more fun for the guests.
2007-08-06 02:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's actually more common than you think. I've been to a number of dry weddings. I don't think it will "shock" most people, it might disappoint a few people but it's not unheard of.
I'm a non-drinker and my fiance is as well. I choose not to drink because both of my parents were alcoholics and so I'm very prone to addiction, not to mention I had a childhood medical condition that prevents me from drinking. Our location as well makes serving alcohol very difficult and we would have to "cut the flow of alcohol" fairly early in the evening, so we're opting to not have any alcohol at all. Instead we plan on having an Italian soda bar and smoothie bar instead. We are having a BBQ for our rehearsal dinner and there will be alcohol there but we would like to keep the drinking away from our wedding.
I know some people in our families aren't going to like this but we have told them if they really want to drink, they are more than welcome to go to a bar after the reception is over. They are adults after all and it's not our responsibility to provide their flow of free booze (especially when we don't support it). So that's it. The rest of the night is going to be fabulous, we have a beautiful location, great food and good music.
"People will remember what was there, not what wasn't."
-A wise poster here on answers.
2007-08-06 00:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I've been to a dry wedding and it was the most boring reception known to man. Oh and they cheaped out and didn't even serve real food just snack items, I was like, "what's the point of this?" and left early. Most people did, either because they were hungry or were expecting a party.
That's the thing. With a party comes relaxing, good food and drink. It's a celebration. It's what people do. Yes, there can be fun without drink, but why? Most people expect to drink at a wedding. I'll probably get a bit buzzed at my own wedding. There's nothing wrong with letting loose every once and awhile.
You definitely sound like a control freak when it comes to other people and their drinking and behavior. Hello bridezilla!! Well, guarenteed your reception is going to be a flop and your guests will definitely cheap out on gifts since you're cheaping out on booze. You may as well just not have a reception at all instead of providing memories of a crappy reception and a control freak bride for everyone. You'd save a lot of money.
2007-08-05 22:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 4⤊ 3⤋
it's your wedding, you can decide what you want. I would make sure that you let people know a head of time.
or your other option is to not have an open bar, make the guests pay for all their drinks. I was just at a wedding that was not an open bar. it kinda sucked because I was a bridesmaid and my wallet was back at the church so I wasn't able to get anything.
2007-08-06 03:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by macleod709 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't hate alcohol, it's all about moderation, but as you pointed out if there are people in your family that do not know when to stop then it may be a better idea. I don't know about you, but I get more drunk on cider than anything else, like 2 glasses of cider and I would be asleep, and it gives me a bad headache, I wouldn't serve that either, it's still alcoholic and in the wrong hands it could be just as bad as people drinking spirits.
2007-08-05 22:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your guest should be coming to celebrate your happiness. If the only way they can be happy is to have alcohol then they have problems with alcohol not you. It's your wedding and your are under no obligation to provide alcohol unless YOU want to.
2007-08-06 01:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by ilufthemountains 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can do whatever you want, it is your wedding. however, the reason i have fun at weddings is because i get a little tipsy and let loose on the dance floor. so for me, i would still come, i would probably just not have as good of a time. weddings can be really stuffy, especially if you don't know a lot of people.
2007-08-06 05:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by . 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋