I am really unfamiliar with wedding etiquette and need help1 We have been invited a a friend's wedding that is a few hours away in a tourist community and will need to be staying overnight. The reception invitation states "Adult Reception". Does this mean no 12/13 yr olds?We have a 12.5 yr old daughter who we've always taken to weddings and such. We will have to find childcare for our 5 yr old boy and will do so...but, Also-I have a baby that is still nursing and is a very quiet/calm baby 9 mos old-Does this mean no babies either? I'm confused and too embarrassed to ask the bride or groom.
Thank you!
2007-08-05 07:44:29 · 16 answers · asked by Jenn 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It means no children (no one under 18). Chances are they want a nice night that's stress-free for all of the parents they're inviting. Also they may only have ordered enough food for the adults. You could call and ask about your older daughter, but definitely don't bring the young ones. I'd store some milk up for the babysitter to feed. They may be recording the ceremony and even well behaved little ones can make a fair amount of noise when it's least expected. I would take it as "join us for a grown-ups only reception". They should have been more specific on their invitiation.
2007-08-05 08:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by dolce 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would assume that adult reception means no one under 18. If she allows your 12 1/2 year old then what about the person who has an 11 1/2 year old? Or one that just turned 12? There is no need to call the bride or groom; the invitation is very clear. Adult reception means just that-adults only and no one would consider a 12 1/2 year old an adult, regardless of how mature she is . Babies definitely need a babysitter for a wedding. It doesn't matter how calm a baby is-they are completely unpredictable and he/she could cry out and get fussy at any time.
2007-08-05 09:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by mrk21000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Adult reception means that, adults. A 12 year old is not an adult. She might be very mature, but other 12's are not, and it would not be fair to let her come, and not someone else's less mature kid.
It is the choice of the host who to invite, and the guests responsibility to get the babysitter. Or you could make arrangements for the children to be nearby, and you could dash out to feed the child. The bride and groom probably most do not want a wailing baby at the reception.
If you want, call the bride, or hr parents, and ask what the cut-off age is. But if you already will have to find a sitter for the others, I'm not sure I would bother.
Hope this helps.
2007-08-05 10:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The baby and the 5 year old - no. You'll need to find an alternative to nursing that day, store your milk for the babysitter to feed the baby with.
The 12.5 year old - probably not, but I'd ask for clarification *just to be sure*, from the bride herself. They might be having some entertainment that wouldn't be appropriate for 12 year olds, or it may be that they simply do not want any children at all there under age 18.
I'd ask the bride, that's the only way you're going to know for sure.
P.S. Don't ask the groom, he probably hasn't got a clue. It's the bride who usually puts the wedding together and makes the rules. The groom usually just sort of goes along in a hazy type of way, not really knowing all the details. The bride SHOULD have been clearer on the invitations "No children under the age of 18" or whatever she wanted, rather than just "No children".
2007-08-05 07:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If the invitation stated "adult reception" that means no one under 18. I personally think it would be in bad taste to ask for an exception. That would be putting them on the spot and they might say yes just to please you, but that is not what they want. A wedding day is for the bride and groom. You may want to ask if they will have arrangements for child care. Some people who have adult receptions arrange for a teenage relative to watch little ones in a hotel room during the reception.
2007-08-05 14:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by tinachick77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Adult reception means just that and anyone under the age of 18 is considered a child. You don't need to ask the bride or groom. If you are unable to attend because of the children then you will have to decline their invitation.
2007-08-05 09:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Adults only means just that. Your 12.5 year old is not an adult. You can ask your friend, but don't get upset or angry if your told your daughter isn't welcome. As for the baby, you'll need to use a breast pump and have enough ready for the sitter. Take the pump with you, you'll probably need to pump while away since you won't be nursing. That of course, you'll have to flush away. Being so far from home you'll have no way of keeping it chilled.
2007-08-05 17:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes call and ask them. They may even know of a place that will let you stay and bring your children.
I was at a wedding yesterday and the "ring carrier" was a six week old boy pulled in a red wagon. They had even found a formal suit for him at such a young age. He was so cute.
2007-08-05 07:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by geessewereabove 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 11:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call and ask, if the daughter is a calm and collected 12 year old she will probably be allowed on the premise that she acts mature and not running about and stuff. Adult usually means that it is going to be elegant and if your daughter is mature enough I'm sure neither the bride or groom will mind her being there, but ask just in case.
2007-08-05 07:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by Me... :) 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋