I am 16 years old and I want to move out of my house with a roomate how could I ask my grandparents?

Question

I am a 16 year old female who has had a very hard life living with my grandparents and not my parents.. My brother was taken from by DHS from my parents as was I. I moved around a lot durning my freshman year and didn't do so good in school. My mom is a drug addict same as my dad and they try to walk in and out of my life. I want to move out so I can be away from all the drama and unstableness that goes on where I live.I have a boyfriend who is willing to help me, i am fixing to get my GED, and a job plus a stable roof over my head. I need to leave on my own to see if I can make it without having to depend on my grandparents like their 34 year old son does my dad is a BUM. Please Please Help Me With My Situation. I need to try to get out or I feel like I will be drug into my parents lives and I dont mean that in a good way (LITERALLY).... SOS

Answer 1

Roll with it...just tell them exactly how you just told us!

Answer 2

only way this will work, is for a legal guardian sign you off as an adult or for you to get married, which she will have to sign as well, until u are 18. Because until you are 18, you are considered a minor and there for, IF your legal guardian does not approve they can put you in a juvenile center. Which you do not want either.
If I was you, I would stick it out with the grandparents. Continue the GED, get the job. Maybe pay your grandparent a little on the side to help out and open a savings account, add whatever you can over the next two years until u turn 18. That will get you on your feet better with some extra money. I know it is hard living with grandparents. You are not the bum, you are not a child either. But you do need some time until you reach that adult age. It's not but a couple years IF that, just add up on paper what you can give to ur grandparent and what you can save over that time...you will see how much further you will be able to better yourself in the long run.

Answer 3

Nobody who is concerned with your welfare is going to think what you want to do is a good idea. Mainly because you are so young - you really have no idea how easily you could get into trouble living on your own. Young girls are easily exploited especially when they need help.
I'll bet that your boyfriend is the one you'd be living with.
Your hard life is not going to be a reason to go from the household of 'family' to a household of someone who you have a sexual relationship with at the age of 16.
What you can do is talk to someone from DHS and ask them what you can do to have a more stable homelife where you are.
Your dad may be a bum but he's also the son of your grandparents. If your idea of too much drama is your grandparents letting their own son into their lives, then you are right, of course, but this is just part of life too. You need to be protected from the discussions and repercussions of all the mistakes your father makes.
Perhaps the best solution would be to have a counselor work with you on some coping skills so you could weather those storms. Easy to say, I know. But parents have to deal with their grown children. Their grown children want to have contact with THEIR children (you). That's just the way it is, and it comes with the whole parental love and responsibility package. (Notice I didn't say that your parents are very successful with that whole package, just that they are stuck with it like anyone else....)

Answer 4

Sounds like an idea accept hopefully your not going from the frying pan into the frier. You need a place to stay and if your grandparents have a room thats fine. Obviously you are not ready for a child so dont put yourself in a situation when you may end up pregnant. Get the GED, Get the job and get what you need on your own without help. You could possibly work 2 jobs until youmake the money you need for your own apartment.

Answer 5

I get the feeling that this "roommate" is not really a "roommate" but, in fact, your boyfriend. Your parents may be addicts, and they might be bums, but if you rush headlong into the world, you might actually run right into trouble. I would challenge you to return to high school and get your diploma. That sounds crazy given your situation. The only way you can truly escape the "drama" is to get an education. Go back to high school, finish, graduate. Apply to college, educate yourself. Be in a relationship because you want to, not because you have to. Unless there's more to the story, unless your grandparents are part of the abuse, then you might be safer with them and finishing school. I watched my sister-in-law make choices based on getting away from people or situations. Now, with a child and alone, she has failed the GED exam twice and her life, and that of her child is on hold until she passes this test, and the CNA course and the LPN course. You're 16, and life has robbed you of the childhood you deserved. Get an education, rise above the chaos that surrounds you. You didn't deserve the past tribulations, but you can affect your future.

Answer 6

well it all depends on what is the legal age in your country. if u already studying varsity subjects it sounds that the legal age is 16. so u will be able to move into a small flat and wont need any form of consent.

if u do need consent u might have to get ur grandparents permission first else go to a social worker and find out how to go about getting legal consent.

Just know that even though u seem really mature in mind u still need an adult consultant or guardian of some sort. . .

good luck

Answer 7

It's nice that your boyfriend wants to help you but it's a bad idea to go that route. If you truly want to make it on your own, as you say you do, then you should have your own place. Get a job and save your money, every single penny. You'll need every single penny to buy a car and pay for the insurance and upkeep, pay deposit and rent and utilities and get furniture; pay for food and clothing. It's not easy out there in the big world. Just stay away from your folks as much as possible and keep yourself on the straight and narrow. It would be best to finish high school. Whatever you decide, be safe out there!

Answer 8

Good intentions bad idea and nothing good can come out of it, a 16 yr old living with her boyfriend ?! um no - its only 2 more yrs, you are a smart girl, you go back to high school because GED even though good and it takes alot of courage to go back and get one in the real world my friends who have GEDS get frowned upon in the work force - go back to high school get a scholarship and get the hell out of there - your 16 and in a bad situation your boyfriend is all you see as stability and love in your life, and he could genuinely love you and if he does he'll support you by applauding and cheering on your every good decision and desire to suceed and move forward even when chaos and despair is looking you right in the eyes

Answer 9

You want to go out and play adult at 16, when you're not even old enough to sign a legal document? Yeah.....go to your room, study for your GED, if you pass it, stay with your grandparents and go to college. This way you can get a real job when you graduate college and make enough money to live on your own. That way you won't be banging on your grandparents' door one day begging to come back because you got evicted again.

Answer 10

tell ur grandparents what you just said. you said you didn't want to be a drug addict like ur father. and mother. and they haven't been the best role models for you.
my advice is that.. ur on the right track. you want to have a better life. you want to stay away from the drama. and all the bad things. well, if you tell ur grandparents that you don't want to be a drug addict. and that you want to be a better infuence to other people. they'll understand.
im here for you if u need anything else.
best of luck

Answer 11

You are only 16. Your grandparents, even if you will not be living with them anymore will still be liable and responsible to everything that happens to you. They are only trying their best to keep you safe until you reach the age of 18. They believe that with your roomate, anything might happen to you which will later depress them. So while you are still 16, try to be patient to live with them for the meantime.