should my 18 year old pregnant daughter help me with the housework?!?

Question

She worked for her dad now she stays at home with me whilst she is on maternity leave, she is staying at home with the baby, she doesnt pay any board, and she just sits around all day whilst i clean the house, and look after 5 children including her. Opinions plz

Answer 1

maybe the father of her baby should provide maid service for his woman and child.
Dont you think?

A real man would take care of his wife and kid

Answer 2

Hi there,

I was pregnant when i was 18 too, but whatever age she is makes no difference!

When i was pregnant i had my own home and i worked until i went on maternity leave but my husband was working full time so i did have to tidy and clean my own home as i had no one else to do it for me!

I did feel really knackered (as any heavily pregnant woman does) for the last few weeks of my pregnancy and i did take it easy but still had to do the basic household chores as i had no other option!

My hubby did help me out though in the last few weeks of my pregnancy but even if your daughter is quite heavily pregnant she can still do the less strenuous chores like folding the clean washing, doing the cooking, washing up etc. if she doesn't she will find it very hard to cope once the baby is born if she's been sitting and relaxing for so many months, then has a new baby to look after and care for!

I understand how you must feel but just say to her, she's lucky your there for her, she's lucky you've allowed her to stay with you for FREE and she should do a few things around the house to help out and earn her keep!

My son is now three and i don't think i'd have coped if i went from lounging around having someone do everything for me to suddenly having a new baby to look after 24/7!

good luck with your grandchild-to-be! and congrats to your daughter!

Answer 3

Wow, I'm 36 weeks pregnant....can someone come and do all my housework please?!!

Sounds like she's living in the lap of luxury...she can do SOME household chores. You can do the ironing sitting down to prevent backache (this helped me!); you can still clean a bathroom (it takes me a little longer but I can do it!); the only things I have to get the other half to do when he's home with me is changing our bedsheets and emptying the washing machine and dishwasher (backache sometimes stops me bending-even from the knees!) Some chores may be harder if she's late in pregnancy, such as vacuuming.

Yes she can help out-although, watch out for labour coming, I've been told that some women begin nesting which is when they go on the cleaning rampage at home-you could come home one day and the place is spotless, lol!

Seriously though, she needs to get off her behind-let her know that the more active she is in pregnancy, the easier labour is as she will have more energy levels, be fitter in herself, etc.

I feel great through staying active through pregnancy. Now I just want to get the birth over with!!!

Answer 4

she needs to be paying board if she has any income, and she needs to be doing her share of the housework. She is pregnant, not dying. Giving her a free ride will not help her to become an independent, contributing member of society, or a capable mother. Does she know other moms her own age ? How does her life compare ? If her dad is letting her get away with being a lazy little sod, then he must be asked if he wants to keep it up forever. The longer she is allowed to do nothing, the more she will expect it.Try and get her to go to a young parents group. Should be groups around for teen parents, which shouldn't bore her stupid. I hate to think how she's going to look after the baby, or will you end up doing it ? If so, you'd better tell your daughter that it will call you mom.

Answer 5

Confused a bit here... You said she is pregnant and on maternity leave and that you look after her. Sounds like she is on leave before the birth? Is she on bedrest? Does she have any medical reason why she cannot be actively participating on maintaining the home? If not, then she should be doing SOMETHING. If she is just uncomfortably pregnant (been there done that myself four times now), then she can still help around the house with light housework, folding laundry, whatever. In addition, if she is just sitting around waiting for birth, then she is not doing herself any good by not taking care of herself physically beforehand. She needs to be active and keeping herself in good shape to prepare for labor and birth.

Good luck, and I wish you both well.

Answer 6

She can so house work as long as she isnt doing any heavy lifting. She will get tired after a bit and want to sit down that is normal just to much sitting is lazy in my eyes. I would tell her that if she does house work it will help her out when she is ready to give birth Doctors ask for women to walk around well walking is in the housework. So Either you can wait tell she is in the nesting mood or tell her she needs to do her part. Let her know that being lazy isnt a good thing and let her know how you feel about what she is doing just because its moms house dont mean that house work is taken care of. There is only a few things she cant do unless a doctor says she cant. So I would give her a piece of your mind on how you feel about all this but not to much for stress isnt good for her. You can also let her know that after the baby comes she will contenue doing her part picking up after the babyand herself. Or you can start helping her get on her feet since she is 18 now she can have her own place and have her own life if being lazy in her house is what will make things happen I guess she should do it all on her own. I was on my own with my first and it was hard to deal with life and trust me it was a kick in the butt for me. I am now 28 married and I have 2 kids(5 and 8) one of them with my husband and I havent gone back home once since I was 18. Its your house so you should let her know what needs to happen or she can have her own life it maybe tough love but many women do it all over the world.

Answer 7

hell yeah she should help. I lived with my mom when I had my first baby and I was 19 and once I healed a little bit more and wasnt so tired I cleaned the house while she was at work , did laundry, cooked sometimes , all while taking care of my baby by myself during the day which was a little scary at first because it was my first child. She helped with buying diapers , but I was on WIC and I got child support and I had to pay her. Not rent specifically but for food, or gas money sometimes. Just because she's a new mom doesnt mean she's bed ridden or nothing unless there's she's sick and has to stay in bed. She's a big girl now and needs to help around the help since she's staying there for free.

Answer 8

Absolutely. She needs to learn how to take care of herself and the baby, and can learn a lot from you. If she doesn't pay any room and board, it should be required of her (and all your children) to help out around the house. Give her a short chore list. However, while pregnant, it shouldn't be too strenuous, and shouldn't involve strong chemicals in enclosed spaces (eg cleaning the bathroom with bleach). Sweeping, doing dishes, maintaining her bedroom and picking up around the house is a great place to start.

Answer 9

Of course she can give you a hand. She was "responsible" enough to get pregnant wasn't she? Tell her to do some sweeping or vacuuming. Just have her avoid any aerosol cleaning sprays. They could harm her and the baby.(Your question is confusing though.The title says she is pregnant, and the details say she's on maternity leave meaning she had the baby.) So if she's still pregnant, have her do light housework like sweeping, vacuuming, or cooking dinner.

Answer 10

Yes, why even ask? Tell her to get busy. You're the mom, she's still living at home=she does what you say, or she's out. Good luck. Keeping active will help her have a healthier pregnancy, so don't let her use that as an excuse. She could definitely work a job up until the day she delivers, as long as it involves no lifting, and as long as her pregnancy has no complications where she is to rest according to doctor's orders.

Answer 11

Unless she has been given orders to take things easy by doctors then of course she should help out. If she were in her own place she would do it. You probably cleaned your house when you were pregnant, so why shouldn't she? In fact, I would say that being 18 makes her even more fitter to be pregnant and help with the cleaning!! Tell her to get off her backside and start acting like the responsible adult she is about to become.