I'm 19 and i just started college last yr and I met this asian guy who i thought was perfect and was going to treat me well because he is more cultured. For the first month he was amazing but then i found out he slept with 4 other girls on my floor!!! I still love him and he told me he wont cheat and he didnt know that we were in a "relationship" but he says that he wouldnt want to start a relationship with anyone else? should i forgive him? he's 19 too.
2007-08-05 15:37:14 · 39 answers · asked by Kevin L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-05 15:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate him! Should I forgive him?
Are you certain you're 19?
Is this the first guy you've ever dated/slept with?
Jessica, Jessica.
You're in college now-a place of higher learning. Do you really need/ are you really that desperate for a guy that you would lower and reduce yourself to trusting and
chasing and waiting around for some twerp
who is sleeping around with: not 1; not 2;
not 3; but 4 (FOUR) OTHER GIRLS?
What are you, trying to get AIDS or something?
You're old enough now to where you should
already know what to do. Drop this jerk and kick him to the curve.
Forgive him? He didn't know that the two of you were in a "relationship"? Is he slow. dumb or stupid? Or does he just think that you are? Don't be fooled by petty, schoolyard tactics. Learn to know when you're being hustled and conned.
You're an adult now, living in an adult world.
It's time you;ve made some mature decisions.
2007-08-05 16:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by sylvester m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! You're 19 years old. Not to make you or anyone else sound like a "loose" or promiscuous woman, but you will be with several more men in your life. You're 19! I know you don't realize what I'm saying, but you'll understand how naive I think you are in about 10-12 years. You need to keep your options open and don't even think of committing to anyone right now. Leave doors open and explore for at least the next 7-10 years. You have no idea. This is the best advice you'll receive...please use it wisely!
2007-08-05 15:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by Fielding Mellish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think back into your 'relationship.' Do you think he legitimally did not know you were in a romantic relationship? If this is a possibility, then maybe he truly was not on the same page as you- as far as what he thought the two of you were. If you are willing to give him another chance you need to have a clear talk about how serious you want this relationship to be.
But the whole sleeping with 4 other girls on your floor would not make me think twice about the relationship. I'd personally dump him. But, it is up to you to decide how to handle it.
2007-08-05 15:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by January 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater almost ALWAYS a cheater... hate to break it to you. What makes it worse is he pretended that he didnt know you were in a relationship? You know that is a bunch of bull he disrespected you and treated you like dirt. The best thing you can do for yourself is find someone else. Because even if you do get back together with him you dont always want to be wondering in the back of your mind if he is cheating on you.
2007-08-05 15:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be with this guy, but you aren't sure you can trust him to be monogamous, then you should just date him - or leave him alone. I say, forget the exclusivity. You're 19! There will plenty of time for you to attach yourself to one person. And when you do, you will be more assured that it's the right one. Don't waste your time or your feelings on these types of relationships right now. Wait until you are finished college and certain that you are ready to "settle down."
2007-08-05 15:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think that it was possibly he didn't know that you two were in a relationship because he must have done SOMETHING to make you think you were his girlfriend? and even if he didn't he slept with FOUR other girls and it doesn't look like he treated them well. there are plenty of asian cultured guys lying around.
2007-08-05 15:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by Twilight182 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should forgive him.
The reason he gave you for sleeping with other girls (not knowing you two were in a "relationship") is so brilliant, that even if it weren't true, he deserves a second chance just for being smart enough to come up with that idea.
2007-08-05 17:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess if he did not think you two where in a relationship, you can not hold his "trampy" ways against him. I would be concerned about a guy that just recently was sleeping around quite heavily and then suddenly stops. If you have an understanding now, with an exclusive relationship and you trust him, why not.
2007-08-05 15:41:30 · answer #9 · answered by Steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All what you can live with, Dear. Do you like this dude enough to forget about what he has done? If not, the answer is easy, tell him to have fun with your floormates. If you do like him, forget it, start over with him and see what the future holds...Who knows? It may work out great! Good luck...
2007-08-05 15:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by Coach E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the other girls he slept with (as hard as that may seem) ask them if they mentioned u or any other of the 3 girls
"moniter" if he cheets or not for a lil while (like on another girl, meening give it a sum time)
then make a desicion
2007-08-05 15:41:30 · answer #11 · answered by strawberrygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋