2007-08-05 15:15:03 · 7 answers · asked by **ChulAninA** 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is a very good question. my ex spends a lot of time with me but he expects me to forget that i love him.... its a good question. you cant forget them if you spend a lot of time with them. the only way you MIGHT forget them is if you dont see them but even then it is hard to forget them if you really love/care about them.
2007-08-05 15:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~Baby D~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless there is a compelling reason for the two of you spend time together, such as having children together, then it's time to detach. If you're both on the same job, maybe you should ask for a transfer or start looking for another job. Start finding friends that are your friends only, not the ex's. Be "busy" whenever they call or stop over. They'll get the message.
2007-08-05 22:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally you just need to spend less time with them, or just completely cut it off. It may sound harsh and rude, but it might just be the best thing to do. The best thing to do if you need to be away from him is to let him down gently. Say something like:
"I'm really sorry, but since we're not going out anymore, I kind of need more time with myself and I personally need to move on. I don't hate you or anything, I just need time to myself, that's all. Maybe once I get enough time to myself, we could be friends?"
Or something along those lines. Just try not to be harsh or anything. It might be hard at first, but time heals everything. Hopefully he'll be understanding and acknowledge that you have needs too.
Much love and good luck~! <3
2007-08-05 22:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by Nobdi'sBabiGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just broke up with my boyfriend a week ago and is still under the recovery stage. we are tgt for about 1 and a half years only. i guess u will have to let go and spend more time with ur friends and family, join more activities, make urself busy maybe find a hobby? drive the sadness you are having to be a strength to improve urself better, move on and find better guys...enjoy being single. i guess replying ur question makes me learn something i don't want to admit. thank you.
2007-08-05 22:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... you cant really forget someone its impossible. but you can move on like get a new person to date. its just a part of life. you can also surround yourself with friends. and put away the pictures of you and them. it seems unfair i bet. but its just the way things go
2007-08-05 22:25:37 · answer #5 · answered by rachie_rache3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch .. i had that problem =/ what i did is i stopped thinking of him in that kind of a way and thought of him more as a friend - do not EVER talk about your relationship with him, or even relationships in general if you can (it's okay to talk about someone else's, but not like: who do you like, how many gf's have you had, etc) and find a new guy !
2007-08-05 22:21:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're stuck being around them, you pretty much don't. As long as you can forgive them though, and can still stand to be around them without feeling anger or guilt then it should be alright then.
2007-08-05 22:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by DMD3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋