My hubby's family called on the way back from Chicago & asked if we would drop everything we are doing to have a final dinner with them. Since they are leaving for Texas in the morning. Now, I would not mind if I had my car, because then I could eat dinner & leave. But my car is down, & I must rely upon them picking us up & bringing us home! Hubby did not even ask me, the heat outside is almost 100,& he told them ok! He was just griping about needing work clothing, & me getting them done! WHICH is outside on the flipping HOT sealed shut, NO air conditioning back porch! I am 8 months pregnant & our son has asthma, & we were told to NOT be out in it. NOW, he makes plans for us to go out in the heat just to be with them? I mean I have seen these people enough this week! ALL DAY, Tues, until Midnight & all DAY Wed...until again almost midnight! Isn't that enough? When do I get to see my ELDERY folks? Why is it ONLY his family?
To me it is NOT fair.
2007-08-05 08:09:56 · 9 answers · asked by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
NO, his parents do NOT understand. It is there F'ING way or the highway.
I do not know how many times I have told these people that I am busy, have plans, Dr's Appointments Ect...& I am made to cancel ALL of that...including time with my family JUST to be with these ....I WILL NOT SAY IT...but you fill in the blank!
So, NOW tell me that I am an unreasonable A z z HOLE.
2007-08-05 08:57:58 · update #1
BTW- people, I am not whining or being like a spoiled brat...I am in pain! DANG IT!
Also, I think that I deserve respect & I am not getting it. I have to respect them, but NEVER do they respect me or the way that I feel.
They DO get everything that they want, even by my changing my days around for them, When all I want is to stay and get things done at home so hubby does not chew my A Z Z out for not having clothing to wear.
If you found out that you are 8 months pregnant & have a heart condition, wouldn't going to see the DR be more important? NOT to them, I was basically ordered to clear my whole week, including my Ob, heart & Back DR.
This is why, I am NOT WHINING!
But very upset that my health, my baby's health and that of my 9 yr old with asthma...is NOT considered in anyones mind other my own.
2007-08-05 11:00:46 · update #2
It isn't fair. If you don't want to go, tell him you and your son can't physcially go! Don't put yourself, your unborn baby and your son in jeopardy.
Also, if you want to see your family, when the weather permits it then go!
2007-08-05 08:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by BreezeGirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My opinion is your being childish, Your in-laws must live out of state so if they are only in town for a short time you should of had this time already planned to spend with them (I'm sure they let you know when they were coming ahead of time). You say it's hot and you have no air conditioning you think you would look forward to going some place with air conditioning to eat. It is up to you to make sure you see your folks or they could come visit but you can't blame your husband for wanting to see his and giving him a hard time about it. I Agree he should of asked you first but maybe he thought what would be the problem of having dinner with them before they left after all when is the next time he will see them. How would you feel if something would happen to them after you told your husband he couldn't go? I DON'T MEAN TO SOUND MEAN I'm just on the outside looking in by what you told us here.
2007-08-05 16:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can understand how you feel but considering they are moving to Tx in the AM you should allow them to see their grand child one last time before they go. I understand that you are 8 months pregnant and it's HOT!
My in-laws live in Tx & we live in Co... That's still too close for me! But, they will be out here at the end of the month (hubby arranged without telling me). But I'm ok with this because they have not seen our 3 kids in over a year and it's not fair to my children if I say no...
I think you just need to suck it up one last time and just let them know you have a lot to do they must take you home early. Stand your ground with not staying out all night long because you can do that. If they get upset they get upset but you are the pregnant one that has work that needs to get done at your home.
Good luck!
2007-08-05 15:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by Susan Goodknight 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like you are just having a gripe session. Look at things logically, you stay home and do the laundry and let them go to his parents house. Instead of whining like a baby!
2007-08-05 15:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sgt Little Keefe 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Miss Midnight, Gosh hon I am mad ! It is not fair and not right ! If I could I would come and take you away. Some people just don"t get it and I am so sorry ! I will pray for you !
2007-08-06 15:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So don't go.. explain to him that you have things to do (such as HIS clothes) & you're 8 months pregnant, your son has asthma, & the doctor told you guys not be out in it... surely his parents will understand.. :-)
2007-08-05 15:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by erica 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When you are 8 mos pregnant it is ALL about you.
When a child is sick it is ALL about them.
Tell your hubby it just isn't going to happen (the dinner with relatives).
2007-08-05 15:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by Puzzler 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
doesn't sound too fair to me either.
but i guess you can't always have your way, you know? and look at it this way-- they'll be leaving in a bit, so not too much worrying in the long run.... although it's kinda iffy why they're so hellbent on torturing you.
2007-08-05 15:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by HK3 Soul Smash 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off the hubby should consider the son, plus "YOU". Yes MAM i would be saying
"no".
2007-08-05 16:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by grandmabobbi 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋