Parents: Would You Let Your Daughter Smoke?

Question

If your teenage daughter came home one day reeking of smoke, what would you do?

Answer 1

omg i remember when i was 14 i was grounded because my parents found cigarettes in my room i was supposed to be grounded for a month because of this however i still continued to recieve an allowance during this time i actually had a friend buy them for me and throw them up on the roof outside my window and i would climb out there and get them and throw her the money. so here i was grounded for smoking and they caught me smoking in my room well they decided that i was too stubborn for their punishments to make me quit and from then on i was allowed to smoke as long as i did it downstairs instead of in my room since they were afraid of me burning the house down with one of my makeshift ashtrays many years later i quit smoking and have a daughter of my own i know in about 10 yrs i may go through this with her, but unlike my parents i just dont think i will be able to give in to stubbornness while i do not in any way fault my parents with the habbit i picked up and had such a hard time quitting, i am determined that i will at least try a little harder to make her quit and i sure as heck will not allow her to do it under my supervision

because of the health risks as well as the fact that it is illegal for her to smoke i would do everything in my power to make her stop even if it meant making her life miserable a friend of mine had a mother with an interesting idea that actually worked she caught her smoking so she went out and bought a pack and at dinner she offered her a smoke well after she smoked that one she made her smoke another and another until she bacame quite ill she never smoked another one after that i guess it must have been a pretty awful experience she didnt want to repeat

Answer 2

Smoking is bad for you, but that's not your question. If your parents are smokers, then I see no reason for a 22yr old daughter not to smoke with you. She's going to do it anyway behind your back. Of course it would be best for everyone to give up smoking - it's a dirty habit and I as an ex smoker must say that I would never again kiss a smoker's ashtray tasting mouth... not being nasty, but truthful. Non smokers will agree with this all the way so think about it while you smoke.

Answer 3

I would ground her, take away all her privileges, lecture her on the dangers of smoking, show her some pictures and really put my foot down.
Ok, now for the realism. Most teenagers are going to try drinking, smoking and drugs at some point. They know the dangers, they are aware, but they are teenagers and think they're invincible. I honestly think the best thing to do is not to press the issue too much. That's not to say ignore it, but honestly I think the rebellion is half of the appeal. Take away the angry parental reactions, and give her a calm, quiet, "wow, that's really disappointing. I've always thought you were smart enough to say no". Then tell her that you want her to really think about what she's doing to herself. Ask her how cool she thinks it will be in 10 or 15 years time when she's completely addicted, with no health and no money.

Answer 4

I'm answering this as a girl who's mother let her smoke. Let her. Don't bother telling her the risks, she won't care. Don't bother taking her privileges or grounding her or whatever, she will only rebel more. She will find a way to smoke either way. What my mom did was come to an agreement with me. She lets me smoke one packet a month (20-25 a month) and I respect that, I don't go over the limit. She also lets me smoke more at parties but I'm not allowed to smoke in the house. I'm 13, there are days when I don't feel like smoking and sometimes I don't even smoke the whole packet a month. Don't prohibit it cuz that will only encourage her, control it and set boundaries but you have to let her trust you. If you don't let her she will do it in secret and possibly do even worse things, you have to make sure she's honest with you. If you do ground her for it, make sure she knows it's because she lied or hid it from you, not because of the smoking itself

Answer 5

My mom gave me permission to smoke. She said she'd rather I do it in front of her than hide it from her.

I think it was one of the biggest mistakes she ever made raising me.

I love her very much, don't get me wrong. I'm also an ex-smoker now.

I would NEVER give my teenage daughter permission to smoke. If she came home smelling of it, I'd ask her why. It's always possible she was around smokers and not smoking herself. I would however, stop letting her spend time around these other smoking teenagers, and if I found out she was smoking, I'd do the force her to smoke a whole pack trick. If it continued after that, privilages would be taken away.

If she wants to smoke when she's old enough, fine. But not while she's living under my roof!

Answer 6

I would search everything she owned and then ask her point blank if she's been smoking. If she lies the first time, then she will have VERY VERY strict consequences as in I will know everywhere she is (which will be school and home, that's it), who she is with, and what she is doing at all times until I could trust her again. If I catch her, oh boy I would loose it. I wouldn't beat her, but I'd make her smoke the whole pack one after another until she puked. Sounds mean, but you know what it's what happened to me and I never wanted another one to this day.

Answer 7

I smoke. So it's hard to deny some something you enjoy yourself fully knowing it's bad for you. However, now days she could be doing worst things.you can't stop it but control it.
My rules of control: grades shall be above 2.8
Smoke only virgina slim 120s & must use a leather cigarette case. These controls work until they get in 20s.
Will cure under age smoking. Trust me.
Teach her smoking edicate.

Answer 8

I would confront her about it and asked if she had smoked. You could easily smell like smoke if you go to a casino, a club, or just hanging out with friends that smoke. I have never smoked, but often smell like it because of where I've been or who I've been around.

If she did smoke, I would inform her of the effects of smoking: aging faster, cancer, danger to future children, asthma, loss of taste, etc etc. (giving examples, such as people you both know, and the negative effects they have had also helps). Then, after explaining why it is bad to smoke, enforce some sort of punishment such as being grounded, or searching together in her room for any cigarettes and throwing them away together.

Answer 9

I'd probably do what a friend did with his own teenage daughter when he found himself in your situation. He took her to a rehab clinic for people who are trying to quit smoking. He had her speak with them and he made sure she knew of all the risks that come with smoking.

Answer 10

I would probably make her sit down and smoke several cigarettes in a row until she got sick. I remember when I was about 8 and my sister was 7 my mom made both of us sit on the couch and smoke a cigarette just because we thought it was cool. Out of six kids me and my little sister are the only two that NEVER smoked.