Do you think this person is rude?

Question

My mom's sister & family came to visit us from texas (we're in NY) They also brought my aunt's husband's sister's daughter (who's 15), because they were going to NJ to visit someone related to my uncle for 3-4 days. Anyway I think this girl rude:

1) as soon as she comes, and I say hi or whatever, she turns to my aunt and says: "doesn't she look like sara?" I just smiled but i thought it was awkward cuz she was talking about me in front of me to some1 else- like she could've told me "you look exactly like my cousin, don't you agree aunt rose?"

2) Mom, aunt, me, my sister, all working to get dinner ready. She is sitting & just talking w/ uncle LOUDLY in connected family room. Doesn't even help us pick up after dinner, just leaves to read a book.

3) She is talking to my li'l sis (12 yr old) and tells her stuff, but when my sis talks, she just kinna gives her a "weirdo" look and doesn't really listen.

4) she is constantly insulting my cousin(her step-cousin)

what do u think?

I don't expect her to help, but I do expect her to at least pick her plate from the table and take it to the sink. We're not running a restaurant, and its not a dinner party, its just dinner. Also, EVERYONE is in the kitchen, except my uncle cuz he just was on night shift and jumped on a plane a few hours after work. I would at least ask if I could help in any way.

to raising sunflower- it was her choice to tag along with my aunt's family. Her family is in texas, they didn't leave her w/ my aunt to be babysat.

Answer 1

Yes, she is extremely rude. You don't stay at someone's house and expect to be looked after. That's what a hotel is for. She is family and she should be expected to clean up after herself, not go and read some book.

When I go to my friend's houses, I end up helping with the dishes because they are simply too lazy. It's absolutely disgusting how she's behaving. I don't know what your perspective is, but where I came from, we were raised with etiquette in mind.

Tell her to be quiet or go to her room. Tell her if she can't play nice then go to her room. It isn't her house, she can't make the rules. If she can't abide by them, request that your family leaves her at home next time because you can't tolerate a rude little child in your home.

I hope this helps a little.

If I had done anything like that at someone's home, I would be grounded for months and I would have to write a letter of apology. Not to mention that if it were my grandmother's home, my parents spank me.

I'm 17 and I've got better manners than most adults. Isn't that just sad?

Answer 2

Sounds to me like this person could be either quite young or very ignorant.

While I do agree this is fairly rude behaviour, I think you need to not just accept it.

You are within your rights to say "Oh, who is this Sara I look like?" and also to say "Excuse me, X, we all take our own plates to the kitchen after dinner. And as you will be staying a few days, your job will be wiping the dishes for me to put away".

Some people are just not going to get it without being shown and directed ~ and don't fear her response. You will be doing her a BIG favour showing her that being respectful and thoughtful of others is the best way to get along.

Best wishes ;-)

Answer 3

shes a teenager 15 she might think its lame to visit family up here or down there maybe because it put a damper on her plans of having fun.. just maybe she thought she was old enough to stay home etc.. and also she is probaly ready for all this to be over with so she can continue on with her life at home. but it doesn't give her any excuse to be rude & disrespectful in your home . just to give you some understanding of where shes coming from so when she is rude & disrespectful you won't be too hard on her after all the bigger person lets things go.. or changes circumstances around in your favor as well as others. think of something fun.. to do , ask her what she likes etc..she'll have a change of heart if she doesn't then at least you know its not you and/or seeing things

Answer 4

yes, but consider the fact that

1) she's 15
2) she is a guest so really she isn't obligated to help with
anything (but i assume you expect it)
3) she's 15. she obviously doesn't have manners or know
any better. if she visits at a later time, hopefully she'll be
more grown up then. consider talking to "Aunt Rose" or
let her see this girl in action.

she'll be gone soon. don't sweat it.

Answer 5

Yep,she's rude...but remember that she is only 15 years old. hopefully she'll out grow this silly behavior and become a polite young lady. And let's just pray that she doesn't have some deep psychological issues brewing. If not just set an example for her by being the charming little princess I am sure you are!!!! Remember she is just visiting not moving in!!!! lol

Answer 6

Yep....sounds like this girl was not taught manners. Don't blame her totally....it sounds like she didn't get much help in this department. Next time she insults someone, tell her she isn't being polite. Perhaps you can point out the "weirdo" face she makes when talking to your sister, and ask her why she is doing that? Once she is aware of her behavior, perhaps she will make an attempt to stop. Good luck. :)

Answer 7

1 - 4 is all rude behavior. You have to be the better person and just realize that many children now days are not taught like the ones of even my ( 43yrs.old) generation. They are rude, violent, vulgar, lazy. You sound like a person with a good head on your shoulders. Kudos to you!

Answer 8

Sounds a little rude. Sounds like she isn't aware of it though. That's probably just the way she's always acted and she doesn't know there's anything wrong with it.

Answer 9

yerp, rude.. but mabey thats olny rude in ny lol.. texas is relle different. i aslo live in ny and i went to texas once and everything i did wuz considered weird. like when i didnt wave at a person i didnt even noe.. if i do that here, theres a chance of gettin shot lol

Answer 10

why don't you look at her, smile and ask her to tell you all about southern hospitality - what it involves, how people would act and expect you to act if you went down south etc...
maybe (and that's a big manybe) she'll realize what a jerk she's being...