Parent need to listen....?

Question

Since I have been active on Yahoo answers for the past few weeks, I can't believe how may of our children have such a HORRIBLE relationship with their parents. Especially our girls. I am a mother of 6 children and I have very open relationships with all of them. I am not saying that things are always good, because they are not, we have our moments, but I listen to what they have to say even though they are wrong most of the time. Everyone, including my baby has their own opinion. It is sad to me that young girls can't talk to their mothers about basic hygiene issues. FIrst of all, every mother should start talking about their periods and what to do way before they start. They should explain to them what is going on with their bodies. It is scary for all parties involved. We need to be parents and guide our children. Let them know that they can talk to us about anything and let them know that everythig is ok. Make them comfortable.

Answer 1

I couldn't agree more. As hard as it may be, as the parent starting conversations like this, It's even harder for some children as well. Why? Because, from my experience, I never wanted my grandmother (who raised me) to think that i was doing anything that i wasn't supposed to be doing. call it a weird phase we go through as teenagers. But then she really sat me down once and explained everything. Once she did that I felt like i could talk to her a lot easier. And now that I'm about to have a child of my own, I understand even more now. I've also had to help raise my 3 nephews since I was 13. But anyway.... Parents do need to sit down and listen and talk with their kids more. After all they are our future!

Answer 2

I agree 100% I have seen over the last few years a diffrence in the way girls are raised it seem. I mean, it is like their mothers and fathers never teach them anything and give them very little time. I mean it is like everyone in the whole world just wants to have a boy and if they have a girl, well that's great and all, but we will try for a boy, next time. I am saying that because it seems like the parents are not paying enough attenchen to these poor girls I feel sorry for them. They should not be coming here to ask questions about their periods or other personal issues. I mean yeah I can understand the whole I like this guy what should I do thing thats fine. Some of the other however is kinda sad. I feel for them.

Answer 3

I entirely agree with you. My daughter has had a voice and a right to her opinion since she was born. That is her right as a human being. My role as a mother is to help her express her views confidently and appropriately. We have discussed the realities--good and bad--of being a woman since she first began asking questions. Today, she has an equal vote in the household on many issues, although I maintain the right to veto anything that may be a challenge to her safety. In addition, if I do put an expectation on her, I always explain my reason for doing so. She is a human being and is not to receive blind dictation. I hate it when parents say "Because I told you to." That is not going to show your child that you are capable of thinking for yourself, much less encourage them to be independent thinkers, as well.

Answer 4

I agree with the fact that many children now a days have no parental support in the things that are so basic in our lives. Things that were once so important for adults to teach their children have been pushed to the outer limits of society.Parents have lost contact with their children because society has changed so much. What dads used to do with their sons and what moms used to do with their daughters was once considered a very necessary thing to have to have been done and respectively.
Dads were expected to have talks with their sons and communicate with them as men.They were taught that one day they would be the responsible ones of the family and have to be able to run the job and the bills and the financial support.As men they were supposed to talk about their side of puberty and responsibility as an adult to not run amuck.
Mothers were to guide their daughters in a very feminine way towards young adolescence into ladyhood.It was very discrete and unheard of in public conversation.Mothers taught their children both boys and girls how to keep up after themselves in a hygenic way and also in the household.There was a sense of communication amongst family memebers and siblings that has long since evaporated with time.
I have raised my children to accept the ways of the current society but they were also raised very old-fashioned.I believe that you only get to raise your kids right one time in life and it might as well be the time tried and tested true way.You learn to take care of yourself.talk to your family,be responsible both at home and away from home,carry yourself in a dignified manner in public, and be respective of elders both at home and in public.You also need to use your head to think before you react or speak.
Alot of what's going on today with kids is the fault of the parents and their lack of observing their children the way that their parents observed them.Parents today are too lacidasical in trusting their kids. They set no boundaries and they hold no regard for the actions of their children.Kids have too mauch freedom on thier hands and parents trust them to find out the necessities of life on their own instead of doing it themselves.
There is nothing wrong with the schools teaching sex education or the fundamentals of puberty.It gets the ball rolling for the parents to pick up where the schools leave off.
Parents need to take the time to spend at least 2 hours a day with their kids and spend some quality time with them.They would be amazed at what their kids know that they didn't think that they knew!

Answer 5

I'm glad you have that kind of relationsihp with your kids. I am hoping to maintain that kind of relationship with my own son. I know I'm not a perfect parent but I do try! However, as a daughter who has a horrible relationship with her parents, I can relate to alot of what these kids say. Some people are just not cut out to be parents.

Answer 6

My mom and dad and that i've got truly the comparable flavor in song. i do no longer think of i could be listening to the song i admire now devoid of them. BA: (basically some) purple Floyd, purple warm Chili Peppers, Led Zeppelin, Cat Stevens, The Beatles, Nirvana, and so on. (the checklist is going on and on)

Answer 7

Not all parents understand very well children even when they very love them. For example, when I was child in primary school, I was embarrased to talk to my mother that someone in hallway sexually harrased me (he grabbed my scrotch) because I worried that she would tell: "Why the hell did you stand there?" I felt even though that it wasn't my fault, I would be held responsible for consequences.

Answer 8

I,also, have noticed the very personal questions some girls have asked. It is so nice that there is an outlet for them to obtain some guidance.

Answer 9

Kudos to you for being able to have this kind of relantionship with your kids.

Answer 10

i know. my parents never listen. they think they are always right. and im always wrong. im getting fed up with it.