why the hell is he using me, his exgirlfriend,to talk about and get advice about his new interest. i dont give a f*** nor do i even wanna know. im not even fully over him. cant he find someone else to talk to about her? its not fair to me. we've always talked about everything, but thats when we were together. we still talk a lot but i think a line should be drawn. ugh so annoying
2007-08-05 10:20:42 · 29 answers · asked by kelly s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a really crappy situation, shame on him! However, you need to have some cajones and let him know that he is being very disrespectful toward you and he needs to find someone else to spill his girl problems to. You can't expect him to be a gentleman who is thinking about your feelings - he's obviously not. YOU need to draw that line for him. I hope you find someone better than this ogre!
2007-08-05 10:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sophra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I'm sure it does get annoying. I'm also guessing he tells you some of this to just see if he can make you jealous or something. Yeah he is using you and that isn't right. So I would just not talk to him anymore if he just wants to talk about his new woman I mean that isn't fair to you. So just stop talking to him if thats all he wants to do is use you because your better than that. I'm also sure that he knows that you aren't completely over him. That's probably why he is doing this to start with. So I would try to get over him and move on to someone else that deserves you.
2007-08-05 10:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to him, I don't want to sound mean, but very, very, very, very few men and women manage to stay friends after having a serious relationship. If this is still hurting you, then why still talk to the guy, are you still around with the hopes that maybe he will come back to you, sweetie, I don't mean to be cruel, but he obviously wont. He probably thinks that you are over him, and you are a good friend, and you want to hear his stupid stories about his dumb as* new girlfriend. Move on, let stay there, and look forward, by you sticking around him, you wont be able to get over him, and you are probably closing your doors to someone that will be well worth it.
Good luck!
2007-08-05 10:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by Butterflies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not "with" him anymore, and not fully over him, why are you torturing yourself by hanging out with him (on-line, on phone, or in person...however it is that you are doing it) at all? This does not sound healthy, and a much slower way of getting on with your life, something you really should be doing.
Whatever HIS motives may be, there is nothing you can do to control his behavior; only your own. Are you clinging to some shred of hope that you will win him back over? (I assume he dumped you, from the tone of your letter.) The best thing you could do for yourself is to cut off all contact with him, unless you are enjoying this experience--since it will only happen again, if you DO get him back somehow, once he decides to dump you again, and share all the ins & outs of his new love prospects all over again.
Put a restraining order on yourself, gal: if you get within a hundred yards of him, throw yourself in jail. You will probably be more content there, than in that prison you have created for yourself!
2007-08-05 10:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by Howie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him and them get a date or boyfriend and talk about him 24/7 to your Ex let him Know what it feels like to annoyed and have someone Brag to u constantly!! Turn the tables on him show him Girl!
2007-08-05 10:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by Turdly B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you have to draw it. If you two ended as "friends" it would be perfectly natural for him to talk to you about it because you two were so close before. He may think that you are over him and that you have moved on. If that was the case then him talking about another girl wouldn't bother you. That and men are kinda dense =)
2007-08-05 10:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him just what you told us. You don't want
to hear it, so tell him that. Or change the subject. Or
hang up the phone in a hurry. He'll get it. But I think the
direct approach is best.
2007-08-05 10:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by doodlebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to get you jealous! I just wouldn't chat with him that much and move on! It is ok to be friends but try to give some distance from him so that you can get yourself over him and find yourself again! Good luck!
2007-08-05 10:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to make you angry and trying to make you jealous. By the way you are talking, it's working a little bit. It's making you angry. Ignore him. He is just trying to get to you. Don't let him do that. Just walk away from him forever if he cannot learn to behave.
2007-08-05 11:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience I would say your ex wants to make you jealous. Maybe he thinks you are truly over him and it hurts him. Or maybe he feels you are like a best friend and he can share things like that with you.
2007-08-05 10:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by Bigg D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋