virginity?

Question

I have a associate who is a little on the ''wild side''
She tells me that I am missing out on all the fun because I'm not giving into the potential guys who i can have a ''wild night with''.
I've always told myself that I would loose it to a special person who i know would love me, respect me and my body. But when it comes to it, it does seem like I'm missing out on the fun, and pleasure. But then again I think how could I sacrifice one night of pleasure, it could turn into a lifetime of pain. I want to be liked, I want to be well known with great friends. Entering my senior year, i feel as if there is probably going to be more peer pressure when it comes to my virginity. I've stayed strong, but don't know how to stay stronger. Am I really missing out on anything? Should i just go for it? Is sex really worth waiting for?

Answer 1

Take your time,
Believe it or not,.. most guys (including me) are looking for girls with little or none experience. And it really makes you a whore if your a "party girls",. and guys will only treat you like trash.
So my advice is; save it,...
There are a lot of guys who are looking for their princess.

Answer 2

No, you are not missing out on anything. Sex is not all it's cracked up to be. Everybody sais you have to do it, it's so great, well I'm telling you, it's not that big of deal. Please don't let people influence you into sex, that is your body and not theirs, you have control over yourself. Wait until you find love because if you want to really know what feels the best, that is being in love with someone for a while and then making love to them. You can never have a feeling just having, like the feeling you get when you make love to someone you truly love and you know that they truly love you too. You stayed strong for a while now and just because there might be a little more pressure doen't mean you will get weaker, it means you will get that much stronger in waiting for someone who you love. I'm telling you it is definately worth the wait and if you decide to just have sex for fun you will definately regret not waiting for that special guy. Good luck with your decision and your life.

Answer 3

well i'm 19, in college, and still a virgin. but you're right, there are peer pressures, and there are times where i think maybe i am missing out on something that could be great! But then i think again, and i've always been brought up believing that i should wait till i find the right person and i think if i've waited this long and i lost my virginity to some random guy i would be devastated! I think you've waited a long time and you can wait longer. in college, its not much of a pressure unless you have a serious bf. nobody really cares if you're a virgin unless they're not really your friends! i dont think we're missing out THAT much, so just wait a lil until you feel totally ready! cuz as for me i dont feel ready even though i've heard wonders about sex, i dont think i can handle the responsibilities that come along with it.

Answer 4

oh please wait!!! Not enough people do anymore. It's wonderful, sex that is. But no so wonderful if it's not something your completely sure of doing at the moment. It's so worth the wait, and you know something, your going to have to deal with peer preasure in many other ways other than having sex, so why should you give in to your beliefs just to " Fit" in. Really your not fittingin, your comforming to fit in with others beliefs and values or lack there of to be quite honest. Anyone you have sex with at your age is ONLY looking for that, and that alone. So why would you give that up to someone out there that doesn't value you for you. If your friends, male or female make it such a big issue, then find new friends .=) You never know, the one friends who is telling you to go for it, it's great, and oh your really missing out, just as well might be the friend sitting the party out because she's pregnant, and or has a STD. So you tell me, is it really worth it? Yes I do honestly believe so. And even if you don't wait till your officially married to do so, well thats you and your partners decision then, but it's more than worth it to make sure it is the one you truley love. Only others who have waited will tell you that, cause the majority that didn't wait, are envious that they don't have what you now do.....Best wishes.....

Answer 5

By all means You have a good head on your shoulder.

You know what you want in a life partner and I believe that You don't have to please everyone by having sex with whomever....
I am a married woman and I wish that I had saved myself for my husband.
Sex is not all that. When you have sex with whomever just for the fun or pleasure, you are missing out on a lot.

You have stayed strong all this time and I believe that you are capable of staying as strong if not stronger when you say that you want to stay a virgin until you meet that right person.
If you stray and have sex now, you have lost that important part of you and you won't be able to get it back.

If it bothers your friends, so be it. You don't' have to prove anything to them ! It's not good to lie but in your case, one white lie won't harm and if they pressure you, tell them you already have.

This is YOUR body and YOUR Mind that you will have to live with whether or not you have sex for " pleasure " or not.

Answer 6

Losing your virginity is a big thing. I'd say just save yourself until you find that right person to share that special moments with. Once you lose it, you'll regret or wished that you waited. Don't let your friends put pressures on you. It would not make you look cool if you lose your virginity, some may label you a nasty names. Let me tell you, I've waited until I got married to lose my virginity and it was the most awesome time! It was so special that I'll never forget it. So my best bet is do what you think is best for you. No you're not really missing out on anything. You should at least consider your thoughts and feelings before you go for it!

Answer 7

Nobody can tell you if it's worth waiting for but you...for some it is, for some it isn't...problem is, you don't know until you do it, and then it's too late to change your mind and wait or not wait.

Do what's right for you, because that's what you decide to do (not out of any peer pressure...giving in to that is a copout). But think of these things first...

Sex not occur before:
1. You are ready to deal with a pregnancy, should it occur
2. You are ready to deal with an STD, should it occur
3. When you know how a woman can become pregnant (all the ways it can occur)
4. When you know what the various STDs are and how they are transmitted and how to help protect against them
5. When you are ready to insist your partner wear a condom (female) or insist that you wear one (male)
6. When you are on a reliable form of birth control and using it properly (female) or ensure that she is (male)
7. When you are ready to deal with any emotional issues that may come from being intimate with another person.

Until you've got those things covered, you should not have sex.

Answer 8

All your missing out on is the problems it can give you.
Pregnant, STD's, pains, bad reputations.
When you're in love and feel like it's the right time, believe me, it will be worth it. And you will never forget it.
If you don't wait until that time, you will feel cheap, dirty, easy, etc...
Maybe she's just making it sound so wonderful because she's actually jealous because you have waited, and don't have a bad reputation, and don't have to worry from month to month if you're pregnant or not, and don't have to worry if you have an STD or not.
When you do wait and it's with the right person believe me you won't be sorry that you waited and it will actually make it even that more special ;)

Answer 9

hmmm, that's a toughy, i mean some think that sex is overrated and stuff like that will come up because of peer pressure. i think that if you really do want to loose it to a "special someone" then i think you should stick to your guns. in terms of wanting to be liked and known, i don't think sleeping around will get you the kind of attention you want. friends will come and go but only a true friend would respect your feelings towards your virginity. personally, i think that things happen at their own time. the way i see it, if right now you feel that the right time hasn't come, you've waited this long, can't you wait some more? best of luck

Answer 10

You are missing out on the pleasure of a night of wild sex but you are also missing out on other things. You are missing the month after month worrying about getting pregnant, the risk of getting a STD, the pain of thinking a guy likes you only to find it was just sex, and the reputation of being easy.

Save yourself the heartache and keep your virginity until you are ready.

Answer 11

It is worth waiting to be with the right person. You can't set an unreasonable standard for yourself and plan to be a virgin until you are 30, but it is definitely an experience that should be shared with someone you truly care about and who truly cares about you. If you aren't really into the person and they aren't really considerate of you, you aren't going to have a good experience. And a one-night party guy is not going to be that concerned about you. It sounds like a lot of your high school friends are serious partiers, but not everyone you know is always going to be into random sex. You'll have friends in college who are different and you don't need to be throwing your body around. You need to do what you feel comfortable with, and it's clear that having sex isn't really what you want.