am a virgin and am proud to be so. My man and I agreed to make it out after getting married. I am kinda so shy to express my fear about this shocking unity with him. Our marriage is soon so and he kinda hints about stuff while I remain mute ... I sometimes think of postponing the marriage itself but am so shy to tell reasons ... my friends (girls) told me that it hurts like hell ... am now so scared more than happy .. I love him and he is nuts about me but I even could not talk to him about that ... how could I help myself out?
2007-08-05 13:06:34 · 7 answers · asked by Sara007 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all ignore your friends --- it does not "hurt like hell" the first time unless the guy is VERY inconsiderate and rough --- if you are stimulated and ready it is not a major problem --- we were both virgins when we married and it was not anything to get worried about ---- talk to your partner --- if you cant talk to him now you never will --- best wishes
2007-08-05 13:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look.. the pain usually only keeps there for the first time.. or maybe the first few times... after you're married.. make sure he goes slow... there is another way to take care of it... but it will hurt too.. you could use toys start small and move up from there... you technically wouldn't be a virgin.... and he might or might not know it... so that too could be a problem...
now as far as the relationship part... look, if you can't talk about this to him, then you will have a bad intimate life.... why be afriad.... and you should never be afraid to talk to him about it...
2007-08-05 20:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would only postpone the marraige if you didn't feel ready to marry him- I wouldn't over the virginity issue though
I think that it is important to be open and honest with him about it if you are going to be married. I think you should talk to him about how you feel and if he really loves you he will either agree to hold it off or try to be more careful with you.
Just follow your heart and you will be okay. You should never do anything you don't want to do.
2007-08-05 20:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a very close female friend of yours for advice on how to tell him to be gentle with on your first night.
He's crazy about you and wants to marry you. Just tell him your fears. Be patient with him and let him what you are thinking about this subject.
He sounds like a very lucky guy to be getting a wonderful virgin bride soon. I'm happy for the both of you and best wishes to you and your new husband to be...
you guys love each other just tell before you walk down the aisle...Good luck
2007-08-05 20:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by Warrior Guardian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it doesn't hurt that badly. Second, if he engages in foreplay, you will be excited and ready and it won't hurt at all! Don't postpone your wedding because of this. Talk to your man about your fears so that he will be extra gentle that night. Talk to you mother about how to prepare so that you and your new husband can both have a wonderful experience.
Congratulations! :D
2007-08-05 20:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your boyfriend and if he feels the same way that you do then you both should postpone the wedding and wait for a couple of years until you are ready.
2007-08-07 21:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to tell him just write a note it should help tell him its hard to talk about it and you want to tell him by a note but just tell him how you feel and you feel aquard telling him but dont have a friend tell him because then hell say well you can tell your friends but not me then hell get mad just tell him thru a note
2007-08-05 20:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋