She puts a laundry list of preferred gifts under her 'gift suggestion guide' as she refers to it on each of her kids birthday invitations as well as the birthday invites for herself AND my brother. And on top of this, for the past 5 years, all of us (parents & siblings) receive an email with the lists of requested gifts for Christmas every year - in OCTOBER! I have searched online for etiquette websites that I can forward onto 'everyone' including her as an FYI but I can't find any. Please help!!
2007-08-05 11:25:20 · 12 answers · asked by Andrea 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
FYI - My brother has no clue she does this. When he found out she did it for his birthday, he said that she never asked him what he wanted. She put "TARGET gift cards" and "COSTCO gift cards". My brother said he didn't want either. I'm assuming that she actually wanted them.
2007-08-05 11:42:46 · update #1
How tacky! And she does this for your brother too?? OMG. I think the only thing that would be acceptable would be for the kids-maybe write "Katie really likes horses, or Brian really enjoys reading" That way it lets you know what their interests are without being tacky and demanding. HTH
2007-08-05 14:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by tinachick77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I personally think it's tacky, sorry:-( I do understand how you feel, though! One of my children's birthdays is Dec. 18th and the other is Dec. 31st! It's overwhelming to have it all come at once. Anyway, most people going to a birthday party for a child will either ask what the child wants/likes/needs and many times will give a gift receipt along with the present. If neither of those two things happen, most children's gifts are bought at Walmart, Toys R Us, and other big chains anyway. It's easy to go just exchange the gift.
2016-05-19 12:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and say that it is really tacky and rude. It's not her that's buying the gift, right? If you ask her what she would like, that's a different story.
It isn't her place to determine what other people are going to give her kids. Simply tell her to deal with it.
I'm blunt and I'll tell people the truth. I don't want to hurt their feelings, but what they're doing is rude.
2007-08-05 11:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by Betty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, if she really wanted to let people know she could talk to them personally after the guest asks what he/she would like for their birthday. next time she gives you a list, just say to her hey, what's all this here? dont you want _____ to be surprised? i think that would be a little less rude, but it would still get the point accross a little. also i dont understand why if she doesnt like something she could always return it (which is a bit rude) but people usually leave gift reciepts. who knows maybe if she let her and her kids be surprised they would appreciate birthdays and gifts more.
2007-08-05 11:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by SQUID 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister-in-law, who has more money than any of the rest of the family gives "regifts". The one year, she was giving her brother the same game we bought for her 7-yr-old son! We gave them both to charity. Sometimes the gifts have been in her closet so long that the boxes are damaged! I refuse to see her anymore.
2007-08-05 11:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how tacky is that? I could see maybe putting the gifts they think are inappropriate for their kid on the list but not what to get him. You should just cut and paste this question and answers into an email and send it to her from another account annonymously.
2007-08-05 11:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ouch! how tacky!!! i would kick back collect all the wonderful answers you are sure to receive and then e-mail a copy of your question and your many answers directly to her...she'll get the message! Or you can just be as honest with her about your feelings as you are being with millions of strangers!
2007-08-05 11:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by heypumpkin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's tacky. Just ignore her and give whatever you want to give or don't give.
2007-08-06 00:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have her sign up for a gift service.
2007-08-05 11:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by r d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do that- my s-i-l does that too. i am not feeling that it is rude I think it is OK. Just you be rude and tell her not to send you one!! dont speak for all in your family.
2007-08-05 11:38:46 · answer #10 · answered by debbie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋