If your dad tells you to shut up and settle down if you talk to someone else, or whisper or talk to the dog in a polite way. Or if you step on a sticker and say Ow he says "knock it off!"(in other words shut up you stupid b****)
You're not hyper you're just minding your business and you get hurt and upset and feel like crying. How to deal with this??
You are now 22 and they controlled and manipulated you to the point of you not being able to get your drivers license, nor a job, nor a place to live except there. They're nicer to your brothers.
Suggestions?
2007-08-05 08:32:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
please be nice and no harassment.
2007-08-05 08:33:40 · update #1
They won't even let you get your driver's license.
2007-08-05 08:38:43 · update #2
Move out and make it on your own,hold your head high.
2007-08-05 08:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by hillman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 22 years old and you have all these problems, I am inclined to believe that there is something else wrong with you besides a controlling parent. Is there, perhaps another reason that you are not allowed to have a drivers license and you feel the way you do, you should speak to a counselor or someone that can help you make decisions as a grown up because that is what you are. After you are 21, you should be able to make your own decisions, or get help from social services so that you can make your life better. You should be working and out on you OWN by now. Get help from an outside the family counselor.
2007-08-12 17:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get HELP. tell a friend. tell a counselor. TELL SOMEONE. You need to keep in mind that the only way you can get through this is to be determined to make a better life for yourself. You are the only one that should have control over you. The only way someone has control over you is because you let them. You deserve respect and to be treated like a human being. I know it's hard to stand up for yourself after so many years of being pushed down but your 22 now and you should realize that you have to stand up for yourself to have a better life. Good luck in life. I hope this helps.
2007-08-13 05:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no dealing with a person like this. You need to get out, move in with a friend or somewhere. Get a job, take a driver license class and make it on your own, show him you don't need him. Best of luck to you.
2007-08-05 08:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if your county has help in finding you a job and a place to live. Their are a lot of older people who need someone to be with the and help out.
2007-08-10 14:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has this habit been occurring of their relationship? it somewhat is totally related to that your son-in-regulation is so controlling, that severe it comes off as abuse. that's advisable to look at an intervention of varieties with a competent therapist to coach him basically how risky his controlling habit is. i'd remind him, very, very, gently the subsequent time which you shut to him and your daughter, which you recognize how spectacular your daughter is yet you will must have some mom-daughter time along with her. additionally, remind him which you in basic terms get to ascertain her for one week out of the twelve months and he has her for something of the twelve months.
2016-10-01 11:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult, no-one has the right to control your life, but you! Move out- even if you have to go to a shelter temporarily. This kind of control is abusive, and degrading. It effects your self esteem. Get out of there, get on with your life, and leave your dad behind..you don't need him. If you have problems with self esteem get councelling, and realize it's not your fault he's like this, you haven't done anything wrong. I wish you luck!
Teej.
2007-08-05 08:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by Teej 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would start studying and get the drivers license and start with job and get out of there or better yet go to place to stay and get moving someone will help you and you will be fine after awhile.
2007-08-12 14:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your an adult, you don't have to take that. Move out, get your liscenses. Do whatever you would like. By law he can't control you anymore.
2007-08-05 08:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by BreezeGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋