My older brother just moved out not that long ago, and I really miss him. Although, even before he moved out, we weren't really that close. But we were really close when I was little. So now I barely talk to him. Now I keep having these dreams that he's dead, and I cry in my dreams, and wake up crying about it. And to make it worse, sometimes during the day, when he is not here, I start to think he really is dead and feel empty inside and in shock. But then I realize he's alive and just not here. Please, help me, why is this happening?!?!
2007-08-05 08:47:24 · 17 answers · asked by Jade 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Are you close to your dad? Tell him what's been going on. Spending some extra time with him might help.
If your not close to your dad it possible that your older brother represented a "dad-like" figure so your missing him is even more intense.
In any case, find an adult to confide in and spend A LOT of time keeping your body active. It will help your mind to relax.
:)
2007-08-05 09:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Autumn C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have separation anxiety.
Even though your brother and you may not have been really close, him not being there is a big change. You have to realize that change is a part of life. It may be difficult but soon you too will move out and have to start your own independent life.
I suggest you call him and talk to him. Ask how he is doing and don't be afraid to tell him how you feel. If you keep yourself closed off completely the emotions you are harboring will only hurt you more and more.
Good luck!
2007-08-05 15:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just missing him.
My dad traveled when I was around 11. I cried and thought he was dead. It's natural to think the worst, but most times there is no need to worry.
Does you brother have a telephone? Maybe you could call him (once a day or every other day) just to check on him. I bet the two of you would continue to have a good relationship if you did this. Or he could call you. Just let him know how important it is to you that you keep in touch.
It is all part of growing up. Relax. He is okay and so are you!
g-day!
2007-08-05 15:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by Kekionga 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, siblings almost always leave an effect on their brothers or sisters. I'm twelve too, so I can probably relate to your situation, since I have a sister. Try not to think about your brother in pain. Just becuase he's not there doesn't mean he's dead. Don't overreact!
This may sound cheesy, but I love my sister. She's always there for me. Even if you're brother is a bit distanced from you now, you can always think about what your relationship was with him before, trust him. Trust that he's not going to get himself killed just by moving out.
Being twelve really doesn't matter much, maybe it's the prime time of your life, I dunno. Be happy!
2007-08-05 15:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by suzuka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are your brother will be fine. The dreams probably represents the distance that you feel from him both physically and in your realtionship with each other. Google dream dictionaries, those may help reassure you a little. Most dreas do not have a literal meaning images and vents in dreams often represent other things.
2007-08-05 15:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by tvgeekgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People deal with change in different ways. In time you should get over the fact he isn't there, or it may be that deep down you want to be as close as you were - you can't, because people grow up and you will soon enough. You could try calling him a few times a week or emailing?
Hope things get better...
2007-08-05 15:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by BBaller25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try and reconnect with him. It's your relationship that has died. and this is your subconciouse mind's way of telling you this. If you want the dreams to stop you have to eliminate the cause. If you got back into a closer relationship with your brother then you'd probably be having dreams of you both doing stuff together and having fun. Or you could be psychic.(but i doubt it)
2007-08-05 15:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by TodboT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're feeling guilty about the opportunities you missed to have a closer relationship with your brother.
I suggest you tell him about the dreams. As he reassures you, the two of you will become closer, and that should clear up the dreams.
2007-08-05 15:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aw, well, you truly do care about him. You've lived with him for 12 years, and now hes gone. You may not have realized it, but he was a big part of your life. Try calling and telling him that, it may help you quite a bit. I know you don't want to do that, but it really will help.
2007-08-05 15:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by marielle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dreams are just our mind's attempt to deal with our feelings.
You are going through a difficult period of separation.
Is there any way you can write or contact him?
Try keeping a journal/diary of your feelings.
2007-08-05 15:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by Robert S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋