My brother got paroled from jail, he is 24 im 21. I tried to help him out with a place to stay. I hoped he would get a job and help out, start his life. but instead he goofed off and i was stuck paying $850 a month for rent. now I have no money, and I want to go to school, start my life. Its a year later. And he hasnt done a thing. Our lease is up and im living with my boyfriend and his wonderful family, but my brother has no where to go. I love him but I cant help anymore. I feel let down also because he didnt try. SO my question is what can he do about housing? he doesnt work so ther is no income. He needs help. I cant do it anymore.
2007-08-05 11:24:36 · 9 answers · asked by Nadine P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you all....
I have gotten that same response from friends and family, whom alltried to help him. I atleast know imdoing hte right thing....but its so hard.
2007-08-05 11:36:38 · update #1
You basically answered your own question when you said 'I love him but can't help anymore' and 'I can't do it anymore'.
You shouldn't feel guilty about this. You've done every thing you could to help him. Probably more than you should have. Its time for brother to help himself. And time for you to take care of you.
Don't worry too much about your brother. Users always find someone to use. Just don't let it be you anymore. Love him, and thats it.
2007-08-05 11:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are shelters he can go to or he can decide to get a job and take care of himself.
The thing is, he chose his own path and it landed him in jail. You did what you could to help him and found him a place to live. If he doesn't want to better himself and his situation, then it's really not your problem anymore. He has had a year to get a job and make a better life for himself. You can't go around taking care of him forever, or he will never have the initiative to do anything for himself.
You need to worry about your life and your boyfriend and allow your brother to find out how to survive on his own. In a sense, you need to stop enabling him. I know it's hard, but in the long run, it will make him a better person.
2007-08-05 18:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done so much and being his sister you loved him, took care of him. You can only do so much for someone and recieve nothing if nothing is going anywhere. The question lies within your brother. Does he want to change his life? Does he realize the sacrafice you made to try to make sure he would not struggle? Yet he is still going in circles in his own life. I know you love him, he's family, but you keep losing to an endless battle. You should really talk to him and see if he understands his own life and what you are trying to do for him, but if he doesn't then you must let him go. In life we can't force people to change, they must find within themselves if they are really ready for change.
2007-08-05 21:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by lainexperiment2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother has had an entire year to get his life together. He chose to do nothing. Quit feeling sorry for the loser he had options and he isnt doing anything about it. Let him work his own life out.
2007-08-05 18:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the brother look for a roomate...that might sound harsh, but that's tuff love baby!
You can break your lease look for a cheaper place...explain to them what happened.
P.s he's never gonna try as long as he has people doing for him. I know u love your brother. But, You cant live his life for him..he's not living his for u.
2007-08-05 18:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by passionfruit2571 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him sleep at the salvation army, he made his choice
2007-08-08 18:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-08 03:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a grown man, leave him be
2007-08-05 18:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by jessica_bttl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it, it isnt your problem
2007-08-05 18:28:52 · answer #9 · answered by skcs11 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋