hey everyone.. i have a little deal here..
my friends and i are getting ready to go camping next week and im a little confused bcuz among the people who are coming are goin to be guys who.. are more than just buddies to me. One of the guys used to be my "friend with benefits". we havent talked in a couple of weeks, but i know he;ll be coming to this trip with hopes that he will have sex with me again. another guy is a good friend that i know likes me. we never been intimate.. we never even kissed. im not sure how i feel about him yet.. BUT i wanna sleep with the first guy, but at the same time i dont wanna upset and push away my second buddy.. what would u guys do in my situations? and BOYS how would u react that a girl u like would sleep with someone else, with u present, basically next door?
2007-08-05 19:21:45 · 18 answers · asked by Stacy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm all for free lovin', but it sounds like you need to chill. Don't sleep with either of them. Here is the logic:
1) If you like the new one you wouldn't sleep with the old one.
2) Therefore, don't hurt his feeling and sleep with the old guy another day.
I'm guessing the old guy is a jerk anyway. I'm just guessing here, but I'll bet he blew you off before. Then again, if the sex was rockin' I understand. Just wait and respect the new guy. You could always sleep with them both that night, but that may be tricky.
2007-08-05 19:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by Codynova 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Friends with benefits means that as soon as he finds a girl he actually likes, you are history. What makes you think your "friend" isn't already bringing a date. Since you haven't spoken to him in weeks, that probably means he's seeing someone.
2. The guy that likes you will think you are the biggest prostitute in the world if you sleep with someone else in front of him. He'll also lose interest, unless he's just out for sex and has already heard of your bad reputation. In which case, he'll only be using you like the first guy is.
2007-08-06 02:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either way someone is gonna get mad; unless of course you have a threesome. haha but really if you hookup with the first guy again then you will probably end up pushing the second guy away but if you end up getting to know the second guy and then hooking up with him and not the first guy then maybe the first guy wont care; since he knows you guys were just friends with benefits. and friends with benefits is nothing serious and most of the time it doesnt go anywhere. who knows what could happen with the second guy; unless you try to get to know him and see what happens you will never know. tough situation. i hope it works out for the best.
2007-08-06 02:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by JENNAx3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough choice. To avoid conflict, I'd say make up some sort of an excuse to get yourself out of going on the trip.
2007-08-06 02:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think my chances are better in getting the same thing from you. Maybe if I know the other guy he might even trade places with me by leaving you in the dark and me come in to take his place.
2007-08-06 02:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by bayarealatino925 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it unfold and play it out. What happens, happens. You are young enjoy yourself and don't worry about it. These aren't the only two boys you'll ever have in your life. You can bet you aren't the only girl for them, learn to play the game and play it well.
2007-08-06 02:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by Sage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would react by think your kinda a slut and be hurt you know i mean it would suck 4 the guy to know you that he like you but still go screw another guy it's like you would be shoving that your not with him in his face
2007-08-06 02:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by outsider4893 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"oh well i've been totally crushed by that girl. i think i might have loved her. now I've decided instead of girls now I'm going to start liking guys."
but i'd actually think "there are plenty of fish in the sea."
not that you are a fish. an analogy. god i am tired.
good lucky.
2007-08-06 02:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what you just made yourself sound like?And from the looks of things , the old friend thinks it.
2007-08-06 02:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by § dreamer § 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one make sure you are having safe sex..and everybody is STD..clean.. be true with them both and enjoy sex with them both.. that way no body would get hurt. no commitments.. just enjoy.
2007-08-06 02:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by K_LOVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋