I am 21..I still live at home and work a crappy job and I go to school at a community college so I don't really have any money. I really can not take living at my house with my parents anymore. My dad is a maniac and I know he hates me. I am everything he never wanted. All he does is put me down and call me a fat slob. He calls me every name in the book...and I can't deal with it anymore. He use to beat me up, but that stopped when I was around 18..I know he would still hit me if I really taked beack to him. It is even worse now..My mom went on vacation for a week and he is treating me like complete ****. I tried to clean the house while he was at work and all he did was complain about anything he could. Calling me a fat slob and telling me who would ever want to mary a f cukin pig like me. I can't even talk to him. I have hated him since I was little..around the age of 8...he is also the most racist person in ...and my ex bf was spanish..please help
2007-08-05 05:46:30 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He just made me feel like complete **** and I have to go to work in a hour...I can't stop crying. I know I am a baby, but I can't take it anymore...
2007-08-05 05:47:52 · update #1
I am so depressed...and he is making my life even worse..as soon as I think I am having a good day..he turns around and starts with me for no reason, I don't know what to do.
2007-08-05 05:49:30 · update #2
No one should have to live with that kind of abuse
Get a better than crappy job stay in school ~ but GET OUT
2007-08-05 05:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by wanabbetter 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh gee, dad. I just won a million bucks. I am wondering who I should give some money to???
Whilst you are under his roof, you are kinda stuck. He is supporting you and I suppose he is resenting that(he probably works at a crappy job as well), still he is not allowed to batter you or commit murder. So as for being abusive there must be some kind of restraint thing that can be done there, otherwise you gotta drop the college thing temporarily(as it is a luxury) and move out.
A temporary hardship...but you do what you got to do.
2007-08-05 05:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
heyyy! All i can say is hes a verbal abuser and what not! You should know by now not to take what he says seriously, because he seems to have no respect for himself or anyone. Just work at your goals and once you can support yourself you are set, but if he tries to hurt you I feel that the police should be involved but thats up to you. You deserve much better and he has no right to make you feel inferior in any way. We should all smile every day of our lives because there is so much to live for and appreciate in life.
To be honest take his words as a challenge when he calls you "a pig". Just work at it and show him and the world that you can accomplish reducing weight, but thats a minor thing. Why do you hang out at home with him? Avoid time alone with him, because there is no need for you to be at home with this abuser. Just because he says things doesnt mean they are true and it doesnt mean you should take them seriously, so ignooooooooooooore them and move on buddy. Meanwhile look at transferring to a nice college and look for better jobs. Be active, work out, get out of the house more and dont spend time much time with him. He might be putting the being nice show in front of your mom, who cares, you are 21 completely legal and deserve the best. If you sincerely are looking for a way out, I say pray in whatever religion you are and just plan you life ahead. Have hope because you can do it and things will change for the better. Smile because you deserve it. :)
2007-08-05 06:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by Blessing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg, I so sorry to hear about that. Have you tried going to social services? I know there is not much you can do being an adult and if you did try and fight back most likely you would be the one getting arrested. Are there some relatives or some friends you can move in with at least until your dad gets some help?
2007-08-05 05:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by nonmame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! That sucks and I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Isn't there another family member or friend you can stay with till you can get on your feet? This could get alot worse and you need to get away from it before it ruins the rest of your life. Talk to the Family Crisis Center near you, they can help you out somehow. I really feel for you and hope you find the help you need. Good luck!
2007-08-05 05:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by MomOf3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can keep it a secret, and leave Jessie to deal with his father. Its really not your problem if his dad doesn't except him. I doubt that he will literally kill you, but if you do get too scared then get a pfa against him. But overall parents get over these things, I wouldnt be too worried.
2016-05-19 04:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ Alicat. Move out. You say you don't really have any money, so maybe you can find just a room to rent somewhere. 21 years of his crap is more than enough.
I got upset just reading it, so I can imagine how you must feel.
Once you are out of there, you'll feel a whole lot better even if you're flat broke.
2007-08-05 05:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to see if the YWCA can help you, They help women in abusive relationships. They might be able to help you find a shelter to stay in until you can make more permanent arrangements. If you are going to school see if financial aid can help you if you are living on your own.
Your priority here is to get out of a toxic relationship, don't focus on the obstacles, focus on getting to a better place. It may not be easy, but you can do it.
2007-08-05 05:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by Clare 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone about it. Like tell the police that he has beat you up. Then go live at one of your friends houses until you could move out.
2007-08-05 05:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by *Natalie.* :P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant let him get to you. Keep your head up high and when he tells you things to keep you down, in your head say things that turn it around. Try to ignore your dad the best you can until you are able to move out. Have you asked a freind if you can move in with them? Thats a possibility. Best of luck, I hope things turn out ok. Dont let his rude comments get to you. Keep your head up high.
2007-08-05 06:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by vw chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋