..my husband is a corporal in usmc & bout a few days from now i'm gonna gift birth to our first born..he got this E-5 of him that said to him "usmc don't care bout your child & i don't care either.." can he said this things to his fellow marines? & he's treating the other junior marines the same thing..isn't that one job of a mentor is giving support to his mentee may it be marine likely or morally? can he have a violation about this things that he just said? & me being a wife of a marine can i also make some actions regarding of what he said..??
2007-08-05 11:47:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
First off... his SGT is a piece of crap that should never have been allowed to were the uniform. (Any who disagree are not true leaders of men) Your husband should have requested leave for the birth of the child. Although the SGT is the first in his chain of command, he has others in his COC that I would hope has more brains and that actually care about their Marines welfare to take the request seriously. Any present or former Marine that feels the USMC cares nothing for the families of Marines is a moron and should be disregarded as I disregard such ignorance.
2007-08-05 12:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by ets2521 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i saw a question on here the other day asking about what was the most stressfull job. I would have to say soldier as i am in the military. second most stressfull job: soldiers spouse. Your husband joined the military, the marines at that, and in most cases when i have been involved with marines on any level, the lower in the ranks you are, the more $ H I T he will have to take, and it wont be easy because they are held to a way higher standard. Your best course of action is to keep your mouth shut about his job and try to help him not think about it when he comes home to you at night. The military helped ruin my first marriage, but thats ok cuz it wasn't meant to be anyway. Being a military spouse is hard but if you try to get involved in this in any way, your going to make his life a living hell, and that in turn is going to make yours worse, just be glad he is home for babies arrival (i hope), because there are hundreds of marines missing their childs birth as you read this. take care of each other, he will make it through this, don't take offense to anything anyone in his chain of command says because at the end of the day, most of the people that know they cant do crud outside the military are the ones that stay in and try to make life miserable for everyone. Sorry Master Sergeant, no offense.
2007-08-05 19:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by drew2ber 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with the other answers that you have gotten..You will have to develop thicker skin. Yes it is the job of NCO's to mentor but there are jerks everywhere even in the military...LOL. This by no means makes it right.. I'm sure that your hubby has learned by now to let unimportant comments slide..you will learn too. It doesn't matter what the military branches preach..it is mission first, family second. I laughed out loud when I read the comment about not being issued a family..that is a running joke in this house.. You will learn to laugh it all off..or be really upset alot while your hubby serves. Good Luck!!
Proud Army Wife!! HOOAH!!
2007-08-05 22:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by armywife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhh, nothing you can do.. the E5 is correct.. the Marines DON'T care that you are about to give birth. No violations at all, and as a spouse you have ZERO say whatsoever in how a Marine is counseled.. and in fact if you make a complaint, you will land your husband into a LOT of hot water and single him out for even MORE 'special attention' of the negative type.
Your spouse's chain of command does NOT have to give him ANY time off to attend the birth or even give him time off afterwards. If he is in training, or about to be deployed, even less of a chance at it.
get used to it. We as family members will ALWAYS take a back seat the the needs of the Military. we don't have to like it, be we DO have to accept it .
2007-08-05 19:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you been married long? You don't seem very familiar with the military culture. "If the Marines wanted you to have a family, they'd issue you one." All the services have that saying, and although there's been a lot of changes over the years in providing support and resources for dependents, the bottom line is that they are soldiers. The mission comes first.
It would not be appropriate for your husband to complain because someone said something like that, and it would be even less appropriate for you to get involved.
2007-08-05 18:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You cant get so upset about everything said to your husband. Believe me when my husband was a Cpl and below he heard alot worst. However unless there is a reason for him not to receive it (deployment, etc.) he should still receive leave when you have the baby.
You have to have thicker skin or else you will never stop crying. Good Luck and Congrats on the new baby.
2007-08-05 19:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by ms_nikki48 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly all branches of the military have azzholes. you and your hubby are going to have to decide if it really is worth it and if it is figure out a way to block it out. part of his job is to put country first. its not always easy but he is expected to do so. if you report him all your going to do is label your hubby as a narc, crybaby etc. they arent likely to do anything at all. being a military wife takes a different breed of woman. good luck and congrats on the new baby
2007-08-05 19:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by sweet young thing 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
iam a army spouse, and at first when they talked to my hubby like that, i was pizzed off, why did they do that! but as my hubby said, its better to blow itoff, than to complain about it, it only makes it worse, andit does.
Yes, they are suppose to mentor them, not treat them like ****, but it happens and unfortunately we have to be the strong ones and let our hubbys lean on us, let them ***** and mone and complain and then they will be ok. we ARE THEIR ROCKS! and we have to hold them up and be brave for them
if you react on what this NCo said, it will have ractions on your hubby, regardless if they say it won't, ever hear of, staying late, sh*t detail, etc.. well that all comes into play due to someone 's spouse saying something to a higher rank.
blow it off, have 'pissy ' sex, thats what me and hubby did, and just get it out of yoru system.
i know your mad and you deserve to be mad, but keep it between your friends, real friends, and hubby, and NO one in his unit.
take care and congrats on the baby!
2007-08-05 19:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Heaven help us! I'm curious, but not enough to ask where you learned to write like that! Scary...
2007-08-05 18:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by ArRo 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
when it come to your husband and the Marines you need to SHUT YOUR PIE HOLE
2007-08-05 19:08:28 · answer #10 · answered by LAVADOG 5 · 0⤊ 5⤋