How can I accept the fact someone is leaving?

Question

Hi, this summer is basically the transition between my sisters childhood to adulthood. My sister is also moving out towards the end of this month, and up until now, I am just realizing, that this is it. My sister is growing up and she needs to start her life somewhere else.

She is moving to the College of William & Mary on the 24th. I mean, it isn't that far since my family is in Fredericksburg, which is about 70 miles away. However it is just like, I am going to miss her when she moves out and goes to college.

My sister was never really a social butterfly, and she never really spent that much time associating with me in childhood, but I know that she is really a homebody and doesn't like being that far from home. I am wondering if these thoughts of like, "This is it, she's growing up" and "In a few years I'm growing up and moving on too" are normal, since it seems now that my childhood, just like her's is coming to an end, and I am transitioning into adulthood.

Is it normal?

Answer 1

yes it's normal! don't worry everything will be O.k. and Good Luck!

Answer 2

Yes, both you and your sister are growing up and your thoughts and concerns are normal. You need to realize that just because your relationship with your sister is changing, that it is not ending.

You can be assertive in contacting your sister and staying in touch with her. Even if you and your sister end up living in separate towns, that doesn't mean that you and she can't visit often. This is especially true after you are done with school and working at a job that pays a good salary.

I am 64 years old and live in St. Paul,MN. My brother lives in Milwaukee, WI, about 300 miles away. We aren't kids living with our parents anymore but in a lot of ways we are closer than we have ever been before. We talk on the phone about every 2 days and we visit each other when we can.

Both you and your sister are entering new stages in your life and that will continue as you get older. There is a new stage to enter about every 10 years. All of this is a little scary but also exciting. you will be having the opportunity for a better life as you enter each new life stage.

My happiest years were not my childhood years. In fact I don't know what my happiest years are because I'm not done yet. I'm having a hard time at the moment, but my happiest years ever may be right around the corner.

God bless you and your sister.

Answer 3

Yes its normal sweetie! I know your sister will call and visit as much as she can. Yes you are growing up to and yes you will make the transition too. Its normal, so don't worry. Keep your chin up and stay positive, you will have contact with your sister I'm sure every week. You sound like a very loving sister. Hugs! Von

Answer 4

Of course it's normal. One watches siblings grow and leave the nest, and thoughts of one's turn are bound to cross the mind.

Your sister may not be gone, though. She may come home for summers. She may come home after she graduates until she finds a job. She'd be really glad to hear from you (on the cell) and care packages from little brother during finals are really cool (Tortilla chips, limes & salt).

It's hoped that all of us move on some day, permanently, but in this society where adults are putting off marriage and children until their 30s, I think more and more kids are returning home until something more permanent comes by.

TX Mom

Answer 5

How Sweet!!! Gosh your soo nice. Your sister will be fine. Think of the money she'll be making after Graduation. I bet cha she'll be asking you to move in too. Or more then likely she'll move back home. You have all of us here too. Keep in touch.

Answer 6

Of course it's normal, Sweetie. You love your sister and you'll miss her. It's all part of growing up and leaving the nest.

Answer 7

Stop being a sucky baby,, grow up