Ok one of my best friends has an eatting disorder and she wont get help and im not going to lie...but this is scarying the crap out of me because i dont want anything to happen to her...so i have no idea what to do?...HELP!
2007-08-05 12:44:55 · 11 answers · asked by Trevor 1 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
You really ought to tell her parents and let this be their call.
2007-08-05 12:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by Nice try 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that you are there for her. Be supportive and a good listener. You want her to feel like she can come to you if she realizes that she wants to get better. But dont push her. She is going to have to want to change / to get better and DONT be surprised if she denies the eating disorder in the beginning. That is very common because we become so involved in our ed's (eating disorders) that we cannot see what others are seeing. But if she is under 18 you can go to her parents if you feel that she is really in deep trouble (eventhough Im sure her parents know whats going on, even if they just want to pretend nothing is wrong) but I would only resort to her parents as a last option. If she is over 18 going to her parents really wouldnt do much good. But make sure she has an open relationship with her family and chances are that she probaly wont. Good luck. She is lucky to have such a wonderful friend.
2007-08-07 02:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by bhstrack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let her know she has alot of friends and support and dont bother saying 'You're not fat" because she wont believe you... I was on the verge of an eating disorder last year because my gymnastics coach called me fat and i believed her.
Show her how beutiful she is and give her lots of hugs and make sure you go to the movies and stuff with her. Make her feel loved. You also have to not make a big deal over it. Some people with eating disorders do it for the attention- not saying your friend is one of them but just keep that in mind.
You must also get her to tell people in her own time...
god bless
2007-08-05 19:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Allison Cameron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The message you want to give her is that you have noticed a change and are worried very much for her because you can see her health is failing... and you hope very much that she finds a way to stop what she is doing.
If you can get some other people to say the same thing - even better.
I say this because I was once tipping over the line of being anorexic, and several acquaintances individually gave me this very message. It left control of my condition to me - something very important to people who are fixated on losing weight - and it kept the message one of grave concern and not condemnation or what I thought in my friends was envy at my success in losing weight.
I had to think about their message because there was nothing in it to fight.
If that doesn't work THEN speak to her family. They are the only ones who have the medical authority to get treatment for her.
2007-08-05 19:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by oohhbother 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I was in your position, I would first tell her parents but only if she had a good relationship with them, you don't want to make her anymore stressed or whatever. Then, get her some medical help, find info on a kind of rehabilitation for her. Get a doctor, her parents and whoever else is very close to her that knows of this situation together for a intervention. Remember, you're not doing this to attack her, you're doing it to help her. You want the best for her, and you're terrified for her well-being.
I had a similar situation with my sister, she was all mad and thought we were attacking her when we had the intervention, but trust me, it's for the best.
2007-08-05 19:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by noriiiiii* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely hard to help because she probably sees something different than you do. Just let her know how you feel. Tell her how you're worried about her and try to comfort her. She may push you away at first, but this will probably be what she needs. If the problem persists, you may want to look into getting her parents involved.
2007-08-05 19:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by Randy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welll talk 2 her and tell her u r worrieed if she keeps doing it tell her parents.shew may be mad at first but sghe will stop and like u a gain cuz i had an eating disorder and my friends told the xchool counselor and i got help
2007-08-13 09:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by julie sweeter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are times when you need to tell someone who can help....when it is crucial to their health...they could die from this!
So confide their problem in the person most concerned...like their parents or pastor....and perhaps they can keep your confidence that you clued them in...but it is too important...someone needs to know. You could tell your friend if she doesn't tell someone, you will....then you are giving her a "heads up" that you aren't willing to let her die! Be blunt...she may be crying for help by just letting you know what is happening....
2007-08-13 00:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-13 17:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if shes old enough like 18 you cant do much but if shes younger then 18 tell her parents
2007-08-12 16:04:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is her parents aware of her problem maybe you can get together with them and try and work something out together and try and help your friend lots of love and support is always welcomed is your friend depressed about something?
2007-08-13 01:07:44 · answer #11 · answered by sunydaze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋