i posted a few days ago about my abusive father. i cut and feel suicidal alot because of him, well earlier yestereday my mom left. i dont know what was wrong, she took the keys her purse and her wallet and left, but i know she loves me, and my dad. she has been under alt of pressure lately. well, my father has been drinking twice as much now, and hitting me more then ever, i feel sick alot now, and i am on the verge of considering to commit suicide, cutting is getting, old and isnt helping me anymore. it makes me feel worse. i dont know what to do, everything was going okay, but things just got 100% times worse. my brother is on drugs and is missing, my mom left without a word, my dad is constatnly abusing me, and i feel like runnin away. i dont want to call social services, i dont want them to get involved, but if i try, and my dad catches me god knows what he would do? and none of my friends understand the real me, i am to scared to tell anyone close to me, what should i do? Help!!
2007-08-05 12:13:38 · 17 answers · asked by Renee 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i am 14 yrs old
and i only have one aunt, that lives here in texas about an hour away, but she doesnt have time to take me in, my mom talked with her about it already about a month ago. she works for 12 hours a day, monday through saturday , and has to be to work at 5 in the morning. my other relatives live in california.
2007-08-05 12:46:57 · update #1
Try to spend the night with a relative if you can to think things through and who will help you get the help you need. If you have no one, you really need to be brave and call the police. There is no reason for abuse this day and age. Put a stop to it now!!! It will only get worse!!!!! God will be with you. Just go on and do the right thing for yourself and your life.
2007-08-05 12:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not say just how old you were. If you are in school at this time, there is a school counselor with which you will be able to discuss just what you are feeling and the fact that you are considering suicide as an option. That professional will be able to help you to sort out why you are feeling the way you are right now and just what type of treatment (either talk therapy from a psychologist or medication prescribed by a psychiatrist) would be necessary to alleviate the emotions that you are now experiencing. If further therapy is required, do not be surprised if the school counselor will want to get in touch with your parents. If the therapist is bilingual, there is the possibility that they would be able to fully discuss with them just what you are experiencing. It is possible that your father is more receptive as to what is happening right now. Please do not give up. There is hope (I have been there myself) even though it seems as if there is nothing to look forward to. You need to obtain help and the sooner the better.
2016-04-01 00:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you speaking of verbal or physical abuse. If physical, look in the front pages of your phone book for a women's shelter and try going there. You need a haven. Or check with a church or a relative.. perhaps a grandmother or aunt. If you don't feel comfortable with telling them about your father, perhaps just say you miss your mom and could you stay with them. But you really might want to consider telling the truth about him to someone you can trust. I would bet that there are relatives who would not be surprised.
Do NOT just run away to anywhere. And do NOT commit suicide. There are lots of good things in the world as well as the bad you are experiencing. Fight back , don't give up.. your life IS worth it.
2007-08-05 12:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by DSatt57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you're not alone. You have friends here, like me and many more than are writting you.
Of course than suicide it's not the solution, you are young and you have a beautiful life ahead ,but don't allow anyone,even your father, than ruin your dreams and your future. I understand you because i had a similar problem and now im 15 years olden than you and im paying the consequences of it.
Think in some relatives,must be one that you can trust and get rid of your house for a better life. If not call the social services and speak seriosuly about the fear of your father, ask for a solution they will help you.
E mail me if you want to chat.
A lot of people are with you honey, you're not alone.
Love.
Kate.
2007-08-05 15:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didnt say how old you are, or anything about your other family. Just tell yourself that other peoples behavior is not your fault or your problem and you have to lookout for yourself. your mom is not being a mother, if your brother wants to throw his life down the drain, that is not your problem. I know you are fearful of your father but life on the streets is dangerous and scary, there are things out there that will be even worse than where you are now. but you have to leave your home now!!!! do you like any of your friends parents? I have a teenager and believe me if you were his friend you would be staying with me for sure.! Dont kill youself because of other peoples misery! I know you are sad and frustrated but you will have a good life full of people that are good. choose your friends wisely, stay out of trouble, and get your education because your education is your ticket out of everything! Find someone to talk to now! call a hotline( in the phonebook) talk to a teacher. A church is a good place too. I know what you mean about social services, but remember its your life and the only person you need to take care of right now is you! I know you are scared to talk to someone but your other options are definitely scarier! You are strong!!! Be strong!!!!!
2007-08-05 12:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by coolmama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can go to a hospital emergency room. Tell them you are on the verge of committing suicide and about your home situation. You should not have to go back home again. I don't know what you don't like about social services, but they must be better than living with your father.
If you can't get to an emergency room, you can wait until your father isn't home and then call 911 and have them come and get you. You should not stay in your home situation if you are getting abused there.
2007-08-05 12:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to go somewhere safe and call 1-800-448-3000.
It's a free teen crisis hotline sponsored by the girls and boys town. You can call for any problem, anytime, 24 hours a day...they are always open and you may feel better talking to someone who has the training to help you work through this difficult time.
If you prefer, they also have a website where you can use email.
2007-08-05 12:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by tams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could defend you from your dad. I get furious when I hear of men beating on girls and there's nothing I can do. I wish I could meet your dad and kick the hell out of him! I'm sorry you're going through this and I'm sorry I can't do anything for you except give you my advice. You need to tell the cops. It is NOT normal or allowed for your father to hit you. He is NOT allowed to do that. You have every right to feel scared and ashamed, but you have to ignore those feelings right now and call the police. They will help you. Good luck.
2007-08-05 12:25:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get some help .
try to remember you are not the only one with this problem. See if you can stay with a friend or a close relative. If no one seems to be listening to you go to the cops .
2007-08-05 12:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to a phone and call the police. There are people who can help you. There is a safe place waiting for you with people who care about you and what happens to you. Do not give up.
2007-08-05 12:23:17 · answer #10 · answered by Deborah Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋