My ex-fiance and I dated for a year and 3 months. We were great together, we shared the same beliefs, morals, ideas, everything. But I was going through a rough time in other areas of my life and my own stupidity tore us apart. We thought we would remain friends but we ended up upset and angry over the split. Now he won't talk to me and he's getting married to someone else even though we've only been apart for four months. I know it seems like I should let it go but I can't. I'm just so strongly convinced that we could work it out, or at least give it a try before he jumps into a marriage. He refuses to talk to me and says it's best that he forgets about me at all. I have changed from the person I was and I really want to make this work. Do you think there's any chance of getting him back? If so, do you have any advice for what I can do?
2007-08-05 17:22:54 · 13 answers · asked by Jess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he wouldn't talk then there is not much you can do.
Do you know his new fiance?
If so you can get her to talk to him, and make sure he not just jumping into something.
4 months is not that long to know someone.
If you talkto him you really need to tell him sorry!
Life goes on and their proably someone better wait for you around the corner.
Get you life together and don't wait for the next one, live your life.
God has a plan for you, and a mate.
2007-08-05 17:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by nbice66103 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-11 08:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize. Talk to him HONESTLY... this happened to me, but I was the broken up with and he was the one who broke it off... it was too late for me by the time he talked to me about what really happened, and the rough time he was going through at the time, etc. He waited 8 months to talk, and then didn't get to the point for another 4....
I don't think 4 months is too long... and I think whether or not y'all are right for eachother Mr. ex fiance is definitely rebounding. And that will not make him happy in the long run.
I think what he is afraid of is that you will not be stable enough for a marriage... I hate to be that blunt... but that's what I thought about Joseph (my ex)... I just felt if he freaked out over small things like jitters, finances, etc before the wedding... what was going to happen when REAL life happened to us... I mean, marriage is wonderful, but life is tough! So, eventually I really did want him out of my life for good... but unlike your ex I gave him a chance.
He only blew it when he said he still loved me and missed me and had never stopped... but was dating someone else because he was pretty much desperate and didn't love her the same way, but was afraid to talk to her about it, afraid to hurt her, and afraid to talk to my Dad... and I thought... WOW this guy just hasn't changed. Too much drama. So I said goodbye for good.
Soooo... when you get your chance, don't blow it!
Good luck!
2007-08-05 17:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost zero chance of getting together. Think of it as part of your body amputated. You'll suffer for awhile but will get over it within another year if you don't indulge in eating your heart over it.
The guy is not necessarily the prince you think him to be.
2007-08-13 17:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by taxigringo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talkin to him and makin sure he knows your sincere is the best option. Nothing else to it. A relationship is built on solid communication and how open ya'll are. Make it worth it and make him understand. If not, live your life, please dont dwell. Grow from it...whether you get em or not.
2007-08-13 14:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. President 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him free to do what he is convinced and find the proper time to communicate with him. It will come even it not there yet.
2007-08-13 16:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jesús Ernesto Miguel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am thinking he had someone on the side that is why he is getting married sooner then you were shocked hey? so why do you want him just because it was maybe your fault look how fast he could run and find someone new he can do that after your wedding and leave you dry. go on and find someone knew.
2007-08-13 15:58:28 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you truely care about him and want him to remain a part of your life, you need to accept his decision to wed another, but tell him how much you value his friendship and that you honeslty want to remain close friends with him. and that's about as much as you can do, then the balls in his court.
2007-08-13 17:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by cori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you thnk that you guys could have worked something out tell him that if he doesnt want to listen then maybe he wasnt the one there are plenty more fish in the sea just dont take mine lol
2007-08-13 13:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by ashley is amazing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn from it and move on. Relationships are a full time job, not to be taken lightly.
2007-08-13 16:20:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋