i have no social life,please help?

Question

i seriously have no social life,im 14 and my parents are so overprotective that they dont let me out of their sight for a second,my friends have parties and they invite me all the time but i turn them down knowing that my parents wont ever let me go.i cant even see my boyfriend anymore because of them.please i need advice.

Answer 1

you could try telling your parents how you feel. talk to them and say how you want to hang out with your friends and your boyfriend more. i dont have this problem with my parents, but im pretty sure, from watching my friends who have this problem handle it, that if maybe you just talk to them and explain your point of view ((dont yell, just talk calmly)) maybe they'll back down a little, or at least see how you feel. im 14 too. i hope this helps. good luck.

Answer 2

If my daughter had an internet name of sexibaby at 14 I know for a fact that I would NOT let her out of the house.

I know that nothing I say will sink in, as you are 14 and you know WAY more than I do at 36.. BUT since you are mature enough to post this I will answer and HOPE that you are smart enough to at least take it in.

I know that kids today are getting more adult privileges than years ago; however you also have less and less substance to your childhood. Kids are left to run rampant because parents are NO LONGER able to be parents. If a kid does not like a rule, they claim abuse.. if a kid does not want to do something they may even have the guts to go after their parents. Not too long ago before Columbine, snipers and the Menendez brothers.. the world, while not perfect produced responsible, respectable children. Today, the kids appear to have the upperhand. Now, I do not condone abuse, but there is a HUGE difference between abuse and discipline.. Your parents are doing the best they can and if by the Grace of God you are able to make it through your teen years into adulthood and have children of your own you may just realize how much your parents tried to keep you safe. I am sure you are quite versed at 14, but trust me you have SO MUCH TO LEARN. There are certain things you simply cannot rush.. sure you can have sex, smoke or drink or whatever but NONE of those things sanction you into adulthood.. time is all that you experience... let things come, do not force growing up.. WAIT. Trust me you will have enough time to deal with life.. Enjoy the time of not having to pay the mortgage, buy the groceries - balance work, family etc. Be a decent kid.. and be ok with being a kid.

I am sure you will not take my advice, but in the slightest chance that you do.. I wish you the very best.

I have come across so many 14 year old girls that thought they knew it all ... unfortunately when I found most of them, they had been so ruined by cruel opportunists.. that they were merely shells of what used to be a decent 14 year old kid. Most would say that if you think you can make it on your own - GO.. but I've seen too many girls raped, beaten and just plain ruined to encourage you to leave. If you think it wil never be you - think again.

Live like a 14 year old.. get rid of the boyfriend - and enjoy who you are today.

I hope you can somehow grasp the very mature idea that each stage of life has its ups and downs and that the less time you rush - the more time you'll have later for life.

I wish you well.

Answer 3

Ok, so it's the end of the world since your parents are trying to calm you down while you are discovering life.....You are only 14....what's the big deal????
I couldn't do alot too when I was that age..but I managed, and turned out fine....
I think you are trying to keep up with the Jones' and think you need to have a b/f, and what comes with that....Your 14...Not 17....there is a big difference on your outlook, although some kids still don't see the light until later in their 20's....
Your parents are trying to let you know that you need to slow down..not go to parties, not go and do it with your b/f, and not get into trouble before your 15.....Just relax....Life will be there for you when you are 18 too....then experience it...but by then, you will have slowed down alittle and your brain will take over, not your hormones now....I am telling you this since I and many of my friends have experienced this firsthand.....It's really better what your parents are doing...and you will thank them later......Trust me Please!

Answer 4

What are the reasons your parents won't even let you go to your friends parties? Do your parents know your friends? If they don't, maybe it would be a good idea to bring them to your home so they can meet them & see what good friends they really are. Yes, they are being over protected, but that's not fair to take it out on you so you don't even have a life w/any fun. Don't they see what they're doing to do & how much it's hurting you. Everyone needs to be able to get once in awhile to be able to enjoy themselves. If they don't stop, they're going to put you in a depression & then they'll really have a problem on their hands. I think if they could only meet some of your friends that might be a big help to you. I don't understand why they are going over board w/the protection situation. This is not good nor is it healthy. You didn't give them reason to not trust you did you? If not, I'd just try to explain to them it is hurting you inside & upsetting you that you're not allowed out at any time. Ask them what they are afraid of. What do they think you're going to do or what is going to happen to you if you're not right there w/in their site. It's a wonder they don't put a camera on you to watch your every move!!! I agree w/you, that is NOT fair of them. Another thing, if you aren't allowed to get out & about, how are you going to learn to interact w/others when the time comes for you to get out in the world. You need to know how to act around others & by keeping you pend up, they are not contributing to helping you become a normal person. Try to appeal to them that the way you're being treated is NOT normal.

Answer 5

i had the exact same problem when i was ur age. i followed all the rules until my senior year. then it was party time for me. sit down and talk to them about it. i know my parents and urs too have good intentions on trying to keep their daughter safe from harm, but i think it does more damage than good. i don't think they should let u do whatever u want but u do deserve some freedom. it could really backfire on them. it did my parents cuz when i finally "broke out" i was uncontrollable and did a lot of things i regret now that im older but understand why i did them.

Answer 6

Bring social life 2ur house. Make parties, do outdoor activities with ur parents thru clubs and so on. Communicate w/ friend thru internet. Don't break down the rop w/ outside world.

Answer 7

Tell them that they need to give you a little breathing room. You're not a child anymore and can live without them holding your hand every second of every day. Of course, that doesn't mean going against their wishes, but try to earn their trust. Don't do anything that might hurt their trust in you.

Answer 8

Hi.My mom and dad were the same way.You need to tell them that your growing up and they need to let you go.Not saying you need to be off the chain but you need your space.Your a young lady and if they trust you they know you will do whats right when there not around!Keep your head up it will get better it did for me!

Answer 9

tell ur parents that u want to be more social! tell them that they had the chance to be overprotective when u were younger but now that ur older u need to have a little more freedom

Answer 10

talk to a school councilor. talk to your parents if there are parents at these parties I do not see a problem. If there are ask them and tell them if you would like to talk to the parents this is how? Show them you ar trust worthy it is earned not given.