I can't keep a conversation going. Can anyone help me with some conversation skills?

Question

I am not good at keeping a conversation going. All my conversations go for a few minutes and always end up in awkward silences. Any tips?

Answer 1

Randomness(:

Just say something completely random,
even if you have to make it up.

Just never say soooo...

It's akward.

Answer 2

Wut up man.

Scuba Brock here. Yeah, try just putting scuba in front of your name and I'll bet you'll laugh. There you go, now you have something to talk about. You laughing at your own "scuba" name.

Am I serious? No! (but it is funny!)

Anyway, back to the matter at hand. You need conversation skills? Hmm...

What do most people tell you? Get a better education? Learn more stuff? Use randomness? Ok...

Well, I never used to be that great at talking. Yeah, believe it or not, I was that shy kid. I know EXACTLY what those "awkward silences" are all about.

Heck, you could even title me KING of "awkward silences". Lol, I could talk about all the weirdest spots I've stood silently. But that won't really help you, so let's find an answer to your question.

I've asked this question before - and I really didn't get much for answers. Most people just told me to "talk more" or be more outgoing. Yeah, that's a lot easier said than done!

So are you going to always have to wonder what to say to women?

OR

Are you going to make the decision? I'm going to give you some good advice. This is targeted toward you and is intended to help you get your feet off the ground.

If you're reading this...then you made the decision. Good. I'm liking your attitude.

I always use to ask myself "What should I say to this girl? It's the first date, what should we talk about? How can I keep the conversation interesting?"

The first thing to remember is that you're NOT interviewing these women! Don't ask them pointless questions or even bring up boring stuff (news, sports, family, etc.)

Have you ever asked a girl some of these questions?

"So, did you grow up around here?"

"So, how big is your family? A lot of siblings?"

"What kinds of things you do for fun?"

OUCH! It hurts to remember the bad old days of this dull conversation. Why is it that guys treat girls like they are interviewing them? I mean, no wonder women complain about how guys can't even talk about anything interesting.

Here's a good rule of thumb: WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO BORING CONVERSATION!

I think you know this already. So, let's give you a "real life" example of how you can start.

Talk about INTERESTING things. Like what? Drama, violence, scandal, & comedy just to namea few. Try this one out...

You - "So what's with Paula Abdul from American Idol? I guess people just can't get enough of her, so she has to go and make her own TV show. Now she looks like a complete drunk all the time. I guess people just can't get enough of her dysfunctional life"

Ok, I pulled that right out of thin air. Easy as pie. Pick a subject that you can talk about.

Just by saying this much you'll be able to keep the conversation going forever! It's easy once you catch on.

And the main thing - you have to keep ATTRACTION in the conversation. Don't talk about American Idol and just gossip. Misinterpret what this woman says to you and use it to your advantage in a good way.

Understand?

I'll leave it at that, but, you know, I would like to help you out more if you want.

Yeah, go ahead and email me at [e-mail] and I'd be more than willing to help you out.

Brock

Answer 3

Talk about whatever comes into your head. Music, sports, whatever you're interested in. And when they talk, listen, and then ask questions about what they said. Then they'll explain, and you can ask more questions or share a similar story or whatever's the case. After a while it'll just flow naturally, don't sweat it.

Answer 4

the best thing to do is tell a cute qwirky story about ur childhood i/ and woman love that u can open up and be sensitive but not too sensitive to make me think ur a whimp. Once u open up about urself she'll tell u something and now u can go back and forth analyzing each others stories and finding out wat u have in common , then once u get confortable tell her about ur intressts and ask her about hers it get real easy after that try not to let the conversation carry on for days break it off after 45-1h and tell her that u would love to talk and listen over diner or coffee, even some kool-aid ...and that become a second date. ;) Goodluck playa

Answer 5

Usually your conversation will died out fast if your mind is full of what you should say to try to impress the one you're talking to. Just talk like you normally would to a friend without trying hard of wanting to impress.

Answer 6

Sometimes it is better to listen. Are you talking about in groups? Usually when I saying something, it ends up being stupid. Make sure to put yourself in the groups shoes if you are about to say something stupid.

Like I called the test tube a battery operated sex machine. In retrospect, not good.

For women, less is more. They'll talk your head off.

Answer 7

read "Conversationally Speaking" by Alan Garner

for now develop a genuine curiosity in other people and learn to evoke peoples emotions. Logic-based conversations are boring

Answer 8

well if it is awkward then that means that that is not the person for u. if u can not flow then that means that u guys are not good for eachother and u should find someone else that u can have a great conversation with and also make sure that u guys can share a great silence together because when it is quiet just think about it being ur special moment with that person and talking is not goin to get in the way and good luck

Answer 9

in my opinion, u have to have info on news... like the current hottest new.... who is the famous artist and general knowledge... then when u have a conservation... u have to see also ... the other 1 is interes wirh wat thing... if he/she is the 1 not reading news everyday and dont know what is hapening currently... then the conservation will stop...
i think the most easy thing is to say ur current situation in watever area and ask hr give conservation... always open question and give change to the peartner give opinion and then the conservation will last...
talk bout ur interest.... the trip jz happen ..... or maybe others thing which bothof u are common in,....
trust me,.... it make conservation last longer....

jz give it a try.... thn it wont end up will silence mode ...
haah

Answer 10

if you cant think of anything to say, ask them what they are doing on the weekend, did they watch a popular tv show etc, if they havent they probably will still ask you about it. if there is absolutely nothing else left to say then say seeya later and catch up with them another time

Answer 11

Try to talk about your day or their day, or do something while you're talking and talk about that.