my bf and his ex broke up, like, 3-4 years ago... now, he claims they've both moved on, and that they don't do well together in a relationship.... but they're still friends... now, HE claims that she's moved on, and it looks like it.. but still, i wonder, should i be worried?
and it's not him i don't trust. it's her
2007-08-05 10:24:18 · 12 answers · asked by miuscuita06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's normal to be nervous in a situation like this. Some warning signs to look for:
Are they alone together a lot? Are they going out of their way for alone time?
Is he uncomfortable with you reading his text messages or emails?
A yes to either of those questions could indicate that something is up. If you truly don't trust her, tell your boyfriend. Try not to sound jealous, Just tell him that you are uncomfortable with the two of them being alone together. If he cares about you, he'll understand.
2007-08-05 10:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all about trust. Do you trust him?
Also paying attention to how he talks to her will give you an answer.
You have a right to be worried but at the same time, you need to find out for a fact if he still has feelings for her.
See how he acts when he talks to her or when he's around her.
If she is too involved in his life then that is pretty odd.
If their relationship makes you feel uncomfortable then you have a right to tell him exactly how you feel and ask him to maybe not hang around with her or talk to her as much. Tell him you would really appreciate it and that it would make you feel alot better.
2007-08-05 17:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Beautiful♥Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who ex and her have made friends after a difficult divorce. They have a common interest in their two children and feel they should be able to talk to one another civilly about their children.
She has remarried and has two more children no problems with her new husband about talking to her ex. But the new wife of the ex is extremely jealous and actively tries to keep them from talking.
It's extremely annoying. Trust your boyfirend. If he has moved on even IF the ex has not moved on it shouldn't be a problem for you and he. It shows maturity if ex's can at least be friends at some point in the future.....
2007-08-05 17:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the same thing I thought about my boyfriend and his ex-girlfriend still being friends. I trust him so I don't worry about her. When he talks to her on the phone, I am on the phone too only she doesn't know it. Since they broke up so long ago, I don't think you should be worried. You just need to keep your eye open and make sure he nor she does anything stupid.
2007-08-05 17:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did they sleep together ? If so I would be worried too . I have never wanted to talk to a person I slept with after we broke up . Just be careful , shell get jealous of you and try to suck his " " . Keep on the look out , good luck !
2007-08-05 17:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him, you shouldn't waste your time being worried about her. It's been a long time and you said yourself it looks like they've both moved on. Focus on the present and being happy right here, right now.
2007-08-05 17:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Sophra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be worried. But if this girl flirts with everyone and is acting jealous of you? Then ya. Talk to him about it too.
2007-08-05 17:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by FLAL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to think about it, unless he talks about her or calls her all the time, he probably has moved on. (if hes still obsessed drop him, hes not over her)... but give him a chance!! if he likes you, it shouldnt matter if she goes after him again. be the better girlfriend and he wont even think about leaving u.
2007-08-05 17:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by famysx17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, be worried. Good Luck
2007-08-05 17:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by Julian K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to worry about. They are just having sex. That will not hurt him. And, besides, you are still the gf.
2007-08-05 17:31:30 · answer #10 · answered by John 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋