advice please?

Question

ok heres my story...... i like this girl ALOT for some reason she really grew on me cause i havent seen her in a long time. we never really talked we only met a few times , didnt go to school together , didnt grow up in the same town , we only know of eachother the only reason i know her cause im friends with alot of people in her school well we r both 19 so no more high school but im friends with alot of people in her town and i found her really hot. too hot for me anyway .. ok heres my problem shes been dating this guy still for 2 years and now it seems like hes makin no mistakes hes gonna be around forever which sucks lol and which makes it harder is that they share the same friends so they will even see eachother all the time if they were to ever break up which makes it convinient. so i need advice on how to make an attempt to get her thanks

Answer 1

There's two schools of thought here, and only you get to decide which one has relevance for you. First is the notion that it's a dirty, underhanded thing to do to plot to undo another couple's relationship so you can "move" your way in. The other notion however, is "all's fair in love and war" because we're not exactly talking about busting up a marriage here, are we? Whichever point of view you adopt, realize that there is karmic fallout that is a necessary result of every action we take. So, if you decide to take the highroad and wait to see if he messes up with her further down the line, let's hope someone gives you the same respect in the future when you're in a similar situation. But, let's say you want to go the other route....she's just too good to do without, and you've just got to have her. Don't try to overtly break them up...you'll be seen as a creep and may mess up any future shot you've got at her. Instead, be subtle, but keep yourself on her radar, so to speak. In other words, you don't want to fall so far into the background that you're forgotten. You've got to accidentally run in to her on occassion so she'll remember you fondly, but not so often that she feels like she's being stalked (that'll make you come off as desparate). It doesn't need to be a big production either. In most cases the less you say the better. You just want her to be familiar with you and on generally good speaking terms, then hurry up and get the hell out of there. The busier you appear to be, the more you'll generate interest in whatever it is you've got going on that ties up so much of your time. (Never answer that question directly). Good luck.