She never let me be social since they came from pakistan. But i'm american born. I baraly get to go outside, and when I do, its with my cousins. And the ones shes thinks are "good". I am 17 now and I want my own life!! But thats not even what im anoyyed about. Since im not social i play video games in my room all day. and my mom keeps busting down my door and yelling for no reason. she tells me to turn off the game, so i said i want to go to the amusement park with my freinds tommorow and she gave the "look" to me. I swear i dont get it. She tells me my chores and yells at me, when i do the chores, and i go to mom tell her that im done with my chores she says " do whatever the hell you want with your life i dont care". so i found peace at night time. i stay awake just on the comp or tv. yesterday she caught me up at 2 o clock at night just on the computer. she made the biggest deal out of it woke up my dad and everything. plz help i dont want her to take my nighttime away too now.
2007-08-05 08:32:43 · 11 answers · asked by Waqas A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My dad is very good man hes always been nice to me. but when my mom starts nagging he just yells at me so she will stay quiet. i have 2 sisters one older one younger my mom never even checks up on them at night. my sisters phone bills are usually around 400 dollers and she gets away with it. i swear my mom just has a thing for me and when i try to talk to her she just gives me attitude. she uses reverse psychology saying im stupid and wont be successfull in school. but its not helping.
2007-08-05 08:35:32 · update #1
It sounds like your home life is less than desirable.
You shouldn't take what she says about you to heart.
She could be afraid of losing her little boy...even though your not little anymore.
sometimes adults are just so hell bent on making their kids lives perfect that they don't realize that sometimes its just unnecessary to put so much pressure on you.
Maybe you could try talking to your dad about it, tell him whats going on maybe he can tell her to calm down about things like that. Tell him your getting older and that you feel like your mom is trying to take complete control over your life, and that you need to be able to make your own decisions.
I hope you can find some peace.
Good luck.
2007-08-05 08:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your Mom is worried about you. Sometimes parents can be controlling when they fear losing "control". I'm sure your Mom loves you and wants the best for you. The world is scary at times, and in her mind, she is trying to protect you. Of course, you are getting older and need more room to roam about and explore independence. Tell her what you want and how you feel. Let her know that you are 17 and will eventually have to go out to College, etc., and make your way in the world, and if she doesn't allow you to breathe a little, the transition is going to be much more difficult. Ask her if she wants you living at home until you are 45? If she says no, then ask her, well how am I going to learn to make it in the world if you keep me locked up inside with no social life. Ask her why she doesn't want you going out. If you can come to understanding eachother, life might be easier for the both of you.
2007-08-05 08:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is of a different culture, things are very different over there, she knows that pretty soon you'll be leaving home and she doesn't know how to deal with it. bide your time and make her happy, do what you can do to keep the peace and when your out of the house then you will have time to experience the world. there are some jobs out there and if all else fails there always the military (which shouldn't be that much different then home right now) you get yelled at a lot in the beginning but they feed you, clothes, train, and you get paid pretty well these days. just an option
tc
2007-08-05 08:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by tencar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 10:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why your sisters get away w/what they do, but you aren't allowed to do anything. This is NOT fair to you at all. Have you come rite out & asked her why do you get one treatment & your sisters another? Ask her how she would feel knowing she was being discriminated against. If you're 17, you no doubt have one more yr. of school to go. One more yr. & then you have freedom. When you get out of school, you can at least get a job, any job just to be able to get out of the house & start putting whatever money away you can. Start saving whatever you can & put it away in your "freedom pot"!!! Your means to get out on your own & be able to live your own life. You are staying up a bit late tho, 2:00 is pushing it w/them. I think midnite is late too, but maybe you can try to cut your computer time down a bit. You've got to admit that in all honesty. You certainly don't want to loose that too! Just try to do what you're asked & you'll be back to school soon & at least able to get out of the house for awhile during the wk. Hang in there.
2007-08-05 08:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mom is having a hard time trusting you. Try showing her that you are a responsible young adult and deserve some privileges. It looks like it's a habit of hers to always nag at you. Talk to her and your dad about it, good luck.
2007-08-05 08:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by drama_queen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
join a sports team at school and have a good reason to be out of the house for a while each day
2007-08-08 11:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough and I don't know if there's much you can do right now since you are under 18. Good news is you don't have long before you can be on your own, making your own rules and decisions. Good luck.
2007-08-05 08:36:43 · answer #8 · answered by The Curmudgeon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
every person in the fam has a fav to ur mom its ur sissters but withur dad its u..........and ur mom.the same thing happens to me here. just egnore her and lie ur life she said she does not care.or tell her how u fell but ik how parents can be they dont listen to u when ur trying to tell them something if she does not listen then u should not listen and acording to the law u can move out and control urself after the age of 16!!!!! sooooo. i hope i helped.my mom can be the same way trust me!
2007-08-05 08:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by Miranda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are 18 you can leave home. Until then you have to listen to your mother. You will find out that living on your own isn't that easy.
2007-08-05 08:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋