Here's the situation: my sister and brother in law got a 30 day notice to vacate because they were renting a condo and the owner decided to sell. My brother in law waited until the last minute to find an apartment. Finally, they found an apartment but they can't move in until September 15 (they have to vacate by August 15). They have two kids. Since they have to vacate and can't get the apartment for another month, they want to stay with us (we have two kids of our own). I absolutely refused because we rent an apartment and the landlord will get concerned with so many people at our place for a month. I love my sister but I need my sanity. I finally got their landlord's number and explained the situation to them and got an extension. When the landlord went to collect rent, my brother in law refused to give it and now says he doesn't have money for rent. Instead of staying there another month, and moving into the new apt. on Sept. 15, he insists on staying with us. Any ideas?
2007-08-05 18:12:11 · 3 answers · asked by Curious1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You told him no, so staying at your place isn't an option. If you are smart you will pay his rent and be done with it. You pay the landlord, I wouldn't trust this bozo as far as you could throw him. Don't let this guy move in, he may never move out.
2007-08-05 18:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. This is a tough one. I can see why you might not want to have your brother-in-law move in. He clearly has problems meeting the most fundamental of financial obligations. You really DON'T want to have your finances tied to his even for one month.
On the other hand...
This is your sister. I don't know how close you and your sister are, but I can only frame it the way I would act. I am very close to my two sisters, and I would probably let them move in. You may not like the idea of her husband moving in, but I could never turn my sister away. If she asked for a place to live for her family, I would accomodate. It's family. She may owe you one later, but I don't think I could turn away my own sister and her children, even if it meant letting a brother in law with bad financial judgment move in. Just keep your finances separate.
It's temporary, and they're family. I would either let them move in, or help them find some other temporary place to stay. But that's just me.
2007-08-06 01:32:11 · answer #2 · answered by MdnytTokr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say let them stay with you for a month, but let him know that you need to charge some rent and that you have a list of house rules that will need to be adhered to and that he really is putting you and your family in a difficult situation. it's not worth putting strain on the relationship between you and your sister by saying no, and you can use this time to get close to her kids and for her to get closer to theirs and for all the cousins to spend time together. you should not have called their landlord, that was underhanded and demeaning even though i'm sure you had the best intentions.
2007-08-06 01:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by tella stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋