I'm 18, my brother is 16 and i have no idea what i should do about it. I don't want to be really harsh on him or tell my parents something that will make them think i don't care.
2007-08-05 15:51:39 · 28 answers · asked by Brian B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take him down to skid row or wherever the homeless hang out and show him how pathetic those people are. Many of them are there because of addictions or alcoholism. Ask him if thats where he wants his life to go.
2007-08-05 15:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell your parents it is not fair for you to decide the punishment. THEY are the parents, NOT you. That really puts you in a bad position because you know what it is like to be young but you also care about your brother however you are NOT the parent you should not have the pressure to decide the punishment and have your brother mad at you if you decide something too harsh.
If you cannot get outta this for some reason if I were you I would make him be more open in communication and tell your parents where hes going, what hes doing when he will be back etc. Also to set a rule saying if he is caught with it again you will put him into a rehab program or ground him or something gay like that
2007-08-05 15:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow!
I do not understand why you have to decide the punishment...that would surely put a rift between you and your brother.
It should be up to your parents to take responsibility and show your brother that they care about him.
I am a mother and would not dream of having one of my other children decide a punishment.
Also your brother needs help more than punishment. Punishment does not help someone on drugs...help helps.
Let your parents know that you feel that finding help for your brother would help him much more than punishing him, that punishment might make him want to take more drugs as he is wanting to take drugs for a reason, hopefully the reason can be found out and remedied before it is too late. Be matter of fact about it but not disrespectful as you want them to hear what you have to say. (not too sure on your situation but hopefully you have parents that will listen)
Your parents need to step up and take action, be supportive and firm, it is not OK to be starting drugs weed can lead to other harder drugs.
Good luck and I hope that your brother gets help and your parents will listen.
2007-08-05 16:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by napaneefc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite frankly, it is unfair for your parents to chicken out and turn you into the "bad guy". Disciplining your brother is their responsibility, not yours.
I would suggest to your parents that they are the ones best suited to mete out punishments in this situation. Tell them that, while you do not approve of what your brother has done, you have no idea what would be an appropriate punishment and you would prefer not to antagonize your relationship with your younger brother by attempting to take the place of your parents.
As a parent, I am outraged that your parents would put this on you. Very chickens*@t of them, if you ask me...Sorry for the language.
MA
2007-08-05 16:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by moms2398 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do nothing, even if they insist., They are shirking their responsibility. If they continue to harass you, call the police and get this settled in a court. Your parents are fearful of their son's resentments towards them, so would rather do nothing.
That is unfortunate, but you must say This is YOUR risibility as parents, end of discussion, do you understand?
If they get upset with your or punish you, do indeed go to the police and ask for a restraining order against your paren'ts.
I, as a p-arent, made the decisions.
However, you could, on the sly, ask your brother to discuss the matter with them and agree o9n a punishment., I fear he is a jerk and Will repeat his mistakes.
Show him the latest finding on pot ( weed) by a google search. It does indeed hare serious side effects.
2007-08-05 16:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but your parents are just "passing the buck". How can they even call themselves "parents" if they want you to do the parenting? It is NOT your responsibility to decide what punishment your brother receives. Talk to you parents and tell them (without being disrespectful) that you feel it is their responsibility to decide what punishment your brother receives and that you will support THEM in whatever punishment THEY decide.
2007-08-05 15:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by LovinLife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... if your parents are leaving the punshment up to you the must thing you have really good judgment. I think you should be tough on him. Im 18 too and have a 16 year old brother and if i ever had to punish him for something like that ( which im glad i dont have to bc he wouldnt do that. no offense to u or ur brother. really.) I wouldnt be easy on him. Doing weed can ruin his future if he keeps doing it. you have to think about it long and hard and make sure that its something that will make him learn his lesson and never do it again.
2007-08-05 15:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should talk to your parents before you decide anything. I don't know how you feel about this situation, but i would feel that your parents are putting your family in trouble. I, personally wouldn't want to ruin my relationship with my brother. After you talk to your parents, i would tell your brother how you feel. Tell him to stop what hes doing. Make it clear that he made a really bad mistake, but let him know that there are people who love him and dont want him to be hurt.
2007-08-05 16:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
actually you shouldn't be punishing him instead give him advice let your parents handle it. when people are using drugs you shouldn't make him feel like the whole world is against him now that his caught he needs somebody to trust and speak with instead gain his trust that way you can always find out if he is doing it the best things is a family meeting (intervention) after the meeting sit down with him and let him confide in you to tell you everything
2007-08-05 15:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by pitzzzz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um......I don't know the situation but it's totally inappropriate for your parents to push this off on you. The only reason I can think of is that you are the one that gave it to your brother. Regardless of the reason your brother got caught or how he got it, your parents should not do that to you. It's not right!
2007-08-05 15:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by lchardy70 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell you parents that it is NOT your responsibility to dish out the punishment. End of story! Your parents should not have put you in this position.
2007-08-05 16:01:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋