About two months ago my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years broke up with me or should i say suggested that we take a break. At first i didn't get y b/c things had been going really good at the time. He then told me that he was afraid that we were too young to be so serious (we're 19) and that lately he'd been thinking bout marriage. He told me that it scared him and that we needed to take a break so we could "experience life w/o eachother b4 we commited to eachother." I cried but said okay.
Now it seems that we see even more of eachother, still going out with eachother on dates, talking every nite on the fone, etc. everything seems good until ask what the point of the break was if we still act like we're 2gether.
I think he's selfish b/c he wants the benefits of a gf w/o being tied down.i haven't I have no idea what i should do and whether or not i'm being a fool for sticking around waiting for him to want to make it official again. I think that i haven't given him time 2 miss me yet.
2007-08-05 16:20:08 · 8 answers · asked by Ms. I luv dc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that's it u answer your own question u haven't given him time to miss u stop having sex with him he is being selfish he wants u & who ever else stop being so available when he calls i know its hard cause u love him but if his feelings was as strong as yours u would not be going thougth this now.
2007-08-13 13:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by shay love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of my friends have been on "breaks" suggested by their boyfriends. Why? Personally I think its because they need time to be single to see if they enjoy it better. In most cases, they don't. They realize they were better off in a relationship and thats when they will miss you more than ever. Breaks are hard, i havnt been through one but I have seen my friends. Its up to you whether you take him back right away. Your not a fool either way, sometimes its better for you to let them realize how good they had it
2007-08-13 13:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he wants his cake and eat it too. which tells me he might be manipulative and controlling. did you catch any such tendencies when u were together in the past 2.5 years? he wants you on HIS terms without commitment.
i knew someone like this (a girl) and she was a manipulative, controlling b!otch with her otherfriends as well. she seemed attracted to people with low selfesteem and doormats. she did the SAME THING to her boyfriend of 3 years and still treats him as a bf only when convienient to her. it disgusts me. for example, she really really liked this other guy, and the guy wouldnt have sex with her. she wanted to but he only let her make out (which is surprising for a guy to reject the advances of a girl) the guy told her he wouldnt be her boyfriend, guess who she hung out with ALL DAY the next day? the ex-bf....he is her safety cushion. the poor fella doesnt even know what's goin on. i DOUBT she tells him....that's just my theory. i hope he one day sees that she is puting him second because she believes she can do better, however she is SO insecure, she keeps him around as a backup. therefore she can move on at convenience and he is still stuck in love with her (and she knows it too by the way)
im sorry i went off on a rant.
you should tell him what you want: a clean split so then YOU can have the opportunity to get over him. you have to do what is best for YOU not convenient for him. i hope you are not a doormat like the poor ex-bf of my acquaintance....
i hope this helps and is not too harsh......
2007-08-05 16:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right that he wants you but without the commitment. If you would prefer a commitment, tell him thats what you want and he can like it or leave.
2007-08-05 16:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait around for him. You are too young to be tied down. Soar your wild oats.
2007-08-13 15:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by ashonti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he could be two timing you and beng careful to have two instead of one. and i think he does not want to marry and be stuck down but he knows you do. maybe you are type of one man type and hes not one woman and hes now proving himself. so i would move on and find someone more compatible. its safe to say he can't be trusted now.
2007-08-13 15:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So all n all he jst wnts a GF w/ only the gud benefits but w/o the commitment. wats up wit dat?! wat gud is dis 4 u? why let him hve only wat mkes him happy wen he's not evn thinkin bout wat wuld mke u happy? yah u guys r 2 young 2 think beyond but it's wat mkes ur realtionship mre fun excitin 2 c wat culd rlly happen cuz no1 evr knows whre there relatioship culd trn. u shuldn't let him do that if he rlly cres 4 u he wuld @ least let u hve a say so that the both of u agree 2 wats goin on between u 2 n that ure both happy not jst him.
2007-08-13 11:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by *hayn/filipina* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he still shows interest in you
2007-08-05 16:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by jeremie_kng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋