I'm embarassed because my dad found my personal confessions....?

Question

Call me stupid, but I write down my personal confessions of a piece of paper and I put them in one of my pillow cases. They were about how I "love" this guy (but I know I'm too young for love) and how I want him to kiss me because I don't want to make the first move and I basically printed out his emails and confessed how cute I thought they were.

Well, my dad basically has no idea of my personal life and now I'm super embarassed because now he suddenly knows who I've dated and who I've kissed and stuff like that.

I know he read it 'cause I sealed the envelop and I found it open on my desk after my dad took my bedsheets so he could put them in the laundry and I forgot that they were still in one of my pillows.

What should I do? Ignore it?
He knows I know he read it and I'm afraid I'm going to be too embarassed to talk about it. I'm afraid he'll tell other people and my older brother and they'll have a good laugh about it.

Help? By the way, I'm fourteen.

Answer 1

ANY Dad who has EVER dealt with a 14 year old daughter KNOWS that you should NEVER and I do mean NEVER invade her privacy.

Now that said, as a father. I would think that leaving it on your desk would be his way of telling you that he knows about you kissing someone etc.

If you were my daughter, it wouldn't take a long conversation, something as simple as "Dad, if you ever invade my privacy again, I will kill you in your sleep", which would be followed by me saying, "My dear, I love you with all my heart, but reading what I did, and loving you like i do, means that I may NEVER sleep again".

We would both laugh, and that would be the end of it.

Talk to him about it, just explain exactly how you feel, you write those things down and DON'T talk about them with him because to you they are embarrassing!!

Remember, he is your father, it's his duty to make sure you stay perfect in his eyes....:)

Answer 2

I agree with the one person who said that he must not have found anything to be upset about or you would know. While I do not believe there is any harm in just letting it go, you might want to talk with your dad (or maybe your mom) about it. He would probably like to know about what is going on in your life. Yea, he is a dad and is going to have concerns, but it sounds like if he is letting this go, he does respect you and is letting you live your life. However, I am sure he would love to to be able to talk to you about your life. He is interested in your life and interests.

Now, if you were willing to talk to your parents, you may find it easier to talk to your mom. I suspect that she knows about the content of your confessions (though maybe not, your dad may have kept it a total secret). The reason for suggesting this is mainly because this is an opportunity to reopen some lines of communication that may have shut down a bit over the years. Yes it is embarrassing, but believe me, your parents have gone through the same thing. They understand how you feel (honest), so don't be afraid to tell them you are embarrassed.

I hope you will give talking to them a shot.

Answer 3

First of all, you are not stupid. We all make mistakes. Speaking as both a woman and a parent, I really think you should just be honest and sit down and talk to your dad about it. You have nothing to be embarrassed about, you're human and as a parent, I am sure your dad understands that young girls have feelings, crushes and all that. The best relationship you can have with anyone, friend, relative or parent is good communication. You might be amazed to find out that your dad is not only a good listener, but someone you can trust not only to confide in but to give you good, honest advice.

Answer 4

Your dad knows you are a teenager and you're curious about boys. I doesn't sound like he found anything in your personal writings to be upset about or he would have said something. I know you can't talk to your dad about everything, but I'm sure if you wanted to, he would.

Answer 5

If he has any brains at all, he won't tell anyone.
It will just make him think "my little girl's growing up!"
Might result in more supervision, because he will want to protect you from guys who would use you or hurt you.
Since you ARE growing up, it'd be smart to start doing your own loundry. Silly letters won't ruffle him as much as a pair of sexy thong underwear, trust me on that.

Answer 6

Ah, yea...that's pretty embarrassing... first of all, I'm 14 too and wut I wud do in this situation is confront him about it and go on about stuff like personal space and privacy! I wud be furious mostly, and tell him so, even if it's embarrassing. Try not to be bossy or make him think ur telling min wut to do, but argue your case! It's so unfair for him to go through your stuff, and really, if u want him to not ever go into your room, volunteer to do ur own laundry. I kno it sounds stupid, but I do my own laundry myself and it really isn't that bad. Just make sure he never has a reason to go in there again! Good luck!

Answer 7

according to what an somewhat super proportion of Catholic clergymen have been accused of interior the previous, i might stay away from that concern except you like the pervy old priest guy pastime that seems to entice.

Answer 8

Well you could try and use this as a way to have a more open relationship with your father, if that is what you want.

Answer 9

You go up to him and grab him by the shirt collar. Then you kind of grit your teeth and tell him he better NEVER EVER tell anybody what he read. Then you grab him by the cheeks and ask "GOT IT?". He will probably be laughing so hard he won't even care what it said. He probably wont tell either.

Answer 10

I can see how that could get pretty embarrassing, but if there is someone you do trust to tell these things to, THEY could talk to your dad for you so you won't be so embarrassed!