ok this is a rather long story but here it goes... my bestfriend, her boyfriend and i were all 3 bestfriends like my whole life, about a year ago she stabbed me in the back majorly, she told me he told her all kinda things that i supposedly said (i didnt say anthing i was very suportive of their relationship) i ended up losing both of them,
but a couple months ago her b/f tracked down my phone number (i had it changed cuz i wanted nothin else to do with either of them) but he explained to me that she made all of that up because she was jealouse of his attraction to me! (i had no idea he even felt that way about me) but anyway he dumped her because of all the lies she told and we are together now (have been for about 2 months)
but lastnight she called me and said they are still together and he is playing me that she was sorry for all the lies and wants to make up cuz she misses her best friend. i dont trust her but i had to take into account that he does flip out anytime he
2007-08-05 15:02:18 · 27 answers · asked by american_princess8907 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thinks we might be talking he just uses the ecuse that she isnt good enough to be my friend, and he wont tell her we are together (he denies it everytime she asks) he says he is doing it to protect me from anything else she might do to hurt me (when our drama started she even went as far as to try and get me into legal trouble… I don’t believe anything she says but it has raised a lot of suspicions… I don’t know if I can trust him now or not…. What do you think?
2007-08-05 15:02:43 · update #1
if it helps any i just turned 18, she is almost 18 and he is 25
2007-08-05 15:03:13 · update #2
I'm terribly sorry you're in this mess, you're as young as I and that's too young to have to deal with this. I'd suggest you stop seeing this guy, who MIGHT be playing you and wait it out. Just say you want some space to work out what you're doing. Doing this can't hurt you either way. If he DOES like you, he will understand. If you're right about him, then he'll probably leave there and then, and the problem will be a lot easier. It can't hurt you to tell him you want space to figure it out (take at LEAST 3 weeks). It will help to test his motives.
The second move should be much easier after these three weeks. If anyone is trying to fool you, it will most likely show in this time. Keep in contact with your old friend and if he is dating her, he would most likely spend a lot of time with her during your "break". You can tweak the details in what you do during the break, but I'm sure this will make the situation a lot easier to decipher. The break should really help, as I said, there really isn't a downside in the end except a few lost weeks if he really does like you. He should understand, especially if he's trying to 'protect you'. Good luck!
2007-08-05 15:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by T W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I think a guy at the age 25 trying to play two 18 year old girls is just plain pathetic! You had it right the first time... you need to avoid both of them at all costs. So if you have to change your number, again, do it. These are negative people that will suck the life right out of you.
Your ex best friend is a lying, manpiulative (b)witch. I cannot believe she lied and made up a story because she is jealous. Furthermore the only reason she contacted you is because of him; otherwise, do you really think she would care about you?
This guy has NO reason what-so-ever not to tell this girl that he is with you or anybody else that matters. If they really are no longer together it shouldn't matter one bit if she knows who he is currently dating. It sounds like this guy is sooo immature and has lots of problems...
you are still kind of young, only being 18, but my advice to you is to WAKE UP. You don't deserve this type of treatment. And for people who are supposed to be your "friends" you certainly don't need to worry about enemies... Stay away!!!!
2007-08-05 15:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by ohmygosh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 02:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is the kind of guy you need to be hanging around. He is much older for one, and two, it's possible he could be playing both of you or he's jealous. It sounds like you made a good decision in the first place, removing yourself from that equation. Maybe this drama is happening now to remind you of why it's better to have no contact with them. It sounds like even if you're friends with one of them there is drama from the other one too. There is probably more to both of their stories that you won't know, so keep that in mind too. Just remember that you deserve respect and honesty, and you should surround yourself with people who treat you right.
2007-08-05 15:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by mrs. lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you were my daughter and she was telling me this stuff, I would tell her that she has other friends who would not treat her this way and that she was right in the first place to not want anything to do with both of them.
It sounds like they are both playing you, in my mind they are both not being a friend to you or to each other, it is a shame.
Ask yourself if you really need this in your life. Was your life happy before they both came back into it?
Are you able to talk with your Mum or Dad about this?
I would want my daughter to talk to me about things such as this.
Do not let others put you down or let you down, be in control of the situation even if it is hard, do it for yourself. Get your parents and other friends support as well.
I hope it all works out as you do not deserve to be treated the way you have been, and to be quite honest based on what you have said who knows who is telling the truth.
2007-08-05 15:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by napaneefc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, you need to ditch them both, again. I wouldn't trust your best friend, but your boyfriend doesn't sound like he's on the up and up, either. I think, from your description, they sound like they are both psychotic, and using you to hurt each other. Get out now. Find a new best friend who will actually BE your friend, and find a boyfriend who doesn't make up all kinds of excuses as to WHY he needs to protect you. A significant other should accept your choices and trust that you know what you are doing...Good luck!
2007-08-05 15:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by damn_im_good81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, dump this loser and the friend. You don't need this kind of crap in your life. You made the right decision when you changed your phone number in the first place. These two are way out there and you don't need either of them.
Good luck hon.
2007-08-05 15:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should know your friends more than any one ,if they are liying dont trust them but you must be sure before any behaviour toward them ,ask your self "why they liying " for what ?then if you feel they are ohnest ,you need time to know them more , i think year was not enough with them ,so be sure jealouse is the best and main factor lead to risk problemes , think with your self and remember thier actions you ll get good insight , when you wwere in the first time ,are there together always ? who is the newst bettween 3 friends
you need to indicate more detals to your self and to me
2007-08-05 15:37:35 · answer #8 · answered by kamee a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your best friend stabbed you in the back then I wouldn't listen to her, but I also wouldn't listen to your bf. If he told you she did that because she was jealous of his attraction to you that is probably bs. He sounds like he is cocky and playin you both. It also sounds like he is the one causing havoc between you and your old best friend. Maybe you should try and talk to her and get her whole story, she may not be lying.
2007-08-05 15:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by lil_rebell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I were you I would be very cautious of both of them. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer, if you know what I mean. Watch their movements, and keep in mind that everything they say to you can be taken two ways -- good or bad. You know one of them is lying, and if it turns out that both of them are lying then you should cut all ties with them. It's just not right to be around people who can't be honest with you.
2007-08-05 15:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋