If Divorce is a sin, am I damned if I started dating a divorced man?

Question

He is divorced, we are dating and starting to think about marriage? Is this all bad?

Answer 1

Maybe not and maybe so. Divorce is a sin that can be forgiven. In fact divorce is not always a sin. If a married person divorces his/her spouse for the cause of fornication Jesus himself said it is permissible. However in the spirit of forgiveness reconcilliation is always better than divorce. If your date left his wife for another reason beside adultery then he did sin. And as Jesus said in the following scripture your marrying him is considered adultery. But, if he has repented of his sin, if he is truly sorry that he made a vow and did not keep it , and he is now living according to God's laws then he has been forgiven by God and therefore you too should forgive him and certainly you can marry him.

Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

So you see, People who are breaking this scripture are those who marry, and then divorce for whatever reason or reasons, and feel no remorse or responsibility for their breaking of vows. Please determine why your date set aside his wife . Did he commit fornication? Did he set aside his wife for a reason other than fornication? Whatever the case you have the right to ask these questions since you plan on being married in the sight of God. In fact you should ask these questions. If this man is a true Christian and he loves you , he will have no problem answering these questions. He will be completely honest and forthright. Please don't get me wrong. I am not condemning your date. I only hope that you will be wise and not get yourself into a bad situation. If he divorced lightly or cheated once ,he may do it again. Remember in God's eyes when we get married it is forever except for fornication. So be carefull .


Jesus said : "For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Matthew 19:5-6

God bless Cap'n Arlo

Answer 2

I do not believe that divorce is a sin, but if you do then this matter becomes valid for YOU.

Even the Bible allows for divorce under some circumstances, like adultery. Is your friend "biblically" divorced under those circumstances? For that matter, would your religion even recognize his first marriage in the first place?

The Bible also allows marriage between a Christian and an unbeliever. If that's accepted, then would marriage to a divorced man be so bad?

The Bible actually counsels that 'its better not to marry' at all. But the nature of man is still taken into account when it says 'better to marry than to burn'.

Clearly your religion is very important to you. And that's not a bad thing at all. But sounds to me that its time for you to sit down, alone, with your Bible and read every word on marriage. Read the words, but try also to read between the lines to absorb its full meaning. And then see what your heart tells you. While I may not trust your heart to say what's right for me, I would trust it to judge what's right for YOU.

Good luck.

Answer 3

If there's any way you can see a counselor or therapist it would help you out alot. They can give you some guidance. You can tell them how you're feeling and they can help you. Death is not the answer to all your problems. This is just a period in life that alot of people go through- depression. School would help to keep you active, but if that isn't for you- there might be alternative solutions, like getting your GED and working. Being more social might help. If you smoke pot or drink, those drugs are depressants. Even though pot gets you high, it still a depressant. It brings you down and so does alcohol. If you can't get off drugs, there's always rehab and I tell you what, it's one thing I've never ever regretted. If you can, Indigo, definitely try to see a therapist or a counselor. You want to seek help for how you are feeling. You don't deserve to suffer. If you talk to your parents about it, maybe they can help get you in to see a local therapist in your area. Hope this helps you some and keep your chin up! You can get through this. It will get better!

Answer 4

As long as he was divorced for the right reasons I don't believe it is a sin as you are not the divorced one but he is. Marriage in itself is not a sin and is showing that you and him are one with God and this is something that would never be punishable.

Answer 5

I don't believe divorce is a sin. I don't really believe in sin at all. If most sins are mistakes, why were we given free will to make mistakes so we can learn? If you do believe in sin, then that will probably always bother you if you date this man. I would give the man a chance if he were good to me and a really good person. divorce is a reality in our society and I truly believe we all deserve second chances. Jesus would give this guy a chance for sure! Like I said, I don't feel dating a divorced man is a sin. We all make mistakes and hopefully he learned from his.

Answer 6

Divorce isn't a sin.Dating isn't a sin. To remarry after a divorce is a sin (adultery), and to have sex unmarried is a sin .Read the 1 Corinthians chapter 7,and Matthews 19:9
Do you plan to date or have sex?
The only reason to remarry is death of a spouse,from a biblical stand point

Answer 7

The bible doesnt say that divorce is a sin. it says God hates a divorcing.
The only grounds for divorce and remarriage is adultery.
If one divorces for any other reason then Adultrey, they are not free to remarry and have Gods approval.
Premarital sex is a sin.
most people do not like this admonition so they search until they find something that meets there lifestyle.

Answer 8

The scriptures say that the only valid reason for divorce is if one's partner is unfaithful.

If this is not the situation, then you might want to reconsider your relationship with him. At the very least, how would you be able to trust a man who has contempt for his marriage vows, and what would prevent him from doing the same thing to you.

I think you're better off looking for unused merchandise, unless his divorce is because his wife cheated and he remained faithful. Still, I don't even know if that's okay, following the scripture by the letter of the law. Ask Roy Masters about this at fhu.com.

You will need to make your own decision, of course, but above all else, I would advise you not to listen to these liberals on this board. What good answers have they ever given, and what problem in the world have they not made worse?

Their philosophy of life it that "if it feels good, you should do it," and principles to them are merely something at which to scoff.

Answer 9

Ok divoce is NOT a sin..... it is if you go into a relationship intend to Divorce that pearson just for the heck of it! But no it is not a sin and you can totaly date because you will find someone who is right for you and that's what God wants he wants us to be happy! :) So by all means go a head and date!

Answer 10

Nope, it's not.

My dad was divorced when he met my mom, and here I am. But then again, I don't look at divorce as a sin.

Do you know why he divorced his previous wife? Take a look at that. It may be a holy reason - such as his wife cheating on him. Marriage is for one man and one woman - not one woman and a managerie of women, or vice versa.

Even so, HIS decisions do not affect YOUR salvation. That is up to God, and God alone. No other human being can put a kink in it or mess up your relationship with Him unless you let them.