Have you experienced the loss of a parent? If so, do you still "talk" to them and hope they look down on you?

Question

I have. I lost my father about 4 1/2 years ago, I still talk to him from time to time and hope that he can look down and see the life I've created for myself and my daughter - he always worried about us because I'm a single mother.

Do you think they can look down on us, or at least on some level be aware of how we are and that we still love them?

Joe, I don't care what anyone thinks about me doing this, I am curious to know if anyone else does as well.

Milmom and RamJet: Our family celebrates/recognizes their special days too. Yesterday would have been Daddy's 67th birthday - my Mom and Sisters got together and looked at old Super 8's together, but alas, I live too far away and wasn't able to make the trip. Thanks for your answers.

Nandina, I was sad to hear your dad dies when you were so young, I bet he would have loved seeing you grow up and discover life and all it holds for us. Blessings to you.

Answer 1

(((MEL))) I'm sorry to hear you lost your dad too. I just lost my dad in June. I "talk to him" (though I am really talking to the Lord) during those moments when the grief washes over me anew. Does he hear me? I agree with both Ramjet and bonsai. Nothing is impossible with God--it may be that he allows our loved ones to see glimpses of those they left behind. I don't really know for sure, but I have asked Jesus to tell my dad things occasionally. Even if He doesn't, I know my dad is with God, and that my heavenly Father hears me and comforts me, and that is enough.

Answer 2

I have lost many loved ones, family and friends, I don't hope they are looking down on me, I "wonder" if that is so. What I do believe is love never dies, So I do draw on the strength of the love that was while they lived. The memory of the love gives me strength to carry on, when I am at low ebb. In passing, yes I do mentially speak to mostly my husband, But not in depth. Nor as often as I use to. Mainly the love remembered fulls me, I do belive it is always there, That love is always more in touch with me, then I am with it. So if one believes, God/love are one and the same, that we can not have one with out the other, Neither God/love never die, So
both God/love are spirit, Hopefully both live in me, I do belive
we are in touch, But not like those gone are watching me as a movie!

P.S. My favorite John 10-14-15/John 10-27-28. Matt 7-13.
Hymns (many) Amazing Grace. Will The Circle Be Unbroken.
The Good Shepherd is my favorite face of Jesus.
Blessings

Answer 3

Yes Melicious! I have lost a parent. I look forward to seening my mother in the great resurrection. The Bible clearly teaches that the dead don't know anything that is happening under the sun. Even their thoughts perish at death. Your deceased father is resting in the grave until the resurrection day which shall take place at the end of the world.
Read: Ecclesiastes 9:5,6. i hope this helps and congratulations on your new TC status.

Answer 4

I recently lost my father MEL.
He was only 74.
I don't "talk" to him, but I do talk to Jesus about him. It's still raw.

My mom and sisters and I just got together today to have some laffs, and my sister gave me a tape of some of dad's favourite music. I just finished listening to it.

I don't know that our loved ones can "look down" on us, but I do think that there must be some sort of awareness there, after all, scripture tells us that all the "saints" are in prayer. There really is a great mystery about what happens in heaven isn't there?


blessings dear. :)

Answer 5

Your father like mine is asleep in his grave waiting on the Lord's return at which time He will resurrect the dead and those who are righteous He will give immortality and take to heaven and those who are wicked will call for the rocks to fall on them.

Read Ecclesiastes 9:5, John 5:28,29, Job 14:11-15, 1 Corinthians 15:16-22

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Answer 6

My mother died two months ago from complications of lung cancer. Over the several days when she was in a coma I had the sense that she was moving further and further away from us, and a couple of days before her body shut down I had the feeling that she was gone, spiritually speaking.

Where is she now? I don't know, but I had the feeling that she was at peace during her dying process. I still think of her every day and mentally tell her that I love her, just in case she is listening, but I believe that she has become one with the universe, which is what she always wanted.

Answer 7

I am sorry to hear of the loss of your father,Melicious. I too lost my Dad,last December. Though the dead may not communicate with us..I see no reason,Biblically that would prohibit,asking God though Jesus,to relay messages to lost loved ones. Wheather or not they would be able to receive a message directly from us,is unknown(of course we are not speaking of occultic attempts of communication)...but certainly God understands your grief and wishes to comfort you,personally. I still pray that God spared my Father through Jesus..and have asked for God to show me that my Dad is with him...I am not 100% certain and as of yet...no word...Keep pounding heaven and don't give up without your specific request being made real to you..God will honor your faith!! and will make known to you your request...Absolutely.
There is however, one scripture that lends at least a possibility that our loved ones in heaven may have some knowledge of our lives.

"Likewise, I say unto you, there is joy in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner that repenteth." This joy is in the PRESENCE of the angels Luke 15:10.. It could imply that our loved ones are the ones rejoicing...This is just a possibility.

Answer 8

My father died a little over a year ago. I'm an Agnostic, and I don't know if there is an afterlife or not, but it is a nice thought. I think about him a lot and wonder if he'd be proud of me now. It makes me sad to think that he died before he got to see me follow him in the teaching profession.

Answer 9

I do believe they are "updated" on the status of family left behind. It's been 25 years since my father died and I don't talk to him anymore. There isn't anything wrong with that. Sometimes, this helps us to work out our feelings, as if the person were still there. We imagine the words of wisdom they have to offer.

Answer 10

"Have you experienced the loss of a parent?" - Not yet, and I am worried, as we are close.
"I have." - I am sorry for your loss.
"Do you think they can look down on us, or at least on some level be aware of how we are and that we still love them?" - Yes, all the people that have passed know their loved ones miss them and love them. The Souls of the recently passed look down and if needed help those they are permitted to. All souls in heaven rejoice over all our victories and console us when we need it.
Peace to you and your family.